rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?
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I walked in on my 12 yr old son talking about me and his stepmom when he was 4 and he told his friend I have two moms, one really skinny and one not skinny... :blushing: :blushing:
Kids are brutally honest, sadly. I have 3 Aunt Debbi's (yes 3, all married to my various uncles). When I was really little there were just two. Don't ask me why, but I ended up calling them "Big Debbi" and "Little Debbi". Admittedly one was obese (idk her actual weight) and the other perhaps 120 and looked like one of the women in 80s workout vids. For some reason my family found it funny and the names stuck. I often wonder what "Big Debbi" really thought though....
I also used New Debbi and Old Debbi since one joined the family prior to my birth and the other joined when I was about 2-3. So at least she got the good one of these as "New".0 -
Well, it wasn't said, but it was done...
When I was about 16 (many years ago), I was walking near my home with a friend, a taller friend, but we were the same size. I was egged by a boy on a bike because I was fat.
I was so horrified, I didn't leave the house for a while
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My dad told me that I was fat and needed to lose weight in 3rd grade.
That is absolutely horrible. Sets you up for an eating disorder for life. I was in 3rd grade when I got sick and was in the hospital for awhile. I was a very skinny child and gained a lot of weight in the hospital. When I went back to school all the kids were like man you really got fat0 -
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Hi,
The rudest thing anyone has ever said to me is when am I due? or how many weeks along am I? unbelievable just because I am not a size 2 automatically means I'm pregnant? Plus when I was married my in-laws would constantly tell me to eat more, they would always try and put more food on my plate. Or when we would go out if I didn't finish all my food they would say " OH its so good for you to not eat all the food off my plate" Like they have any kind of say in the matter of my weight! HA! Thank god I divorced now I don't have to deal with that crap anymore. What a relief!0 -
Along with some others here, I've been asked when I'm due.
When I was like 4 or 5 my grandfather (who is all around a horrible person, not even gonna get into the gritty details of that) told me my mom should put me in a cage so I couldn't eat anymore. Also had my siblings telling me I was fat constantly when I was very young.
Also, once in middle school I was having an out with a girl and she called me santa clause. Which was actually odd, because she wasn't much smaller than I was.0 -
The worst that I've gotten recently is "When are you due, or did you just have a baby?" ...while I was at the gym.
Once when I was not even fat (15 years old, 140 lbs, 5'8") babysitting a little girl she came up behind me, smacked my *kitten* and said "You have a fat bum!". I was shocked.
At around the same age my best friends mother said that I have "Big wide child-bearing hips".0 -
Well, it wasn't said, but it was done...
When I was about 16 (many years ago), I was walking near my home with a friend, a taller friend, but we were the same size. I was egged by a boy on a bike because I was fat.
I was so horrified, I didn't leave the house for a while
That sucks! I (sort of) know the feeling.
I once had one of those big gulps hit me in the back from a moving car while I was biking with my mother. We had literally done about 30 miles, and were less than a mile from home. I felt terrible about myself for months after that and backed out of most bike riding b/c it literally depressed me.0 -
I've had a *kitten* in the street shout 'you're fat' at me. Mostly it's little things.
I had some guy let me have his seat, it wasn't until later I realised it was the priority seat for the pregnant and disabled.0 -
And while I'm at it, there was the time I was at a little "banana split party" at a friend's house. She brought us all our splits from the kitchen and mine was last. They all looked yummy! Only problem was - mine arrived covered in ketchup, much to the great amusement of everyone there. It was because I was fat, you see, so she didnt think I should have one. And I guess she thought I deserved to be humiliated as well.
