your worse or humiliating experience when fat?

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  • DWBalboa
    DWBalboa Posts: 37,259 Member
    I'm an ER nurse and in saying this I see ALOT of pregnant ladies.....
    I get asked WEEKLY, "How far along are you?!" "Oh your pregnant too?!" Or worse! Some of the doctors I have worked with... "I didn't know you were expecting!" Me.... And almost always my response "I'm not pregnant, I'm fat."
    Never again! This sucks! I'm short and carry all my weight in my mid section.
    I swear once I get in shape.... The only time I will ever be asked this again is when I am pregnant and lucky enough to even get there.

    It's happen to me several times too. Only I work in a bar:( I think about it while struggling through ab workouts.

    Sadly, that happens more often than you may think. If it’s any consolation (I’m sure it’s not) any decent person that makes that mistake feels like crap for doing so.
  • Neeters1969
    Neeters1969 Posts: 53 Member
    There have been many but the worst by far were when my ex husband and his new wife told my kids to please not ever get fat like mom.


    That's awful. I'm sorry. What an absolute pair of a**holes.

    :angry:
  • DWBalboa
    DWBalboa Posts: 37,259 Member
    I see a lot of people stating that their own families make many of the comments. My Grandmother use to make comments about my mother’s weight all the time; to make matters worse she would blame my mother when she would fart in a crowded room. It saddens me to see so many of you as young girls were exposed to such insensitivity. Nothing can be said to make that hurt go away but you can choose to use it to make you a stronger person.
    I wish all of you the best of luck in your goals.
  • helenarriaza
    helenarriaza Posts: 517 Member
    My ex's family used to round me up and telling me each time I saw them that I was gaining more and more weight, I was not going to find clothes and I was going to break the bed/chair/stool.

    Also in school these girls used to pretend there was an earthquake whenever I had to run in gym class.
  • SallyJones1985
    SallyJones1985 Posts: 55 Member
    My nanna regularly finds ways to remark upon my weight at family gatherings in the loudest possible voice. Its gone beyond embarrassing to being quite funny now. I look forward to the next inventively phrased snarky remark. My boyfriend didn't actually believe me until he saw it for himself. Some examples.....

    Christmas - sit down next to nanna, nanna announces to me and the room that I am "nicely plump, but shouldn't let it go any further"
    Family birthday - "oh wow, thats quite a plateful. I wish I could eat as much as you!"
    Family gathering - Sit down next to nanna (by now I should know better). Nanna squeezes thigh and proclaims "ooh you're sturdy". When asked if this is code for fat, she replies with "well we don't like these skinny minny Victoria Beckham types".
    Another family birthday - nanna reaches across, squeezes my upper arm and practically shouts "well you're not losing it, are you!". Boyfriend looks horrified, and quietly notes " I see what you mean now".

    It doesn't matter to her whether i'm at my slimmest or fattest, these remarks have spanned all my weight for the last 8 years. Rude!

    My nana once said to me "that must be jelly 'cus jam doesn't jiggle like that!". I think I was about 13 at the time.


    My grandad tells me to make sure my kids don't get obese like me.
  • FabianRodriguez94
    FabianRodriguez94 Posts: 221 Member
    I've always been fat, ever since I was a kid. In the 4th grade my friends and I were running to go play kickball and I was the slowest one out of all of them. Some 5th graders saw me behind and I could see them pointing at me and laughing. I finally got close enough for them to be able to call out to me "Nice t*ts fat***".
    I kept running but I didn't go towards my friends, I went to the bathroom and sat in a stall until the bell rang.

    Also when ever I would go shopping for clothes and none of the stores would have larger than a 36 in pant sizes and I was a 42. And the shorts would only go up to a large and I was an XL.

    But I can out that behind me now because I am (as of a few days ago), able to fit into size 36 pants and am comfortable in Large t shirts for the first time in my life!

    Keep working at it everybody, it gets easier.
  • Kr1ptonite
    Kr1ptonite Posts: 789 Member
    I broke a chair in a crowded restaurant . :(
  • FredSetToGetFit
    FredSetToGetFit Posts: 286 Member
    This is really sad that this thread is so long already. People are generally pretty awful to one another. I say, use this feeling as motivation. Remember these stories when you are feeling like giving up. And most importantly, when at last you are at your target weight, remember how you felt, and maybe spare someone else's feelings when trying to give advice. I remember when I was here previously, I gave up because of being badgered by another member with unwanted advice. Remember, criticism, no matter how constructive, if delivered without tact, can hurt just as much.
  • otter090812
    otter090812 Posts: 380 Member
    So sorry you've all been through that.

