Person called me fat at the gym!

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  • FindingAmy77
    FindingAmy77 Posts: 1,268 Member
    I am sorry that happened to you. I would immediately report him. There is no way that this behavior should be allowed to continure. Who knows how many other people he insults on a daily basis. I cant see how the gym would be practicing good business methods by allowing this type of insulting behavior. I am that type of person who will report it daily until I see results. THat man is an *kitten* and there is no freaking way you will break the equipment. You should be applauded for being there, not insulted. Do yourself a favor: get some earphones immediately. Next time someone tries to talk to you, just point to your ears and put your hands up to indicate you have no idea what they are saying while making it clear you don't care because you aren't talking out your earphones. WOman I am telling you that is what I do on a daily basis and it has made my life so much more stress free. I don't really like people, especially ones tyring to mess up my workout zone. Keep up the exercising.. and don't worry about *kitten*. I wish I was at your gym.. I wouldn't be able to contain my self in front of that man. I am that type that would be always saying stuff like oh look at me, a fat person getting on here. hope it holds. and loudly everytime while looking straight at him. Don't quit.. that would be him wnning. We cant have *kitten* like that win- ever. :drinker: :flowerforyou:
  • Mygsds
    Mygsds Posts: 1,564 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I thought the same...But, then again, it could be legit.

    They allegedly went to the gym today...not tonight. If that really happened and they were that upset they would of posted earlier. Also, you join a gym trying to get healthy, you have been working out and this is your second post?

    Go with your gut instinct...not legit.

    ETA: He writes "and a man walked up to me." that's a girl talking. As a guy, you would write...and another guy said to me....or, some dude said to me...
    different time zones dumbass. the population of the entire world doesn't live in your time zone. as far as how he composed his topic, WTF are you talking about? he's a young kid (22), it's not at all uncommon - regardless of age - for one man to refer to another man as, well, a man. lol. get your head out of your *kitten*.

    Absolutely, why are you calling him a liar?Why don't you get a life and learn how to show compassion. You are a *kitten*..
  • KristenCook2
    KristenCook2 Posts: 57 Member
    It's exactly that kind of "fat shaming" that contributes so negatively to the obesity problem we're facing in this country. There you are, clearly trying to make some healthy changes, and this a**hole feels the need to come up and say that to you? Unacceptable. Don't let that troll keep you out of the gym! You match your rapidly-shrinking rear end right back in there and shake your groove thang the whole time you're working out. If he dares to approach you again, let him know that you've got an entire army of MFP's who have your back! :mad:

    <walks away muttering under her breath about self-righteous little pricks>
  • ClaudiaKho13
    ClaudiaKho13 Posts: 229 Member
    Geez! i wonder if you told him that how would he feel
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    you have every right to be at the gym. keep on going
    you should have told them thats the reason you are at the gym to work on yourself and call him an insensitive fool.
  • timmypeace
    timmypeace Posts: 27 Member
    Honestly, this really upsets me. A gym is for people or all sizes. For him to do that is so disguisting. I agree with everyone else. I would have reported him immediately. I am sorry you went through that. Do not listen to him at all. Be proud of yourself for going in there and taking charge of your life!
  • PJPrimrose
    PJPrimrose Posts: 916 Member
    You can lose weight but you can't fix stupid. I'd blow it off or report it if I felt the need. Do not use this as an excuse to stop going. This is about your health not his stupidity.
  • debrakgoogins
    debrakgoogins Posts: 2,033 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    Perhaps he hasn't posted much previously for fear that people like you will find reasons to be mean instead of being supportive. An overweight young man has probably dealt with jerks who have nothing nice to say his whole life. Great way to show them the people of MFP are different. Maybe he is in a different time zone. At 11:25 where I live, it's only 8:25 where my daughter lives and 7:25 where my sister lives. Perhaps he thought about it for a while when he got home and just figured this isn't right...I'm going to get other people's opinion who have been going to the gym for a while. Is this normal...a "should I get used to this behavior" type of question.