I hope that banana split ended up in that brat's face!0 -
My now husband meant it as a joke at the time, but it still hurt my feelings and self-image. "You could stand to lose a few pounds." He didn't understand how hard I was trying to lose weight at the time because of a medication that made me gain 45 pounds. It was hurtful and I've never let him forget it but I forgave him. I knew that where he is people aren't as excessively overweight as Americans are so a cultural thing is big.0
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My mother likes to say she will give me her old pants that don't fit her anymore...even though we practically weigh the same0
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http://symphonyofawesomeness.tumblr.com/post/45831433002
after reading everyone's experiences I feel like this comic is so relevant. Regardless of weight so many people are insecure about there bodies. Even people that we often envy are insecure.0 -
Once when I was younger, maybe 13 or so, I was going for a walk on the beach and someone drove by and yelled out "Keep walking, fat *kitten*!"
I have a theory that this same car of guys just travels the countryside yelling this. So we've all been yelled at by the same cursed individuals. They have no other purpose in life, but to yell horrible things at people out their windows. It's their curse. I am hoping Supernatural does an episode where Sam and Dean have to put them to rest for good.
The best part is when you can't understand them so it's just a loud "WERVEQGBWRRFG FG" as they drive by. It makes me chuckle.0 -
http://symphonyofawesomeness.tumblr.com/post/45831433002
after reading everyone's experiences I feel like this comic is so relevant. Regardless of weight so many people are insecure about there bodies. Even people that we often envy are insecure.
This is very true. When someone comments about me being fat I used to tell them their nose was ugly....no one likes their nose. Of course now I just ignore them because it's just not important enough to me to hurt someone's feelings just because they're attempting to shame me.0 -
The rudest things said about my weight generally come from my mother. I've struggled to have a healthy attitude to food for a while. The other day she walked in my house and the first thing she said was "DIET" really loudly while pointing at my belly and scowling at me like I'd just kicked her in the face. I'm going on holiday in 4 weeks and now I'm really paranoid about wearing a swimming costume in public. Which logically is ridiculous, I'm a UK size 10 and 5'9". I've put on like 3lbs the past few weeks, but nothing that should be making me feel guilty for daring to eat my breakfast.
I really think that half the time, the problem isn't how our bodies look but other people feeling the need to force their warped perceptions on to us. I'd just really like to find a nice balance of enjoying food and being active that makes me happy without other people opening their mouths cos I don't tick their personal boxes.
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"Is she anorexic?" And "Holocaust victim". But the worst came from my doctor who, when commenting on my fat ratio said, "You're pretty fat for a skinny girl." It's true, I have/had terrible junk-food eating habits and never exercise, but it still hurt.
Got that a lot. Crohn's sufferer, and it took a long time to diagnose. Always had a hard time with my weight. Was too scared to wear shorts. Now that I'm being treated I'm finally keeping good weight (and nutrients), but I have to lower my fat and raise my muscle mass. So I get dirty looks from the ladies where I work when I participate in the weight-off competition.
Thin doesn't always mean healthy.0 -
I think I've been very lucky. or I look really mean, because most of my life no one has said anything in ear shot of me. The one time someone did i was walking through a park and some Hispanic men started catcalling me in Spanish. I was getting ready to give them what-for when a guy walked by and said in Spanish, "no, no shes way too fat for you to be doing that". I guess he assumed I didn't speak any Spanish. So I said, in Spanish, the equivalent of "He's right, his Penis is way too small to fit into me". Then they all started laughing at him and he hurried off. I was so angry at what he said I forgot to yell at the men catcalling me. hahaha!
Best. Response. EVER.
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I've had a lot of comments but more recently, I had a pretty horrible encounter over New Year. I was out at an event with friends and struck up a conversation with a guy that seemed nice. Later on he wanted to take me home but I declined because I wasn't interested and he looked me up and down and said "But... for what you are..." clearly implying that because I am overweight I should have been overjoyed to have anyone interested in me at all. He was obviously only talking to me because I was "easy prey". I felt so horrible I just gave him a death stare and left. Totally ruined my night.0
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I've had a few. More recently I was walking into work and a woman (on the highway driving by) leaned out the car window and yell profanities at me about me being big. Needless to say that bothered me for the rest of my day.
Another was when I was in roughly 5th grade. My grandfathers wife looked at me and said "If you spent a summer with us you'd loose some weight."
