rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?
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"Youd be so pretty if you lost some weight" .. It kind of hurt, a lot, cause it just told me that my weight is the only thing anyone sees about me. I remember my aunt when I was in 1st grade was the first person to tell me that I was no longer a "STICK" As in, I was getting chubby. Never forgot a single time that anyone has made any rude remark about my weight. Those things stay with you
THIS! All.the.time. My mom said that to me when I was 11. Never forgot that0 -
It wasn't even 3 weeks after I had my first child and I ran into some old high school people and they were quick to point out how much I had changed and "Wow you still have at least 25 lbs to go before you get back to where you were" all while snickering.
Being 20 at the time and still roaring with pregnancy hormones It really messed with me.0 -
I've got plenty on this one. But the one that sticks out the most in my mind is where I had gotten some new glasses or a hair cut or something, honestly I dont remember the change. And I asked my idiot ex if he noticed anything different and he said "I dunno, you don't have a big plate of food in your face?" Yeah, smooth a-hole. And I was only like 10-15lbs overweight at that time, but barbs like that are the reason I am now about 140lbs overweight. It made me feel so bad, I dove into eating more.
The worst part is to this day he claims he was just trying to be funny, but he's just not a funny guy.0 -
Yesterday I was talking to a co-worker about how I hide my $200 running shoes when I leave the dog home alone so he doesn't chew them.
For me, on top of the fridge works. Little sucker can't get up there or push it and knock them off.0 -
You mean your boyfriend didn't stand up for you?! I think I would be more pissed off about that than I would if she said that comment. Some people are just nasty and mean. She probably has some insecurities and is just pushing you down to her level so that she can feel better about herself. That sucks, Im sorry. I would have lost it if someone would have said that to me. It shouldn't matter if your overweight or underweight or normal, people shouldn't call others out on there flaws. Cause everyone has them.0
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My sister used to be married when I was in my pre-teens and early teens. I was a bit chubby back then, but nowhere near obese. I remember my mom bought frozen strawberries from the grocery store and they were awesome. I was eating one while sitting on the couch and got up to get another one from the freezer and he said, "that's why you're so fat." Yeah, strawberries was why I was fat. Idiot. I ended up not getting another strawberry because it embarrassed me that he said that. Nowadays, I'd get a handful of that babies.
His brother came to visit us once and he got a kick out of calling me fat as well. We were sitting outside on the porch and, I don't remember his exact words, but he basically said I was like a huge beach ball and then proceeded to imitate a beach ball bouncing across the pavement. A few months after he went back to where he came from, we found out he was dating a girl that was well over 300 lbs. The irony...
Honestly, they are the only people that have ever said anything about my weight to my face. Like I said, I was just a bit chubby. My highest weight at my current height of 5'5" was 165 lbs, and that was well after these guys said those things to me.0 -
I had an uncle who called me Chubs from the time I was 8 until I graduated high school. I was a normal size child until I hit puberty.
There was a really obnoxious guy at a New Years Eve party that loudly asked, "What are lookin at Chubby?"
Once in high school, I was trying to do an exercise video. My stepdad walked in and made some comment about whales. I promptly turned off the video and told him how mean he was. To his credit, he never made a comment like that again. Really, he and my mom had not been married long and I just don't think he knew how to treat a teenage girl.
I was at a baby shower a few weeks ago and the girls grandmother asked when I was due. Then my grandmother proceeded to say that several people had been asking her the same question and she finally had to ask my mom. I couldn't be mad though, because I know they weren't meaning to hurt my feelings. Plus, I'll admit, I do look pregnant. Almost every bit of my extra 40 pounds is in my belly.0 -
instead of congratulating me she said " that's good..gives you less time to eat"
She said this in front of my boyfriend and her husband and they didn't think anything of it. I felt like i had gone insane.
Wow, what kind of backhanded compliment is that?! I've been through the wringer in elementary, middle, junior high and high school to the point I was homeschooled and graduated for my last three years of high school. Lost 75lbs before starting college and guess what?! The outside may have changed but the inside is just as important. Be so confident in your body and your life that it puts HER on the defensive. Don't put up with other's bullying you for being YOU and instead, achieve and rise above them like no other.
Also, bring the fattiest, most sugary concoctions you can make to all the holiday and family occasions and insist she has one every time. When she says no, tell her she's being very rude and unamerican. See how she feels about that.0 -
This whole thread is really triggering for my anxiety. I just keep thinking... "omg, they called her that and she's half my size... people must think the worst things about me." Truthfully, and why not just go ahead and get it out there, I haven't left my house in a really long time. I mean... a REALLY long, significantly long time. I got into a relationship where the guy didn't seem to want to be seen with me and as much as I thought I was immune to idiocy, apparently it warped me a little bit. Now, I'm afraid for anyone to see me.
I have had kids yell "get the harpoons" as I was walking into a store. I once had drunk college folk pile on the hood of my car at an intersection and start moo'ing when I was in the car with another large friend. The worst things, though, were from my mom and sister. I have been called fat, by them, at least once a month for my entire life. Even when I lost 100lbs, there were still comments like, "SoCalFatGal, you can't wear a sleeveless shirt, that's gross."