    To the original poster, no this is not ok. You should definitely report it. You should also ignore people who have nothing better to do than go through posts looking for reasons to not believe them.
  • JoeyTajzai
    JoeyTajzai Posts: 1,198 Member
    Just reading what you posted got me furious. That's such a low class and ***** move to make. Telling someone they're fat while they're trying to workout. If I were you honestly, this wouldn't make me wanna stop going to the gym, if anything, I would go every single ****ing day and push my body to the limit so when I get to my goal weight I can rub it in that dudes face. The guy is clearly upset and has nothing going for him, so he decides to take it out on someone who is trying to make progress. Keep your head up and move forward, let your haters be your motivators.
  • BlueOrchidMoon77
    BlueOrchidMoon77 Posts: 39
    You know, I try to stay a positive person and I don't like to use profanity online if I can help it...BUT I would've just looked at him and told him to go **** himself. Sorry if that offends anyone.
  • buzybev
    buzybev Posts: 199 Member
    Considering that I have seen online reviews for gyms I've looked into talking about there being too many fat/overweight people there, this is a believable scenario. People are just as rude and out of pocket in real life as they are on the internet.

    To OP, don't let him discourage you! You paid the fees just like everyone else using the facility. Remember your goals!
  • bellesouth18
    bellesouth18 Posts: 1,071 Member
    Don't let that jerk and any others on this site run you off. That was totally inappropriate. I'd recommend a good swift kick, too, but I don't think guys are inclined to do that sort of thing.

    Everyone has to start somewhere and do it somehow. Report the bullies and use their ignorance and stupidity as fuel for your determination. Keep up the good work!
  • nicolemviolette
    nicolemviolette Posts: 105 Member
    Thats so dumb! Dont let him get you down!! He sounds like an *kitten* anyways. At least you're going to the gym and making an effort! Would he rather you sit on the couch and not even try??
    Seriously, the gym is there for a reason. And if the OWNERS had a problem with people "your size" using their equipment, im sure you wouldnt be eligible for a membership. Keep up the good work and dont listen to jerks like him.
  • lisaanne1369
    lisaanne1369 Posts: 377 Member
    I tell him to go F--K himself and then report him.
  • PhearlessPhreaks
    PhearlessPhreaks Posts: 890 Member


    ETA: He writes "and a man walked up to me." that's a girl talking. As a guy, you would write...and another guy said to me....or, some dude said to me...
    I would write as OP did... Oh damn! I guess that means I am a girl?! OMG! Holy crap! Thank you for enlightening me! It turns out I've been living in lie all my life!

    dude, I totally would have said "so this guy" or "this dude..." hmm. Maybe I've been wrong all this years about being a girl.

    What's that saying about assumptions?:laugh:
  • DWBalboa
    DWBalboa Posts: 37,259 Member
    Sorry you had to encounter such shallowness; you should have reported the S.O.B to management. It’s obvious the P.O.S had no upbringing. Just ignore the ignorant *kitten* and move on, there will always be those kinds of people in this world; don’t waste any of your time fretting over them. Instead focus on the positive influences in your life; they will get you further, faster and without the grief.
  • Kimdbro
    Kimdbro Posts: 922 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I agree. I call Troll. Looks like a shell fake account.
  • beepaz
    beepaz Posts: 42 Member
    i would have spat on his face :happy:
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
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  • Mygsds
    Mygsds Posts: 1,564 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I agree. I call Troll. Looks like a shell fake account.

    Well who died and made you God???? Really, how can you possibly make that assumption??? So what if he has few posts, that's not the issue here. Oh, I get it you just want to ASSUME....
  • llopes79
    llopes79 Posts: 1
    REPORT HIM
  • Kimdbro
    Kimdbro Posts: 922 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I agree. I call Troll. Looks like a shell fake account.

    Well who died and made you God???? Really, how can you possibly make that assumption??? So what if he has few posts, that's not the issue here. Oh, I get it you just want to ASSUME....

