What if I don't really care?

If you don't care then quit worrying about it.

Losing weight is HARD. You have to care ALOT in order to be committed to the hard work and sacrifice.

You have to be able to see the big picture. It's more than weight loss. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1254045-it-s-more-than-weight-loss

If you don't care, then you aren't ready. And that's fine. You may be more ready later.

I think everyone has been here at one tome or another. For me, one day I just got tired of the rollercoaster. Now. it's just my way of life to maintain a healthy weight and feel good every day. If you feel good the way you are, then don't change. If you don't, change it.

Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?

To the OP: I think there is a difference between being Happy and being Complacent. Only you will know which of the two you are. I spent the majority of my 20s carrying around an extra 10-15 lbs from college, and it slowly grew and grew and because I wasn't paying attention, it ended up being 30 lbs. It's not as much as some people have to lose, but for me it was a real wake up call. You'll choose when to care, and now may not be the time. Or you're simply happy the way you are. Either way, it's your decision.

I don't think a size 2 is healthy or attractive!!

Oh really? Interesting. So what is a "healthy" or "attractive" size?

You know, size shaming isn't really good in either direction, going bigger or smaller. People are born with a particular bone structure and a set of genetics. Can't really control whether you pop out 6'0" and a size 12 or 5'" and a size 0.

Why are you here, then? :huh:

She's trying to figure it out. Sometimes getting it out and rereading it makes it easier to do that. That's what this forum is for, support.

Someone can have all the support in the world, but if they "don't really care", then they are wasting their time entirely, because nothing will stick long term if your heart isn't in it.

If she really didn't care she wouldn't be here. Quit being a hater.

Hey Coffee freak, have you ever examined your connection to food? There are thousands of nutritionists / trainers with the most cutting edge technology and yet the country is suffering an epidemic in obesity. I am willing to bet You reach for junk to fill an emotional need. We as a society reward ourselves for everything, Birthday cake, wedding cake, business lunches, REWARDS like ice cream, candy, we dine out to court, to simply celebrate life, death, mile stones and achievements with food. You get the point but so often people turn to food to fill emotional needs or inadequacies its what society has programed you to do. How does Junk food serve your body as fuel ( lets be honest food is fuel for our body) any other explanation is a story we tell ourselves. I challenge you to seek understanding of what beliefs keep you eating crap and what beliefs would give you the body / fitness you desire. I my self don't care much about the numbers but care greatly in the way I feel and the level at which I can create. I have only started my journey but have found the cleaner I eat the better I preform and create. I want to experience this life in a body of health to live, Live Big, to never be ashamed because I was captive to a belief that didn't serve me. Is a bag of crap worth being self conscience in a bikini or do you tell yourself a story that serves you and put the crap down. My last point; Just saying you are happy the way you are is another coping mechanism you can say it but when you say it in the mirror can you believe yourself? you are your own motivation you will never experience lasting results for any other reason.

It's totally fine if you don't care. You're allowed to choose how you prefer to look. If being overweight doesn't bother you, then yay! Enjoy!

If you're happy being overweight, but are concerned about your health, then you need to find a way to make yourself care, or else you won't change your habits.

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OK now I have to respond. I too was married to that guy that couldn't gain weight if he wanted to, while I would look at food and gain. I too didn't care, and frankly if all you really have is 15 pounds, feel free not to care. But unlike you (for your sake I'm hoping it is unlike you), my 15 went to 30, 60, all the way up until I weighed in at 386. Because I didn't care. My weight didn't impact my life. While I was gaining we had 4 kids, I went to college and got my degree, started at the place I've been working at for 20 years now, got my kids through school, went on vacation, lived my life. And then one day I realized I had slowed way down and I was watching everyone else live their lives while my mobility was almost nonexistant. So at age 55 I finally decided that my excess weight had to go because it was keeping me from living my life the way I wanted to.

Point is, if it's just 15 pounds and you are fine with it, then you are fine and you have nothing to do. But if your 15 turns to 30, then wake up and fix the problem before it gets out of hand. And that husband of yours that couldn't gain if he wanted to? He will, trust me, mine did. He hits his 30's or 40's and he will start to reap all those calories he consumes now, all that junk food, all those sweets. They will catch up with him because middle age affects the guys too. For the first time since our 2nd anniversary, so first time in 38 years, I weigh less than my husband. Believe me, he was really surprised when he realized that. And for me it was very sweet!

If you don't really care now, you might HAVE to really care later. Think in terms of prevention. You don't have to have a perfect body- you CAN be happy at the weight you are at and with how you look- but to keep it that way, you can't dive into crap food whenever you feel like it just because you're not sure "if you really care".

Start caring. Caring is good.

For me, starting a healthy eating and exercise lifestyle has always been about getting over that initial two week hump where it feels like a chore. I had started and stopped several times before joining this website in January and really made a commitment to getting back to a weight where I felt comfortable before (which for me, is right at the upper edge of a normal BMI). After making it over that two week hump, it starts to feel more routine. I then gradually added more challenge to myself (more exercise, healthier eating choices) every two weeks or so. While I haven't been loosing my goal of 2lbs a week, I have been steadily dropping the weight and feeling better about myself. I think the toughest part is finding your motivation and making it feel like something you look forward to, not a chore.

So my suggestion for you. Give it a solid two weeks before putting in the towel. If you still aren't feeling it by then, maybe you are just happy where you're at!

I stay motivated by staying interested in my sport. I'm so not interested in the "perfect bikini body". Even when I had a good body as a surfer I didn't care. I was concerned with my surfing (not enough to get good at it admittedly, but I did have fun!) Most folks want the "perfect bikini body" for impressing guys, impressing friends, or having a modeling career. Aside from making good money as a model, what's the point? The human body was designed for movement. Exercise keeps you feeling good both mentally and physically. Extra weight adds up over time (women lose muscle progressively after 35) and will eventually cause medical problems. Find an activity you love. Diet and work around that activity. Learn something new, meet new and interesting people, and stay healthy at the same time!