Who made you become overweight?

Me, myself, and Sara Lee made me fat. No one else. At what point in our lives to we accept responsibility for our actions and stop blaming our parents or our partners? They did not put a gun to our heads and force the food down our throat. I get so sick of people blaming others for their faults. Accept responsibility, learn the lesson, move on. Ugh.

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My now almost-two-year-old because it was my pregnancy with her that I gained all the weight. Horrible pregnancy - severe edema, carpal tunnel, joint issues, massive congestion to the point I lost my hearing for awhile, and I kept having dizzy spells that made it dangerous for me to drive or even walk around alone, so hello bed rest.

I didn't necessarily overeat or really eat any differently than I did before I got pregnant, my TDEE just took a massive hit and since I was a bit depressed by all the things happening to my body beyond my control and scared that I was going to lose the baby, I didn't really think about the need to change my eating to compensate for the lower activity. Oh well. I have a healthy, happy kiddo and the weight is coming off. Only lingering problem is the joint issues, but I am hopeful those will improve with time and some work.

Definately I'm in control and so it's my fault. However, I will say my mother was a mean alcoholic and my father was a compulsive overeater who I spent most of my time with. I watched him hide food (junk food -- candy, chips, etc.) from her and eat it. I saw her criticize him and his weight constantly (as she did me) . And I, admittingly, picked up a lot of the same habits as my father, whom I spent alot of time with when we would get away from my mother. I also watched my parents die 12 months from one another -when I was 18 years old -- one from alcohol abuse; the other from food (heart attack). I have suffered depression on and off over the years and was too ashamed to admit it and get help so I treated myself -- with food.

Growing up, we always ate very good and had homecooked meals and there was not a lot of junk in the house - other than when I would go out with my dad.

Kids learn from their parents/caregivers, but ultimately as we get older, we are responsible for our own actions so I fully blame myself.

I understand all the comments about personal responsibility but if you were raised to believe lies about yourself and lies about food, psychologically, even if you learn the truth mentally as knowledge, your emotions and thought paths have been already formed. So no it's not always all us when we grow up. It takes time to REALLY know then it's on you. (trust me I studied this)

For me I had the whole, born with a disability factor, when that happens, and people who have life-threatening disabilities will know this, you get people feeding you all sorts of lies "to make you feel better about yourself".
My parents were/are also incredibly emotionally unstable people. Being told I was fat and it was my fault when I was really young didn't help. As a teen I had developed eating disorders, but due to meds I never lost much weight.
Other trauma happened, more meds and I put on 20kgs in two months from those, even when I was exercising daily and eating little I still put 20kg on. Then married a man who wanted me to be thin all the time, so that's the point I take full responsibilty from that point...I started to eat out of self hatred and spite.
Still trying to get my mindsets right. That is all up to me, but truth be told no one can do this alone.

Me. I did it. I was the skinny kid growing up, but never active. I was also the picky eater so my nutrition was not the greatest. My parents encouraged me to eat my vegetables and so on, but once you reach a certain age your parents don't have much sway over that.

So I have to take the blame for being lazy and being content with that. Not being content with being lazy, but being content knowing its no one's fault but my own. And taking steps now to be active, lazy or not.

pretty sure im fat bc i didn't exercise and ate a bunch of fast food for years not caring

also to blame your parents when you're an adult it'd be like if a murderer blamed his parents for him killing a bunch of people
at some point you need to grow up and take responsibility for your actions

but in other cases like the 100lb 4 year old in the news... that's obviously the parents fault

No one but me!

That ahole in the mirror.. he is always tricking me to do stuff.

I blame myself. However, my parents came from a poor country where Skinny meant Sick and/or Poor. Fat meant wealth. So what do most poor countries eat? A lot of Rice because it's filling. A lot of beans, because they are filling. Starchy ingredients were easier to come by or grow. So even though my parents moved to the states before I was born, they already had that mentality set and we grew up around it. I want my kids to have a better life than I did growing up. So we are changing our eating habits, slowly, but surely.

No one to blame except myself. I have six sisters, we were all raised together, I am the only one with the issue with excess weight. I may have inherited a gene from an ancestor that my other sisters were fortunate enough not to get, that gave me an edge for being susceptible to gaining weight easier, but that is only an excuse. I overate. A lot. Pretty simple.

The "old" me would say ex-boyfriends and traumatic events in my life. But I know better now and take full responsibility of what I put in my mouth and how long I sat on the couch.
However, not having children of my own (yet), I do feel there is a responsibility of parents to monitor what their kids eat and to incorporate good eating habits.

My neglectful and verbally abusive parents made me fat as a child; never around, threw junkfood and mcdonalds at me rather than actually cook a meal, mom routinely spouting "Im a business woman not a a mother", and horrible diets themselves. When I was getting close to leaving the house, I dropped the weight. Never looked back at them and been fit ever since.

Want a solution to child obesity? Remember- who is the parent and who is the child. It starts there.

Honestly, i dont blame much of anyone, not even myself. my biggest problem is stress/depression eating, and i suffer from bipolar disorder. what am i supposed to say to my mom? "this mental disorder cam from your side of the family, its your fault i eat too much!" lol thats silly. and i cant blame myself for being bipolar, its not my fault either. i shouldve found a way to deal with emotions, yes, that is on me. but this habit started when i was very young, i wont kick myself for being a kid and not knowing what to do.

Ultimately, I am responsible for my weight gain & for my weight loss. Like many others have mentioned, there were also external contributing factors. Several traumas during childhood (father's suicide, mother's depression, extended sexual abuse) led me to develop an unhealthy obsession with control, which led to disordered eating habits. I scared myself & worked very hard to lessen my obsession, but my "solution" was to pay no attention at all & I became overweight. I refused to diet due to a fear of relapse, then injured my back & even moderate activity became painful. I sought treatment & was turned away... I lived with the injury for years before recieving treatment... which then had to be halted when I discovered I was pregnant! I was at my highest weight ever at this point. After my son was born, I had back surgery & was determined to get things under control, which is exactly what I am doing! It is very difficult to balance weight loss with not over-restricting, but I am carefully following a plan that does not trigger me & is keeping me on the path to health!

Me and me alone