When to delete inactive friends...

Go_Mizzou99
Go_Mizzou99 Posts: 2,628 Member
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I say 7 days of inactivity unless they are on vacation or something. What do you think? ... unless you are a "dead friend" hoarder - then I don't care what you think.

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  • pseudomuffin
    pseudomuffin Posts: 1,058 Member
    If someone's been gone for months, sure. /shrug

    7 days seems a bit extreme, but it's your FL
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  • myuhmaya
    myuhmaya Posts: 71 Member
    I had a friends list in the hundreds and I went inactive for many months and most of those *kitten* abandoned me!
  • Kitship
    Kitship Posts: 579 Member
    Yeah, I'm pretty lenient so I wait 3 months.
  • sch1994
    sch1994 Posts: 57 Member
    I wait around 30 days and then delete them,
  • Spewze72
    Spewze72 Posts: 82 Member
    7 days isn't long...I don't have many friends on here, I keep my FL list short and sweet so I know who everyone is, can keep,track and can be more genuine when commenting!!

    That said...if someone has been inactive for more than about 30 days I might delete them, mainly to try and keep the list current...nothing personal.
  • EmmieBaby
    EmmieBaby Posts: 1,235 Member
    I wait 1 month then bye bye
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  • greeneyes0809
    greeneyes0809 Posts: 422 Member
    I give it a month usually. Unless I have had a good amount of contact with them before, then I keep holding on in pathetic hope that they will return
  • tayloryay
    tayloryay Posts: 378 Member
    7 days if we never actually interacted at all, 14 days if there was some superficial interaction (likes, a comment or two). If I talked to them a lot before they disappeared then pretty much indefinitely.
  • yuuen
    yuuen Posts: 114 Member
    A month, if I even ever bother looking through my FL to check. I don't care, honestly. Some people get really riled up about this sort of thing and I'm not sure why.
  • rbn_held
    rbn_held Posts: 691 Member
    a month
  • sstevenson2233
    sstevenson2233 Posts: 6 Member
    7 days is a bit harsh for example I am going on a honeymoon for 2 weeks and I will of course try to check in here and there but I can guarantee it. I hope I don't lose all my friends on here because of it!!
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I find all this (damn hard to type when I see greeneyes0809 pic) friend dumping, deleting, posting on feeds people's names and should I accept them as friends childish. Everyone has their own reasons for being absence ranging from family issues, work, etc. Though you also have your rights to deleting people. However just do it, dont talk about it.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    7 days. 10 max.

    The only exception is if I know they are on vacation or in ICU or something along those lines.
  • thomaszabel
    thomaszabel Posts: 203 Member
    I give it 2 months. At 14 days, I send them a "You can do it! Come Back!" post. and message At 2 months, with no reply, I drop them.

    When I first did MFP a long time ago, I did it religiously for a month, and then stopped for about 6 months. Then got back on for a few weeks and dropped it again for more than 6 months. Now I've been on for more than 2 months, and find that it is a great place to centralize a lot of my different fitness app information. I'm utilizing it a lot more and using it to help me monitor my buildup to a marathon this fall. So I think I'm in it for a long time this time, but I do understand people dropping off for an extended period.
  • sjeagle30
    sjeagle30 Posts: 292 Member
    Why delete them at all? If they are inactive they are not clogging up your news feeds or anything? Maybe they fell off the wagon and then when they come back they will be bummed find they have no friends for support again. A lot deleted me as well when I was inactive for a few months.
  • DDsMrs
    DDsMrs Posts: 107 Member
    There is no rule on how long you should wait before you defriend someone for thier lack of activity on MFP. It's your MFP account, so whatever you feel is appropriate to keep you going/motiviated and successful.

    I usually give them a few months. But that is just my own personal preference. :-)
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Depends, did I actually like them? If so, I can wait months.

    If they were just there? 2 to 3 days.
  • Me2FitMe
    Me2FitMe Posts: 1,285 Member
    3 weeks or more... unless they have posted they are gonna be out for a bit due to life... it happens...
  • Illini_Jim
    Illini_Jim Posts: 419 Member
    15 minutes. If they aren’t constantly coddling my fragile psyche…I cut them loose.
  • Rocbola
    Rocbola Posts: 1,998 Member
    Why delete them at all? If they are inactive they are not clogging up your news feeds or anything? Maybe they fell off the wagon and then when they come back they will be bummed find they have no friends for support again. A lot deleted me as well when I was inactive for a few months.
    This.
  • myuhmaya
    myuhmaya Posts: 71 Member
    I had a friends list in the hundreds and I went inactive for many months and most of those *kitten* abandoned me!

    Stop being so inactive and they won't be *kitten*.

    Sound advice!
  • YesIAm17
    YesIAm17 Posts: 817 Member
    I only delete for 7+ days of inactivity IF the person isn't even active at all when they are around... so for example I look at my FL and see someone who hasn't logged in for 7+ days AND I don't remember having seen them log, comment, or do anything for months... BUT if they are active when they are around and I like them then of course I won't delete them for not logging in for 7 days or for temporarily not being very active for awhile.

    I don't think that's harsh... you've got to be pretty damn MIA for that to get you cut from my FL.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Depends, did I actually like them? If so, I can wait months.

    If they were just there? 2 to 3 days.

    ^ This. Still have my IRL best friends on there (though they might get the axe soon...) and a few others I enjoy. One person I think might have, er... :frown:

    And inactive friends pop up in my newsfeed with the "SO AND SO HASN'T BEEN HERE, MAYBE YOU SHOULD ENCOURAGE THEM." What, are my MFP friends Neopets?
  • crazymama2both
    crazymama2both Posts: 195 Member
    15 minutes. If they aren’t constantly coddling my fragile psyche…I cut them loose.

    this...of course
  • Sovi_
    Sovi_ Posts: 575 Member
    If someone goes three days without worshiping me I put them in purgatory. Then I verbally abuse them for a week. If I don't get at least a like, I make a trip to their homes and *kitten* slap them for their insolence. If that does not work, I finally delete them with a strongly written PM and or send them an email, kik, text and a fax. Smoke signals are only for those whom I love the most.
  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
    It depends.

    RL friends I keep for-evah!

    Good MFP friends, usually for-evah! (Charlie hasn't been on in months, miss his likes.)

    Pretty good friend, weeks.

    Someone I don't even know who it is... a few days.

    I'm almost ALWAYS around here... so I like a chatty group.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    well if your aim is to delete inactive friends I guess delete them when they become inactive. I personally sometimes go inactive when inpromptu outings occur like this weekend I got a wild hair and went out of town to help a sick relative and ended up staying. after a 5 day absence I was glad nobody deleted me. i think.

    i guess if you are trying to keep everyone active then you might issue a warnign on yoru wall that you delete people who do not stay active past a certain number of days. then they at least have the chance to PM you their excuse.
  • EHolstrom
    EHolstrom Posts: 2,563 Member
    for me, 1 month for those who never really communicated back with me, 3 months for those who supported me and i supported them and were doing good keeping up, and i keep all ppl i know IRL.

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