    My husband's family seem to think it's OK to comment on my weight / eating pretty much every time I see them:
    - Grandma: <huge sigh> what happened to that beautiful, slim girl at your wedding?
    - Grandma also takes big, audible, intakes of breath if I have seconds of anything, occasionally accompanied by an 'oooh'
    - Mother-in-law has 'Goldilocks Syndrome' - when I lose weight she starts with the don't get 'too thin' stuff almost immediately, even though I was 'too fat' just a week before. (It's not even like I'm a yoyo dieter, I lost a decent amount of weight once before, got to a healthy BMI, but put it back on over about seven years.)

    Contrast that with my parents, who haven't even once acknowledged that I've lost weight; and my sister who noticed after about 15% of my bodyweight was gone, and then cross-examined my husband as to whether I'd developed an eating disorder!

    Families eh?
  • greeshu_89
    greeshu_89 Posts: 138 Member
    I can relate to many of these posts.. sadly i too have had my share of countless experiences like this.. but somehow i don't think these incidents have motivated me to loose weight quicker. More often than not, I get into a depression mode once anything like this happens. Its really sad when people look at you as an object which is to be made fun of.

    Now I am trying to work against this feeling. I hope my real weight loss journey will kick start soon.
  • missjones513
    missjones513 Posts: 345 Member
    My pants split in the inner thigh area while I was at work one time. I went home sick that day.
  • FredSetToGetFit
    FredSetToGetFit Posts: 286 Member
    I can relate to many of these posts.. sadly i too have had my share of countless experiences like this.. but somehow i don't think these incidents have motivated me to loose weight quicker. More often than not, I get into a depression mode once anything like this happens. Its really sad when people look at you as an object which is to be made fun of.

    Now I am trying to work against this feeling. I hope my real weight loss journey will kick start soon.

    It will. You have a set number of days. Make today count. Just go for it. :wink:
  • bandedmorwong
    bandedmorwong Posts: 1 Member
    I guess I don't want to hate who I was/am by remembering horrible experiences. I have more than my fair share.
    The plan should always be move forward in your journey, and take motivation from the little successes you have on the way.
    Little steps, little wins.
  • greeshu_89
    greeshu_89 Posts: 138 Member
    I can relate to many of these posts.. sadly i too have had my share of countless experiences like this.. but somehow i don't think these incidents have motivated me to loose weight quicker. More often than not, I get into a depression mode once anything like this happens. Its really sad when people look at you as an object which is to be made fun of.

    Now I am trying to work against this feeling. I hope my real weight loss journey will kick start soon.

    It will. You have a set number of days. Make today count. Just go for it. :wink:

    Thank you :)
  • Juliebug33
    Juliebug33 Posts: 15
    Opened my husband's closet to get a towel and he says "what are you doing, nothing in there would fit YOU!" The divorce will be finalized soon.
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    lbs32724 Posts: 23
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  • surfinbird_1981
    surfinbird_1981 Posts: 946 Member
    It was more what people DID than what they said, for me. I commute to work a long distance (50+ miles), so I ride a commuter train, and people would always, without fail, avoid the empty seat next to me. I guess they thought that I'd "crush" them or something. It was actually pretty embarrassing. And one day, I saw people STANDING on the train rather than take that seat - I was like, "Oh, come on, I can't be THAT bad." Only... well, yeah, I was that bad.

    105+ pounds lost later, and now everyone seems to pick that seat first instead of last.

    People gave my husband looks, too. (He's 5'8" and 160 pounds.) At the time we got married, I was nearly double his weight and I would just cringe when I saw people looking at him. I KNOW they were thinking, "Why her, he could do so much better." :sad: Bless my husband, though, he NEVER thought that or even paid attention to other people.

    Wow, this made me feel very sad, people are pricks!!
  • DWBalboa
    DWBalboa Posts: 37,259 Member
    Opened my husband's closet to get a towel and he says "what are you doing, nothing in there would fit YOU!" The divorce will be finalized soon.

    That is just horrible, it’s his loss.
  • britt113
    britt113 Posts: 2 Member
    When my friend's 3 year old came up to me, rubbed my belly and said "Is there a baby in there?" :|
  • emzilee
    emzilee Posts: 96 Member
    I was at one of those hands-on interactive museums when I lived in Chile and they had one of those cool ball things that spin you round until it finds your centre of gravity. I walked up and the attendant looked me up and down, then asked how much I weighed. I was about 1kg below the limit and they turned me away. And then my friends all asked why had happened when I walked back to them.

    Then when I was studying abroad in Japan, I lived with mainly tiny Asians and was definitely the biggest girl in the dorm. I was invited to a special meal at a lady's house, and her husband only knew a few words of English but he made me sit at the end because I was "very big guy" and apparently wouldn't fit at the side of the table.

