Things People Say When You've Lost Weight

This was said to me out of the blue, by a morbidly obese cousin who suddenly dispised me when I began loosing weight (but she was fine with me when I was obese)

Cousin - "You need to gain weight. Your collar bone is showing and that obviously means you anorexic. You look gross." - I had just reached maintenance and was 135 lbs.
Me - "When you COULDN'T see my collar bones, my doctor stated that I needed to loose weight as I was OBESE. Now that I am at a HEALTHY weight for my height, you can see my colllar bones, and my doctor is VERY happy with my weight."
Cousin - "Its still disgusting."
Me - I REALLY ticked her off with this comment, thankfully seen weeks earlier on this forum, "My body, my rules."

Another "talk" with this same cousin months earlier while I was still in the "loosing" phase of my journey:
Cousin - "You know, I'm not fat. I'm big boned so that's why I am the size I am. Maybe you should accept the fact that your big boned too and should just eat, because your getting way too skinny and you look really gross." I was around 170 lbs at this time, cousin was in the 300 range.
Me - thankfully seen this comment earlier by a poster on this forum, "Bones don't jiggle."
Cousin's Husband - the second I said this, he stated, "That's right! That's fat moving, not bones, so stop kidding yourself. R looks fine so back off." Cousin had a 2yr old's tantrum and didn't speak to me for a few weeks.....thank god

Omg, teach me what you're doooooing!! How do you do it?

And then I spend a good half hour telling them EVERYTHING, and they completely disregard every word I said. Thanks for wasting my time, jerkface. :grumble:

This!!!! I am so tired of people asking me how I lost so much weight (15 pounds more than my ticker shows), I tell them I am working my butt off, literally. No one believes me and asks what my secret is implying I have a magic pill, someone asked if I had gastric bypass. I'm over it now and just happy to still be still motivated almost a year after the fact. I decided this is for me, no one else. I do tell people to going MFP and they can see exactly what I eat and do in the run of a day and had became the annoying person who posts fitbit stats on their FB profile after a few haters tried to say I was starving myself! whatever, they need to get over it and get use to me not being the fat chick anymore :happy:

The interventions asking if I have an anorexic. Please look at my open diary if you think that.

Just now I ran into a (male) neighbor, whom I hadn't seen for a few months.
Him: You are the half of what you used to be! (Greek expression for "You are shrinking")
Me: Thanks!
Him: I didn't mean that as a good thing! (Because we all know that being obese is a good thing...:noway: )
Me:.... :huh: I'm losing it on purpose...
Him: Oh, ok... :indifferent:

"You look much better. You were such a cubby little thing before".

Yes, this was said to me. They thought that they were complimenting me.

I can relate to that! I notice the 12 lbs lost and can fit in pants I could not do up in September ...but no one else sees. My husband said its so gradual....he does not notice.....
which he says is a good thing. I did have one woman who I had not seen in a few months say as soon as she saw me "have you lost weight? You look different" - that was music to my ears!

This is my first post in response to the person who wished folks had commented. Not sure what I did wrong and my reply is in the wrong spot?

Next time hit 'quote' before yo type your reply and it will post like you want it:)

how do you add the weight loss tracker at the bottom of your posts?

This older lady at work told me not to lose much more so I didn't "get that insect look".

Uh...ok...

I just say I'm on the new meatloaf and mashed potato diet.:bigsmile:

I have overweight coworkers who ask me what I'm doing only to shrug off everything I tell them as something they can't do. " I'm too tired to go to the gym." "Weighing food takes too much time." Really? Weighing out my entire lunch takes literally 3 minutes every morning. I'm going to night school 3 days a week and make it to the gym MWFSu, you go home at 5 every day and sit on your butt. How are you too tired to work out when I'm not?

My boyfriend's family is funnier because most of them are overweight and forever "dieting" and he and I have respectively lost 40 and 23 lbs since January. When they ask us what we're doing and we say "eating less calories and exercising more" they get all quiet and/or grumpy. When they say "That just doesn't work for me! I've tried everything!" I think to myself "I know you're either cheating on your diets, or not measuring your food properly."

People tell me that I'm "going to waste away" when I'm still overweight by BMI standards and can squat 70 lbs. I'm doing stronglifts and attempting to increase my weights on all lifts. I haven't seen my mother since the holidays and I'm sure she will tell me I'm "getting too skinny" and that I "shouldn't lift such heavy weights!! It's dangerous!"

bless you sweetie get better and it's all about you forget others...

I had something like this for the first time this past Friday. My husband (who has also been lost about 30lbs and is now super fit) and I were at a family dinner with his family. Pretty much everyone in his family is a bit bigger and had SO many questions and odd remarks for us.
I didn't mind the questions, I know most of them are trying or have tried to lose weight at one point or another... and I have no problem sharing what's helped me. But the odd remarks were just strange.
For instance, pretty much everything I ate was looked at and asked whether or not it fit in my 'diet'... I had a small bowl of ice cream because it fit in my calories and everyone was remarking about how it must be a cheat day and I'm indulging myself. They seemed pretty flabbergasted when I said I eat whatever I want so long as I have the calories.
I dunno, it was strange to say the very least....

I can see from the comments here, and do understand that some people enjoy others noticing all the weight loss effort and saying something complimentary. I get why, it is hard work and most of us are feeling better for it. But I think commenting on weight loss is a sticky situation to manage gracefully for most people. Not everyone wants to talk about it. I'd prefer people didn't comment. I guess in my perfect world they wouldn't notice how I look, better or worse. If I'm going to be in a situation where I'm the center of attention I'd rather it be for my character than my appearance. If we're friends lets talk about common interests, hopes and dreams, laugh about old times....but I don't really want to account for my health and fitness choices good or bad and don't feel qualified to coach others. If we're colleagues lets talk about a project, or tell me you appreciate me looking you in the eye and being honest, or sharing a clever idea, or tell me you are grateful if I've been kind....but I don't really want to talk about my weight if I'm heavier or if I'm thinner. If we're family you get more latitude, but ultimately I'm a grown up who makes my own decisions and choices about my health and fitness for me and me alone. I understand and appreciate the concern of my family but I'm not seeking their approval. Some people might not say anything because of folks like me who don't like questions that leave little social room for ignoring (like "have you lost weight?" or "are you ok?") or maybe they've tried to be encouraging at some point and said "you look great, tell me how you're losing all that weight" and learned that newly thinner person is now a chemo patient. If a friend, family member, or even colleague came to me to talk about their weight....like "my doctor says I need to lose weight and I wonder if you'd be willing to field some questions?" I'd be willing to help, but honestly then we'd be talking about their weight, not mine! I've gotten lots of well intentioned comments similar to those described here. I've gotten a few of those back handed jabs ("wow, you look so much better"). No thanks, don't really want any of it. I guess the one that I thought was best came from a colleague I have a long friendly relationship with who as we passed in the hall one day simply smiled and said "you're smokin'!" and never broke stride. No lingering for an awkward discussion just a fly by compliment that encompassed all of me not just the weight loss. That's what I guess I'd recommend because it gives the acknowledgement some would like in a way those who might be more shy about it could also manage. However, if the two are of opposite gender it might not be a good idea at all!

People don't say anything. I only lost enough to get into my weight class (8lbs) and I'm tall.