I'm learning quickly to just let it go. People are going to poke and jab about anything different about you. Whether it be your big, small, hairy, look or talk different, its always going to be something.0 -
I think I've been very lucky. or I look really mean, because most of my life no one has said anything in ear shot of me. The one time someone did i was walking through a park and some Hispanic men started catcalling me in Spanish. I was getting ready to give them what-for when a guy walked by and said in Spanish, "no, no shes way too fat for you to be doing that". I guess he assumed I didn't speak any Spanish. So I said, in Spanish, the equivalent of "He's right, his Penis is way too small to fit into me". Then they all started laughing at him and he hurried off. I was so angry at what he said I forgot to yell at the men catcalling me. hahaha!
Best. Response. EVER.
HAHAHA! yeah. Growing up in my family, my nickname was "The Mouth" and it wasn't because of what I ate. I was always fat, but they did a good job of teaching me to use quick wit and words to defend myself against bullies. A combination of luck and being a smart a** probably saved me from a lot of bullying.0 -
I remember standing with a bunch of friends across the street and a bunch of younger guys passed by across the street ending up saying " HEY ITS FAT GIRLS" all of us were overweight and I thought that was horrible.0
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As I accepted a slice of cake from the hostess of my engagement party, someone said "Uh, you realize you're going to have to be in a wedding dress in a few months, RIGHT?"
I ate it all, anyway. Eff 'em. And by "them," I mean "my husband's grandmother."
Now that I've lost weight, she constantly grills me on whether or not I'm keeping up with it and demands to know if I weigh daily.
ETA: I totally think I already complained about her in this thread. Hahahaha...0 -
Once when I was younger, maybe 13 or so, I was going for a walk on the beach and someone drove by and yelled out "Keep walking, fat *kitten*!"
I have a theory that this same car of guys just travels the countryside yelling this. So we've all been yelled at by the same cursed individuals. They have no other purpose in life, but to yell horrible things at people out their windows. It's their curse. I am hoping Supernatural does an episode where Sam and Dean have to put them to rest for good.
The best part is when you can't understand them so it's just a loud "WERVEQGBWRRFG FG" as they drive by. It makes me chuckle.
Yeah, I got called a lard-butt one time as I was leaving my work at night. I mean, I was a little offended and hurt that they bothered me when I was just trying to go home, but at the same time, who even uses that expression anymore? It just made them sound even dumber to me.0 -
Ive been best friends with a girl since I was probably 5. When we were about 11-13 or so me and my other friends thought it would be a good idea to call her over to their house, I would hide in the closet, and they would get her to say something mean about me. It happened to be my weight and I remember her recollecting how much we ate the night before. We both had crappy eating habits but I obviously ate more of everything than her. Even though we were young and set her up to look like a total witch, it still ended up being her fault....
Another friend's boyfriend was teasing her and play punching and he said he couldn't touch me because his fist might get stuck in my fat
My nephew who was probably 6 or 7 at the time and I was babysitting said, "how did you get so fat?"
My dad said "carrying that much weight isn't attractive on a young lady". I know people knock their parents for this stuff but I know my dad was trying to really strike a nerve to get me to eat less. I was always active. It's the same as my mom constantly bribing me to lose weight. Too bad I waited until I was an adult to get healthy.
When I was a senior in high school I was probably around 230-240 and 5'10" and my friend was 5'3" and maybe 110 pounds. Some guy yelled "Why is she so fat and the other one so skinny? I know, because she eats all her food." The guys thought it was a riot but the girl takes crap from nobody so she made them feel like idiots.
It wasn't directed at me, but a few years ago my grandma saw two obese women and called them "rollers" because if they fell you could jsut roll them down the street. She was in awe more than anything when she said this.
My mom constantly calls herself fat. She's 63 or so, 5'4" and probably 140. She runs marathons and looks amazing. Whenever she says that I wonder if she thinks she's fat, what does she think whe she looks at me? So while she's not saying it about my weight, her perception of herself hurts me more than anything if that makes sense.