    Wow such anger and hostility. lol. I can make any assumption I want, it wasn't malicious, simply a statement. I hope you feel better now that you got your ferocity out. lol. :yawn:
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,904 Member
    "Well, I'm not super happy that my taxes help support emergency services for jack holes like you, and yet here we are."
  • staceywillman1
    staceywillman1 Posts: 5 Member
    I am not defending the name caller in any way shape or form. You should report it to the manager. That being said, how old was the guy? My dad had a medical condition that after his treatment took away a good part of his brain filter that moderates what he says. We all went out to eat as a family and he told the server she would look better if she lost a bunch of weight. We all about fell over on the seat. My brother on the end found the watiress when alone and explained it and slipped her a 20 for continued good service. We never know what he is going to say and when. I am just presenting another point of view.
  • reddz12
    reddz12 Posts: 350 Member
    Wow, someone wouldn't have any functioning testicles left if they came and said that to me.

    If you see him there again, I would still report him. That is beyond unacceptable.

    completely agree! I would have smiled and said what? i'm fat? I never noticed..... then most likely would have mentioned that he should go spend some "special" time with himself. You don't need that! Keep doing you hun!
  • KariOrtiz2014
    KariOrtiz2014 Posts: 343 Member
    You should ask him how he made it to the gym because if he is so stupid it is surprising he could find his way..That is bullying and it is not acceptable. No one should comment on anyone trying to make improvements in their health, no matter what their size is. No, that has not happened to me but I am very sorry that this has happened to you. Don't let this bully win, go back and use the same machine again. I would have gone straight away and reported it, but if he does it again go and tell management and hopefully he will be kicked out.

    That is just heartless! Don't let this assh0le stop you from you continuing going to the gym! What a *kitten*, I'd be surprised if he's not divorced yet or ever last with any woman!!
  • chaemd
    chaemd Posts: 38 Member
    Everyone has some faults and some shortcomings. It sounds like you unfortunately encountered a bully of some sort - they point out other people's "whatever" to try to make themselves "look better" (they have low self esteem and look for what THEY PERCEIVE to be "faults" in others. If you're "running your race" and someone starts something from the grandstands - don't leave the track to get into it with them. You may win the argument but lose the race for getting off the track. Ignore the idiot. His words are not who or what you are. Be better than being his "verbal victim".

    This toad at the gym was just an in person telemarketer (no offense to anyone intended if that's what you do for a living) and you just have to train yourself to mentally say "no thank you" and hang up on them and refocus on what you were doing in the first place.

    I wouldn't stay away from anywhere on account of one person. Treat yourself to a really cute and colorful workout outfit, go back and have fun :-)
  • MelissaAnn1983
    MelissaAnn1983 Posts: 149 Member
    I applaud you. If that was me he would have been on the floor and I would possibly be behind bars. He should have never spoken to you that way. You need to report him. My gym as a rule about it.



    Don't stay away because of one jerk. Show back up and you get back on that machine. Fight the bully with your hard work and determination. You are better than him and will overcome.
  • chaemd
    chaemd Posts: 38 Member
    Everyone has some faults and some shortcomings. It sounds like you unfortunately encountered a bully of some sort - they point out other people's "whatever" to try to make themselves "look better" (they have low self esteem and look for what THEY PERCEIVE to be "faults" in others.) If you're "running your race" and someone starts something from the grandstands - don't leave the track to get into it with them. You may win the argument but lose the race for getting off the track. Ignore the idiot. His words are not who or what you are. Be better than being his "verbal victim".

    This toad at the gym was just an in person telemarketer (no offense to anyone intended if that's what you do for a living) and you just have to train yourself to mentally say "no thank you" and hang up on them and refocus on what you were doing in the first place.

    I wouldn't stay away from anywhere on account of one person. Treat yourself to a really cute and colorful workout outfit, go back and have fun :-)
    I love the way you think. Great response. There are a lot of great responses to this person's experience. My heart goes out to him. Thank you for taking the time to encourage him.
  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    I'd promptly tell him to go f**k himself, then report him. Please don't let this moron derail you from your progress. You have every right to be there and you have way more people cheering you on! He can't be happy with his own life, and that's why he felt like making you feel bad. It's unfortunate.

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