are looks important to you?

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  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    Yes, looks are important to me. Here is my favorite look.

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  • thatonegirlwiththestuff
    thatonegirlwiththestuff Posts: 1,171 Member
    I am shallow as a puddle, so hell YES...kidding. Physical attraction is the first thing that (typically) that draws me to someone. But that ends quickly. If he's not intelligent, lacks humor, or is unkind, those things are deal breakers. Looks are just gravy.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    I guess I'm weird. I'm attracted to good conversation -shrug- LOL

    Me too! It is the most attractive aspect to me. The conversations I have with my husband, I just fall deeper and deeper in love with him (for these past 18 years). He also has a fit body (just athletic), and a sweet face and eyes. And he is so insightful and kind. He's intelligent. And so funny. Good in bed, too. Adventurous.
    Lol oh mama, that was descriptive! Sounds like you two were defo meant for each other!! I'm so happy you found someone that arouses your intellects as well as your loins! (Bahaha, see if you can figure out what movie that's from).

    :flowerforyou:
  • Sbrn_
    Sbrn_ Posts: 351 Member
    For me there needs to be an equal degree of both physical attraction and enjoyment of one-another's company/similar interests. If it's all one and too little of the other the relationship won't last very long. If you don't find your partner at all physically attractive then you'd be better off just staying friends, because sooner or later you'll get bored. If you don't care at all for your partner's personality then you'll also get bored. There needs to be the right mixture of both.
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member


    Flash forward 2 years and about 40 pounds of weight loss. I wound up reconnecting with that guy. Guess what? Now we are together. I have been head over heels in love with him for over 2 years. I asked him what was so off putting about me before. His response? "I always knew you were the one. You were just too big." Brutally honest. I went from being too fat for him once and now he tells me I am the love of his life.

    IN

    Before "OMG WHAT DOUCHE"


    Hahaha! There is a fine line. It's understandable if a guy simply doesn't find you attractive because of your size...but when he treats you badly or even...differently?...because of it...that's a different story. (Not saying that's what happened, just my observation on the matter.)

    He was a total douche nozzle when we first met. He took me out to a famous restaurant in Chicago and told me "I am gonna hit on the hostess. Do you have a pen so I can write my number down?" Wtf? Then... he told me he was going to take the train out to my area and I would pic him up. He tells me "Oh man, as soon as I got to the train station, my train pulled away." I'm not stupid. I know it was a lie. So yeah, he was a real friggin' jerkwad and he broke my heart.
    But now... we have an AMAZING relationship. I absolutely love this man and I know his feelings toward me now are genuine. He treats me very well, we have everything in common, we never fight and we just went away together - his first time doing so with a woman. In the 2 years we didn't talk, I had a baby. He has stepped up as a dad to my daughter. He really has changed. My dream was for him to tell me he loved me and he has and I know he means it now. And we have had many many conversations about what happened in the past, for which I forgive him. Forgive yes, but forget no.
  • fit_war
    fit_war Posts: 985 Member
    Are they important? Yes.
    Are they the most important? No.

    ^^^ this
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    They are very important. Deal breaker important.

    But they aren't the only important thing.
  • establishingaplace
    establishingaplace Posts: 301 Member
    Yes, looks are important to me. Here is my favorite look.

    1378215793278.jpg

    How YOU doin?
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I guess I'm weird. I'm attracted to good conversation -shrug- LOL

    Me too! It is the most attractive aspect to me. The conversations I have with my husband, I just fall deeper and deeper in love with him (for these past 18 years). He also has a fit body (just athletic), and a sweet face and eyes. And he is so insightful and kind. He's intelligent. And so funny. Good in bed, too. Adventurous.
    Lol oh mama, that was descriptive! Sounds like you two were defo meant for each other!! I'm so happy you found someone that arouses your intellects as well as your loins! (Bahaha, see if you can figure out what movie that's from).

    :flowerforyou:

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • rockky83
    rockky83 Posts: 59
    1. Face
    2. Booty
    3. Personality
    4. Boobs
  • Zelizzy
    Zelizzy Posts: 3 Member
    I agree that attraction to someone is important, and of course looks are a big part of attraction. With that being said, size and weight don't have to be the determining factor of attraction. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and ultimately comes down to the individuals perception. I've always been a "big girl" and in some aspects, that just won't change. Intelligence and conversations can be way more attractive than how someone looks.
  • sweetcurlz67
    sweetcurlz67 Posts: 1,168 Member
    I guess I'm weird. I'm attracted to good conversation -shrug- LOL

    Me too! It is the most attractive aspect to me. The conversations I have with my husband, I just fall deeper and deeper in love with him (for these past 18 years). He also has a fit body (just athletic), and a sweet face and eyes. And he is so insightful and kind. He's intelligent. And so funny. Good in bed, too. Adventurous.
    Lol oh mama, that was descriptive! Sounds like you two were defo meant for each other!! I'm so happy you found someone that arouses your intellects as well as your loins! (Bahaha, see if you can figure out what movie that's from).

    :flowerforyou:

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

    Coming to America w Eddie Murphy!!! :drinker:
  • Crimson_Fire
    Crimson_Fire Posts: 2,504 Member
    1. Face
    2. Booty
    3. Personality
    4. Boobs
    My personality sucks, but I have awesome boobs!!!! :sad: Your ranking system sucks. :grumble:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    1. Face
    2. Booty
    3. Personality
    4. Boobs

    Ha! I like this rating system.
  • love_faithfulness
    love_faithfulness Posts: 23
    How I feel about the way they look is important to me. How others feel about the way they look is not. If I think they are sexy I don't give a crap what the rest of the world says.
  • rockky83
    rockky83 Posts: 59
    1. Face
    2. Booty
    3. Personality
    4. Boobs

    Ha! I like this rating system.

    ty ty
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    Yes, looks are important to me. Here is my favorite look.

    1378215793278.jpg

    How YOU doin?

    Well if we go by this picture, I'm either doing really well, or things are about to go very badly.
  • shannabanana11
    shannabanana11 Posts: 10 Member
    For me, it's not really that important. Yes, I want to be physically attracted to a guy, but often I get way more attracted to a personality and character than I do anything else. If I thought a guy was plain before I got to know him and then as I got to know him I discovered his personality was just great, then I'll just naturally sort of start to be physically attracted to him as well.

    Pictures of "hot" men with their shirts off and things like that have never really attracted me. I need to know a lot about a person.
  • BillyJan1992
    BillyJan1992 Posts: 171 Member
    it depends sometimes but not really. all that matters to me is that they love me forever no matter what and stick with me through good and rough times together and their personality is what I like about them and that they have time for me
  • Left4Good
    Left4Good Posts: 304
    No. If i love someone i love them. I could careless what they look like or what gender they are. I love them for who they are and if they love me back. And i know God loves me for who i am also.
  • 43mmmgoody21
    43mmmgoody21 Posts: 146 Member
    Absolutely!

    Physical attraction is the the thing that draws me in . . . but it's gonna take more then that to keep me interested and wanting to stick around.


    Bingo!
  • ashesmf
    ashesmf Posts: 100 Member
    Are looks important to you? I'll be honest they are to me I wouldn't want to be with someone that I was not physically attracted to you and nor would I want to be with someone that was not physically attracted to me. I want to be desired and seen as hot. If I wasn't seen that way it be upsetting and rather hurtful. Personality is important just the same. But I like the combination of the two.

    I don't think you have to worry about someone not being attracted to you. That beard tho...
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    Yes looks are important to me to a point

    my own appearance is important to me

    and in order for me to initially be attracted to someone I have to be attracted to their appearance & then their personality has to go along with it
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Of course looks are important. But while looks like be the initial attraction, if there's nothing else, it doesn't really matter.
  • oboeadam
    oboeadam Posts: 124 Member
    Are they important? Yes.
    Are they the most important? No.

    Well said. I agree with this. Of course you need to be physically attracted to someone in order to have a romantic relationship with them, but there are far greater things that can squander this from happening outside of physical characteristics.
  • reneemosley
    reneemosley Posts: 95 Member
    A personality or trait can make someone beautiful or unattractive.

    That being said a hottie is even hotter if he has a great personality and humor.
  • 8lackie
    8lackie Posts: 39 Member
    Looks fade, stupid is forever.
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  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Ditto...

    I want the "full package"!!!

    Yup! Never settle for less than you want.

    Haha, many forever single women have this motto.
    Exactly what happened to my mother.
  • Catfriend25
    Catfriend25 Posts: 95
    Looks don't matter to me at all. I was friends with my ex boyfriend and I fell for him because of his personality, but I thought he was ugly. However, after my feelings for him changed from like to love, when I looked at his face, he looked like the most handsome person I had ever seen, despite the fact that I thought he was very homely previously. I did not have feelings for him due to physical lust; rather, I had physical lust for him because of my feelings. At the moment, I'm planning to stay single, but that's my 2 cents.

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