Sorry that was so long. I didn't realize I'd start a full on rant!!0 -
This whole thread is really triggering for my anxiety. I just keep thinking... "omg, they called her that and she's half my size... people must think the worst things about me." Truthfully, and why not just go ahead and get it out there, I haven't left my house in a really long time. I mean... a REALLY long, significantly long time. I got into a relationship where the guy didn't seem to want to be seen with me and as much as I thought I was immune to idiocy, apparently it warped me a little bit. Now, I'm afraid for anyone to see me.
I have had kids yell "get the harpoons" as I was walking into a store. I once had drunk college folk pile on the hood of my car at an intersection and start moo'ing when I was in the car with another large friend. The worst things, though, were from my mom and sister. I have been called fat, by them, at least once a month for my entire life. Even when I lost 100lbs, there were still comments like, "SoCalFatGal, you can't wear a sleeveless shirt, that's gross."
Thankfully, I didn't have horrible bullying experiences in school. Only a few guys ever called me fat and the main one who did so actually got ridiculed by others in my class for being mean to me. I never let my weight limit me and I stayed active and mostly happy until about 3 years ago. The last 3 years, however, have been the worst of my life. That relationship I mentioned; it turns out he was struggling with untreated depression. I just internalized that as my problem and it broke me.
For what it's worth, I have funny fat girl stories too. I worked with kids for the majority of my career. Out of the mouths of babes... I try to take my perspective on my size from those kids. It's just one aspect of me... that's all they saw and remembering that helps me on the hard days. Thank you for sharing your stories. For all of you with the painful memories, I'm so sorry each of you went through that and I hope, sincerely, that it never happens to you again.0 -
"Youd be so pretty if you lost some weight" .. It kind of hurt, a lot, cause it just told me that my weight is the only thing anyone sees about me. I remember my aunt when I was in 1st grade was the first person to tell me that I was no longer a "STICK" As in, I was getting chubby. Never forgot a single time that anyone has made any rude remark about my weight. Those things stay with you0
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Yesterday I was talking to a co-worker about how I hide my $200 running shoes when I leave the dog home alone so he doesn't chew them.
The guy laughed and said "what do you need with $200 shoes?"
I replied "well I workout 5-6 days a week - it's important to have good shoes".
He laughs again and says "you workout? it sure doesn't look like you workout".
I couldn't believe it. This guy is my "friend". So hurtful. And since I met him two years ago I have lost 40lbs - I'm only a few pounds higher than what is recommended for my height and I have always carried it well. His comment completely ruined my day but I'm trying not to let it discourage me overall. It gets hard sometimes when people are cruel, but I'm not getting healthy for them - I'm doing it for me
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Yesterday I was talking to a co-worker about how I hide my $200 running shoes when I leave the dog home alone so he doesn't chew them.
The guy laughed and said "what do you need with $200 shoes?"
I replied "well I workout 5-6 days a week - it's important to have good shoes".
He laughs again and says "you workout? it sure doesn't look like you workout".
I couldn't believe it. This guy is my "friend". So hurtful. And since I met him two years ago I have lost 40lbs - I'm only a few pounds higher than what is recommended for my height and I have always carried it well. His comment completely ruined my day but I'm trying not to let it discourage me overall. It gets hard sometimes when people are cruel, but I'm not getting healthy for them - I'm doing it for me
try to comfort yourself with the fact that he most likely didnt mean to offend you. people are just thoughtless or try to make jokes without realising that they are hurting/offending someone. thats no excuse for what he said but a different way to take it in.
also: he probably didnt pay attention to your weight loss because he thought you looked fine before already.0 -
it's funny because when I visited Boston a few years back I was walking around and this random butt-hat walked by me and said "hey fat girl". I felt like crying but I didn't want it to ruin my vacation, so I just moved on. But it totally stung.
Let's not forget all those "relatives" who "quietly" encourage you to lose weight. just shut up.0
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