Childish deletions

Has anyone had friends on here that have deleted you for no reason?

Yes one girl who didn't agree with the amount of time I was putting in for one type of exercise lol...so she deleted me :laugh:

Hahaha that's the silliest thing ever!!

Has anyone had friends on here that have deleted you for no reason?

Do you mean because they just didn't give you a reason? There's plenty of reasons someone could feel like deleting another person. They don't interact with you that much, you post a lot on your wall and they're tired of constantly seeing things, they just don't want to be "friends" with you any more.

I go through my Facebook every few months and I periodically delete people that I don't interact with, I'm not really "friends" with or who I'm tired of seeing their constant crap showing up on my news feed (really, I don't care what color your kids poop/puke was and how many times they did that today). The people that I delete obviously don't know they're deleted because they've never come back to try and re-friend me or to ask me why. *shrugs*.

Why would you care if random people from the internet delete you?

The online "Friends" concept is an interesting one. It says a lot about how our idea of friendship has devolved.

Maybe it's a term started on Facebook? I don't know. I'm not on it.

In actuality, unless we decide to meet in person and develop an ongoing face to face relationship, none of us are friends. No matter how friendly our online interactions are. And I'm not dismissing friendly online interactions. I like them.

The bottom line is, if a gal finds a lump in her breast or if a guy wakes up and discovers gangrene on his balls, these online "friends" aren't coming over with chicken soup and a DVD. They won't be taking your call at 2 a.m. to walk you through the panic attacks.

We're words on a screen.

That's about it. And we can still have fun with it.

But friends? Support? <eyeroll>

Huh.

While I haven't brought over chicken soup and a DVD to anyone, I HAVE actually done the 2 a.m. phone calls for people I only knew online. I've been the go-to for more than one person going through a very difficult time and been happy to do it.

Most of the people I've "met" online live very far away and meeting in person isn't convenient or easy. I have met a few of them when one of us happened to be in the other's vicinity. I've introduced online friends to real life friends and they've become friends.

I have a couple friends in town who I met through here and I'm actually going to one's wedding next month. We exercise together, get together for girls' nights, do races together and they have become friends with my local circle, as well.

I'd say my definition of friendship has not devolved one little bit. It's actually expanded.

You know what I think is childish? Whining about being unfriended by a random Internet person. Few things about this site annoy me as much as all the hand-wringing over being deleted from someone's friends list. Even posting the names of people who delete you so that the rest of your friends can tell you how much better off you are without them reeks of middle school. Seriously, some of you need to get a life.

Besides, if the person was that good of a friend, then you ought to know how to contact them outside of this site, and you ought to have enough respect for them to try to resolve the matter privately and spare the rest of us your emotional breakdown.

Yes.

Might have but I don't really pay attention.

Close friends are different. I would only consider someone I meet with in person to be a close friend. If I have someone I consider a close friend, I would miss them terribly if they suddenly disappeared. And no, they aren't many.

Exactly my point. I'm not saying I'm super close to everyone I "meet" online, but the percentage of people from online who have become closee friends is about the same as the ones I meet in person all the time.

There are people I meet in person (not online first) who I end up being very close to and some who are friends for a little while and then disappear and others who I meet once and never interact with again.

Just like online ...

That said, there are people I have met online who have been my "friends" through places like this and then on FB who I have never met in person, but I've known them for almost a decade and definitely feel close to them in many ways. If they lived closer, we would meet in person no doubt.

So to say online friendships are superficial and real life ones aren't is silly. They're very, very similar.

Close friends are different. I would only consider someone I meet with in person to be a close friend. If I have someone I consider a close friend, I would miss them terribly if they suddenly disappeared. And no, they aren't many.

Exactly my point. I'm not saying I'm super close to everyone I "meet" online, but the percentage of people from online who have become closee friends is about the same as the ones I meet in person all the time.

There are people I meet in person (not online first) who I end up being very close to and some who are friends for a little while and then disappear and others who I meet once and never interact with again.

Just like online ...

That said, there are people I have met online who have been my "friends" through places like this and then on FB who I have never met in person, but I've known them for almost a decade and definitely feel close to them in many ways. If they lived closer, we would meet in person no doubt.

So to say online friendships are superficial and real life ones aren't is silly. They're very, very similar.

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I'm still trying to figure out how someone gets deleted for "no reason." I mean even in the most silly example I can think of, the person doing it still has a reason.

But other than close friends, anyone I have friendly interaction with I refer to as a friend.

In the interest of not appearing contradictory, I'd like to clarify that this sentence refers to a face to face relationship.

Here on this site, as I've said before, I consider every member my Fitness Pal. And I welcome the full range of expression as declared on my profile.

That's why I don't restrict the viewing of my posts, my diary or my profile to an exclusive Friend list.

Because as I see it, I'm just words on your screen and you're just words on mine. And it can be friendly and fun indeed and I'm glad I'm here and glad all of you are here

And I don't expect you to come over with Robitussin or a cuddly stuffed animal. Or to give me psycho therapy via email. So the pressure's off

I don't think anyone starts out expecting things like that. But you interact and over time get to know people.

WAY back in 1993, in the very, very early days of the Prodigy bulletin boards, my parents got to know a group of people online and we all met up at Hershey Park and had a grand time. So I guess to me, it's pretty normal. I've met a lot of people from online in person and found that the people they were online is who they are in person and I like them just as much.

Not everyone I meet online is going to be a close friend. But neither is everyone I meet in person. Some will become lifelong friends. Some will fade away.

There are few people on my FL whose loss would hurt me, but there are several. Same with real life. I have friends I enjoy spending time with and talking to, but if they moved on with their lives and we lost touch, I'd survive. Others, I would be devastated.