rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

Back in 2011, my aunt told me in front of everyone in my family 'Make sure you don't get to the size of a range rover when I come back from holiday' I was shocked and so embarrassed but my parents stood up by me and gave her a good reply. I cried so much that day and I was 18 years old.

Her hurtful comment changed my life as I decided that I'm gonna lose weight and get serious about it. So I successfully lost 80 lbs upto now. Now when she sees me, she says that I'm getting too skinny. Oh well what can I say? You can never please society.

how much do you have to loose?..

honestly i want to lose like 40 lbs. I recently lost 35 lbs 2 years ago but slowly gained it back ever since i moved here. I'm used to city living. I live in the country where there are not too many designated spots to workout unless you drive some place.

I live in the country as well and find it difficult to run/walk when the weather is crappy. But...when its decent...I love it. I have miles and miles of countryside to look at and don't have to worry too much about traffic or people. etc. Use what you have. Be creative and improvise. I love the episode of the biggest loser where Jillian goes home with the guy from Missouri and they work out in a barn throw around bales of hay and drag old truck tires, jump on fences, etc. Anything can be workout equipment if you look at it in a different way.

I was asked once on the train how long was I on my pregnancy I wanted to die, but I lied I said 5, I was not going to let the woman humiliate me in front of others.

I've never asked a woman that question but I have been present for that awkward moment and it was super awkward, for lack of a better description. I now employ the rule that i only ask when a woman is due if she is on the table with her feet up and the doctor yelling push. Even then i will ask a nurse in the room to make sure she's not passing a kidney stone.

ha! good man.

My Mum, when introducing me to some relatives I have not seen since I was 2 said "This is Rebecca, she is a lot bigger since the last time you saw her" Innocent? Maybe, but she is always having a go at me for my weight gain despite it being due to steroids!

Before I lost weight, when I was in India for work, someone asked me what had happened to me since a picture they had seen and why had I gotten fat. Then another told me my husband was much better looking than I was. The most offensive comments though came when I lost weight...

All in one day I heard...

"Go eat a cheeseburger"

"Bag-o-bones"

And my personal favorite shouted in a quite office building for everyone to hear... "Doesn't your husband want something to hold on to?"

I was shopping with a naturally very, very slim and petite friend, cute and blond and almost fairy-like in her delicacy. A couple of teenagers started making not-so-quiet comments about her size. I turned to them and loudly said, smiling all the time, "Yeah can you believe she used to be my size? Until the chemo." They couldn't leave fast enough. I'm kind of a B**** that way. :devil:


My husband's test wife, always polite to my face, apparently had a pet name for me at home: The Fat F***. This from a woman that was also quite hefty herself, maybe not as big as I was, but definitely not in a position to be throwing cracks like that around. Whatever. She was at her worst when she managed to lose about 30 pounds, but now it's back with interest. I make no apologies for being meanly glad about that. (See the part above re: me being a B**** that way.) :devil:

my ex-husband (still, 11 years later) makes comments about my belly, pokes me as if i'm the pillsbury dough boy, tells me i have a j-lo booty (is that a good thing? i have no idea)

my dad would make comments on how i was getting a belly. in his defense, he only saw me 2 or 3 times after i had my 1st kid (lived across the country) and i've known for years he had no filter. i gave it right back to him too.

the people who have NEVER made a nasty comment: my sister, my nieces, my hubby, and most of my friends. one friend, who is heavier than i am has made comments about "yeah right" when i said i would need a smaller dress for her wedding. but that comes from a place deep within herself of many years of trying and failing and jealousy, and i forgave her before she even knew what she had said.

This thread has gotten funny.

If someone asked me if I were pregnant I would NEVER lie and say I'm this many months. Am I the only one who thinks that's kind of an odd way to handle it?

It was just kind of a knee-jerk reaction. When people ask that I don't think most of them are intentionally being rude, just a little clueless. (Hey, they could have said, wow are you fat!) In my first case, she was the sweetest little old lady in the world... I didn't have the heart to embarrass her.

The other time it was a sweet young girl with some developmental delays, and no filter. And lets face it- I'm pretty big. But I didn't lie and cover that time; I just nicely replied in the negative. Her Dad was so embarrassed I actually felt sorry for him.

I was talking with a male friend and he mentioned that my ex was dating someone new. He said it was really weird, because she was "exactly like you, except thin." :huh:

My jaw just dropped. Wow.

There have been so many comments that I can't remember-- and I'm not that old! However, I will NEVER forget my response to some rude behavior I was subjected to while shopping one day. I was looking at some shoes when I heard giggling. I looked up and saw three 18 year-old, thin girls. They were having a field day at my expense, laughing and actually pointing at me, making "fat" gestures with their hands. I've never been one to take crap from people, so when two of them walked away,I saw my opportunity. I approached the third girl, smiled my evil grin, and quietly said to her, "You might think it's funny now, but you're going to look like just like me in 20 years." I had to turn away quickly so I didn't ruin the moment by laughing. The look on her face was priceless! And I hope she DID get fat! She was old enough to know better, and people who make fun like that are dirtbags (to put it mildly).

1)chubby
2)fatty
3)round thing
4)double chins
5)"you've become FAT!!!"

1)chubby
2)fatty
3)round thing
4)double chins
5)"you've become FAT!!!"

"round thing". That is an oddly simple insult.

I was picking up lunch in the little deli in our building and the lady behind the counter asked me when was I due???? I was mortified with co-workers standing in line with me.

I've had a coworker ask me how my workout and diet have been going I told him "pretty good, lost 20lbs since last year" his reply "really? doesn't really show"

As rude as people have been, nobody can be ruder than the guy who looks at my image in the mirror. I've probably heard all the insults, including the pregnant ones, at some point in my life. Burning shame-seething anger and the defense I eventually settled on? Joke along with them, put another nail in the coffin. The cruelty outweighs us (no pun intended) 100 to 1 but many of us have had no skills good enough to turn it into a positive. I would bet that there isn't a one of us who hasn't seen somebody really fat and thought exactly that " my God, they are fat and unattractive." We all know that being obese is not a state of healthiness but the visual always comes first and blurters, blurt and a-holes comment and parents worry and life goes on with or without us.

At some point, I stopped retreating from life and decided to claim what was left for myself. Perhaps I read too much into your question OP, but I think it brought out a lot of great commentary and caused us, or at least me, to reflect on how we got here.:flowerforyou: