Goal reached. Family horrified.

Do what is right for you - to make you feel healthier and happier.

I've learned through my weight loss that family can be some of the crudest people. I've heard "You're too thin, you're going to blow away in the wind" and "Go eat a hamburger, you look like you're starving yourself" oh the "OMG you can see your collar bone, that can't be healthy!" All from family. I've put on 10 lbs since I got to my smallest and working on getting it back off, but I've learned that I didn't do this for them, I did it for me and I know I'm healthy and feel good and will keep doing what I'm doing and keep it off to make ME feel good.

With all that being said, it doesn't matter how I feel or anyone else, but in my opinion, you look amazing!

Tell them to stuff it. You look amazing, and I would guess around 18-20% BF which is perfect.

OP, you look fine. But since you posted this last week:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1274911-1200-cals-is-just-fine-1100-is-just-fine-too-if

Could it be that your family is just concerned for you?

No, they would not be concerned by my calorie intake at all, as that information was accurate; if you read the post, it continues to say that these numbers are okay if... you are short, and any calorie calculator will tell you the same. My sister is a nurse as well as also being a shortie, so she is well aware of the comparatively lower calorie requirement for short people when they try to lose weight, and we have even discussed that in the past when SHE was trying to lose weight. That post was based on calorie calculations from http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/ which most people here on MFP swear by, and they are the same calorie guidelines as prescribed several of my fitness books, all written by nurses and doctors, and in a private consultation with Jorge Cruise, he told me that short women should be eating no more than 1200 calories. Finally my doctor also approves of my calorie intake and said, and I quote, "keep doing what you are doing." Also my chiropractor is thrilled, because the weight loss has made all my lower back problems go away. I understand that certain people on FB do some scaremongering about these numbers, however the best books, online sources, and live consultations with doctor and personal trainers I have had have 100% approved the 1100 - 1200 calorie range for my height, weight, and age while I was losing weight - but that is another story in another thread!

That being said, I am currently maintaining at my TDEE - since I am not trying to lose weight, I am no longer eating at a 20% reduction. And furthermore, not a single person in my family knows my daily calorie intake, or has an idea of what I eat. They live in Alabama and I live in Denmark and they have not seen nor been able to assess my eating habits since I was last there 18 months ago - at which point they would have seen me eating barbeque and chocolate pie anyway - which is certainly something to worry about! LOL

My family's comments are made solely by the pictures I have posted on here on MFP.

I agree with a lot of people, those close to you always have a picture of you and may be shocked over loss. It’s a part of the journey to say this is the new me and I am proud of that. Personally, I feel like you LOOK great, but like a few people here, I also followed your other posts including ‘short girl intake/1200 cal’ last week as well as ‘losing weight but not inches,’ and those posts concern me. You were advised that your deficiency (while trying to loss) was too much for someone needing to lose only about 30 lbs. Taking into consideration that you family seem educated in related fields, I am pretty sure that they are more concerned about your intake, even if it’s a made-up or assumed figure.

Everybody loves weight loss but you are bound to hear some negative comments along the way no matter what your size for various reason. Personally, I lost 50 lbs about two years ago. While I was (and remain) obese, I can tell you that at the time, everybody’s comments about how ‘you’ve lost so much weight’ were all taken in extremes. With every compliment, my ego inflated and with every [slightly] negative comment, I would say these people don’t know and are jealous. While I am not trying to imply that you are sick like I was by any means, I think that you should remember that your family (unless they are out right disgusting people) is only going to tell you some things because they love you. These are things that your coworkers, neighbors and even friends won’t tell you.

While you took your time with the weight loss, which is great, I have yet to see you put out your complete stats out there for help and you completely disregard the advice of long time members/losers. That being said, I’m suggesting you do a little more research into sustainable weight loss. Example: your weight at 114 as per your ticker, estimated a moderate active lifestyle considering your activities in the OP, and you mention that you are 5 ft 1 in. Based on these estimates, I plugged them into the Scooby’s calc you like, your estimated BMR is around 1257 and your estimated TDEE is around 1948. In other posts, I notice you are eating between 1100-1200 calories which is just simply not enough to fuel your body’s needs. Then of course it turns to burning your excess fat as energy, which means weight loss. I’m all for using these calculators to estimate and then finding the sweet spot in that range since I personally eat at my calculated average BMR to lose 1 lb/month. However, you above said that your sister seemingly approves your “short girl” diet, but in the OP here, you says she is one of the ones who expressed their concern harshly. That being said, just because you are losing/lost weight and are within a healthy weight range, does not make your practices healthy. Without knowing you, I believe THAT is your family’s concern.

Would you consider posting your all stats (weight, height, activity level, etc) and/or opening your diary for review?

I beg you not to feel criticized by my comment as it is not my intent to accuse you of unhealthy habit. If you are comfortable and feel like this is sustainable, please continue. On the other side of things, if you want constructive advise and comments (not unqualified compliments), you need to supply people with the information needed to make an accurate opinion.

As for everyone else, I urge you to take into consideration that you don’t know each other. I know we all want to support each other and rightfully so, which is why I love being a part of this community, but if any of you took the time to read any of her other posts, you may have reservation about how she is going about this too. From the perspective of a past ED, compliments can be just as, if not more, harmful than so-called negative comments.

I think you look great. Some people will be critical of you no matter what.....thick or thin so to speak.

I've nothing substantial to add, but am just another voice telling you that you look AH-MAZING. You look happy, tones, muscular and in great shape. You've done incredibly well.

Form someone who has a family full of people who tear people down for improving themselves, I would say, Stick to what you know is true. You know it is better to be fit, healthy and happy. You know you feel better now.

People can be mean *kitten* to the people they love. I'm, sorry you have to be around people like this. Keep up the good work.

I'm sorry they said that! You look great!

Ignore them! I hate when my family talks about my weight loss. I don't post it on FB anymore.

btw, I love your hair (now)! I wish mine looked like that.

u look great

I think you look great. I can't imagine what their problem is. Sheesh.