Thankfully, I didn't have horrible bullying experiences in school. Only a few guys ever called me fat and the main one who did so actually got ridiculed by others in my class for being mean to me. I never let my weight limit me and I stayed active and mostly happy until about 3 years ago. The last 3 years, however, have been the worst of my life. That relationship I mentioned; it turns out he was struggling with untreated depression. I just internalized that as my problem and it broke me.
For what it's worth, I have funny fat girl stories too. I worked with kids for the majority of my career. Out of the mouths of babes... I try to take my perspective on my size from those kids. It's just one aspect of me... that's all they saw and remembering that helps me on the hard days. Thank you for sharing your stories. For all of you with the painful memories, I'm so sorry each of you went through that and I hope, sincerely, that it never happens to you again.
this has post made me irrationally angry. I sincerely wish I had been walking through that store when they were heckling you, to painfully motivate them to a better appreciation of their actions. If you are on this website, you have already decided to take steps in managing and controlling your life. Chin up, lady; the hard part is yet to come. When you want to quit and can't see the light of day beyond the struggle. That is when you need to shut your eyes, turn off your mind and your worries, and push through anyway. Succeed. Best of luck.0 -
A part of me is spiteful and I want to lose weight because of a rude women who makes snide comments at my weight.
This women is European and she thinks all Americans are fat lazy and uneducated. She married my boyfriend's brother and she would constantly talk about my weight.
One of the craziest things shes ever said to me was when I told her I got a second job. I was so excited to have another source of income because I was really struggling for some time.
instead of congratulating me she said " that's good..gives you less time to eat"
She said this in front of my boyfriend and her husband and they didn't think anything of it. I felt like i had gone insane.
Tell her to go back to her country! Lol.. Say "me don't understand what you are saying"!! Lol ???? that's just so cruel!!0 -
My first car was a Acura. My brother told me that I was too big for a small car like that. Ever since, I've had SUV's! ????0
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I was told "Well, at least you have a pretty face....."0
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I had to have an emergency hysterectomy about 13 years ago. The day after the OP my obgyn came in to check me. Looked me dead in the eyes and said I owed her a massage for having to hold up my FAT for 2 hours while doing the surgery. The nurse stood beside her was floored! Jaw just dropped.
After i recovered i found a new Dr.0 -
How far along are you? :sad: :sad: :sad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:0
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i really dont think there is much i have not been called :brokenheart:0
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A girl I considered a very close friend made a scene in front of a large group of our friends that no one should hug me because I'd break in half and went on to loudly comment that she didn't understand why I always had dates because who would want to date "a twig." I later came to realize it was a product of her own insecurity, but at the time it was incredibly hurtful.
If I had a dollar for every time I've been called "skinny b!tch" by a total stranger I could take us all out for milkshakes :noway:
Try to let the comments roll off your shoulders OP, people can be nasty but it's up to us to rise above that.
See, I am glad you commented because everyone thinks that heavier people are only harassed about their weight. It's not true obviously. We live in a society where people think if you are fat it's because you over eat and are a slob. Or If you're skinny its because you are bulimic and take pills. I had a few lady friends who were naturally thin and people started vicious rumors about how they threw everything up to be thin. Jealously makes people do some rude things
I know Its best to let it go. Deep down I wish I could have corrected here there and then but i know the only way i can stick it to her if to lose my weight and own it proudly.
Glad to lend a different perspective :flowerforyou: I learned pretty quickly that people will try to tear you down for just about anything, and the best thing to do is hold your head proudly knowing you're happy with yourself. Personally I hold very little significance in my appearance, I think building yourself up through accomplishments such as education, internships, jobs, leadership positions, volunteer experiences, the relationships you build with others, etc gives you a much stronger foundation for self esteem. Once you've got that, ain't nobody got time for other folks slinging rude comments at them! Keep on keepin' on, OP!
I wish I had that. I do in theory, but not always in practice. 3 years ago I graduated with 2 Master's degrees - it was 2 advanced degrees in 3 years and I EARNED them, I didn't just coast by like some of my classmates - and I remember thinking it would have been more impressive if I wasn't overweight. I was able to sort of step outside myself and reflect on how idiotic that was - 2 Master's degrees! Yay me! What was I even talking about?! - but the body image insecurity was still there.1 -
I used to work in an old people's home, an elderly gentleman once asked me 'when are you going to drop?' I was only 23 and completely mortified! 0
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The rudest thing that hurt me the worse was "you must eat like a pig. You'll die a horrible death because its difficult to treat someone of your size." This was a horrible coming from a Dr. and it cut me deep. It drove me into even a worse situation of despair where I was feeling totally helpless and useless. The things people say can be worse than rude.0
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I have been heavy my entire life, so when I was in the sixth grade I was probably almost double the weight I should have been. I joined the school safety patrol and one school night I stayed over at a friend's house who lived near the school. The next morning I walked to school early for my safety patrol duties and didn't think anything of it until later in the day. One of the other kids on safety patrol with me told me that the adult in charge of us kids for the safety patrol group had seen me walking to school that morning and, in front of all of the other kids, she laughed and said "I can't believe she's actually walking to school!"0
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Is it possible that he meant "you don't look like you work out" meaning you always look professional, or "formal" or something else -- not the "jogger type"? and nothing to do with your health? I think a lot of poor communications are misunderstandings. I get a lot of kidding when people see me in jeans - because I never wear "yard clothes", I don't own sweatpants, etc. Regardless, the answer to all of these posts is of course to ignore what other people say and love yourself as you are, where you are, and make decisions from there. There will always be people who don't like you. period. It's a trap to think that you need other people's approval.0
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The rudest thing that hurt me the worse was "you must eat like a pig. You'll die a horrible death because its difficult to treat someone of your size." This was a horrible coming from a Dr. and it cut me deep. It drove me into even a worse situation of despair where I was feeling totally helpless and useless. The things people say can be worse than rude.