    I didn't buy a single item of clothing in that whole year because nothing even came close to fitting.
  • bmbaldridge
    bmbaldridge Posts: 15 Member
    Like others have said, just the looks! Luckily, I haven't had anyone say or do anything regarding my weight that embarrassed me. I'm not sure why, unless they're afraid to confront me? Regardless, the looks can be very insidious because they're just full of judgment.
  • caperchick78
    caperchick78 Posts: 426 Member
    I'm near in tears reading some of the experiences shared on this topic. I have had various humiliating experiences. There were some when I was more "chubby" than fat when I worked in retail. I had a customer ask for a winter coat for her "bigger" daughter, who she proceeded to tell me was my size and asked if I would try on the coats. One of the worst was 2 years ago when I could, for the first time, no longer buckle the belt on the plane. I flew without it, and was mortified having to ask the flight attendant. My ex-boyfriend told me he wasn't attracted to my body and thought it was gross and said he was embarrassed by me. We were together for 3 years (the best 160 pounds I could ever lose!). Oh, and I had a client come to my office once to talk to me about opening a restaurant. I never met him before that day, and he told me I was fat and should come to his restaurant lol. I`m like thanks for pointing out the obvious. I think the last one was when I read my doctor's comments about my weight. He had my file open on the computer, and he wrote something to the effect of me being "extremely overweight."

    While these make me feel sad when I think about them, I try not to dwell. I just take it one day at a time knowing I'll get to where I feel comfortable and heathy with myself and that is all that matters!
  • caperchick78
    caperchick78 Posts: 426 Member
    I just remembered my horrifying experience in Peurto Escondido, Mexico! Lol I must have blocked it from my memory because I was so humiliated! I was with my bf at the time, and we were in a travel agency booking a flight back to Mexico City. They had a wicker bench, and I was sitting on it. I stood up to sign some papers. When I went to sit back down, the bench broke! My bf was so embarassed! The women were really kind, but omg it was awful! I wanted to just curl up and cry!
  • Went to Fiesta TX and couldn't fit in one of the roller coasters so I had to get out. EVERYONE was watching. Including my husband. He felt so bad for me and just held me as I cried. I have never ever been back to Fiesta TX. Once I lose the weight though I sure will!
  • fittocycle
    fittocycle Posts: 827 Member
    I haven't read all the stories but from those I have read, I can't believe people could be so flat out mean! I'm so sorry you all have went through those experiences.

    I was overweight in high school (which was back in the dark ages). We ordered our caps and gowns and mine would not zip up. I had ordered the largest size and it wouldn't fit. I was so mortified by the idea that I started dieting, just so it would fit in time for the ceremony. Best thing that ever happened to me. After being overweight since I was a kid, I found out what it felt to be closer to an average weight-and I liked it! By the time I went to college, people couldn't recognize me.

    Sometimes, a negative situation can be a positive experience after all! Don't give up!
  • metalkim85
    metalkim85 Posts: 72 Member
    I was always heavy. even as a child. Children would call me 'Fatso' and 'Kimbo'. I was always the 'fat friend' My dad told me that I needed to lose weight because I was getting too heavy (which he was right and also he was worried about me getting diabetes)

    A big one though was me going to the Waffle House and not being able to fit in the booth..so embarrassing.
  • kirili3
    kirili3 Posts: 244 Member
    I got excluded a lot and made fun of because of my weight.

    During my early teens, when I was in my home country, a usually very nice boy asked me why I was so fat. I told him to *kitten* off. I rather think it's that one little moment - and he did look embarrassed - that helps offset the other things. I told at least one of them to *kitten* off (well, the equivalent in our language). My cousin was with me and she did put her hand over my mouth but she laughed too. I know it's a tiny thing, but it felt... good. I'm sure he didn't mean any harm and he really is a nice person, but hopefully he'll think twice before casually insulting people. It's one nice thing that somehow helps to offset years of name-calling and exclusion at school.

    I can honestly say that being excluded and made fun of hasn't inspired my weight loss journey.
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    kirili3 Posts: 244 Member
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  • littlelaura
    littlelaura Posts: 1,028 Member
    Waiting in line for a good half hour to get on a scrambler ride with my daughter only to not have the bar close over my belly and because they couldn't shut it I had to get off the ride. Another lady offered to have her ride with her and her kid but my daughter wouldn't go and so she didn't get to go on the ride. She yelled at the ride attendant guy saying his ride was stupid because her Mommy wasn't fat! I was embarrassed for myself but more so sad and humiliated that my child had to experience that because of me.