F***ing hell! I hope you reported them!! 0 -
It's sad to think that the people who are the rudest to me in regards to my weight are always my family members. Older people who you never see except on special occasions. The most recent insult was something along the lines of "Oh no! I'm behind Alexis I hope there is food left after she's done!" (we were at a memorial service and there was a small buffet). Wow, really? I know you think it's funny, but it really isn't. And they all wonder why I don't like them... baffling0
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I had to have an emergency hysterectomy about 13 years ago. The day after the OP my obgyn came in to check me. Looked me dead in the eyes and said I owed her a massage for having to hold up my FAT for 2 hours while doing the surgery. The nurse stood beside her was floored! Jaw just dropped.
After i recovered i found a new Dr.
OMG. What a douchenozzle.0 -
When I was a freshman in HS the boys in my gym class called me "211."
I never knew why until one day it hit me like a ton of bricks -- that was my weight from the fitness testing. The (male) jack@ss we had for a gym teacher had posted all the girls' results in the boys' locker room.
When I was pregnant with my son and I was approaching 211# I had such incredible anxiety and I was dead set against gaining anymore weight. It took a while, and I wasn't even sure where the feelings were coming from at first, but my loving husband and amazing Dr. helped me through it. It speaks volumes that something said when I was 14 affected me so deeply that I was willing to risk my unborn child to avoid those feelings at age 34......
(Not to worry, all is well. Healthy, happy baby and Mama!)0 -
People think if they are rude to you then it would motivate you but most of the of the time it does more harm than good.0
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I've been overweight since I was a kid so I've had my share of the “fatty/fat and ugly/fat cow” etc. comments over the years, but one of the more memorable ones occurred a few years back when I was working in a hospital. While working we had to wear these plastic aprons; now these things don't do any favours to anyone, but if you happen to suffer from backfat (which I do, along with every other type of fat...) they are the devil's invention.
So I am working one day when suddenly one of the nurses says, loudly and in front of several people “You look like Batgirl with those wings” (this, of course, being a reference to said backfat). She then proceeded to snap the apron string that was tied behind my back for extra emphasis.
I guess it was at least creative... :huh:0 -
Well I suppose in high school, when I wasn't even fat just curvy (I've had d-cups since at least 14) I got some pretty negative comments from other girls but never boys. In fact, guys usually thought I looked great.
I think that is just part of high school life, girls can be extremely catty and really unsupportive of other girls, especially in groups. (Just keeping it real)
Anyway, if someone called me fat today I could care less because I am. Lol! That's why I'm trying to lose weight.
But if someone called me fat and I wasn't I would be annoyed because that is the kind of crap that causes eating disorders.
It's not good to be overly obsessed with being skinny, and the people that think you need to be a skeleton or have a "thigh gap" are on crack in my humble opinion.
Now, those people who are just naturally skinny and have a thigh gap or whatever, more power to you. I don't really care if someone is overweight or skinny because it doesn't really affect me at all. So in other words, people that shout about it or make nasty comments about fat or skinny people are just trying to take out whatever's wrong with them on the inside on someone else's outside that doesn't concern them. This is usually what insecure, or shallow minded people do. As a people I would hope we could be a little more intelligent than that but that's how it is.
That's my analysis, and I'm out.0 -
there was this guy, a perfect stranger really that i kept seeing when i walked my dog and one day he comes up to me and says "oh youve lost some weight" so i said "no not really, ive always been a size 8, occasionally 10" and he says "nono you were like a 14 a while ago, but dont worry, it looked good on you, i liked your butt". so patronising! thanks a lot.. -_-
while i realise a size 14 isnt huge it is still insulting when someone claims you are/were larger than you really are/were.
i was SO annoyed with him and he would not believe me! Oo wasnt even any of his business.
edit: converted to US sizes wrong before0 -
When I was a kid I used to go get my grandma's groceries for her and pick up her newspaper. The store would have everyone's paper laid out with their name on them. I brought her groceries in and had forgotten her newspaper. She called the grocery store where my mom worked and told her "That fat and forgetful Diann forgot my newspaper!" I still laugh about it to this day.
In 8th grade a boy told me he didn't vote for me as cheerleader because no one wants to see a fat cheerleader. I said "no one must want to see a fat basketball player either since you sit your *kitten* on the bench all the time" :laugh: I won a place on the team. 218lbs of tumbling fun.
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