Tomboy or Girly-Girl

Just tell her to always be herself. That's all. People will love her for that.

Just tell her to always be herself. That's all. People will love her for that.

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as long as she stays true to who she is, it doesn't matter if society sees her as more "feminine" or more "masculine" or anything in between. being a woman is so much more than being feminine. i like the parts of me that are feminine, but i also like the rough and tumble side as well. i will proudly burp and fart and snort laugh and speak my mind...even while wearing a dress and heels ironically, even though i am pretty well endowed in the boob area, i tend to cover up. not sure why. i don't like having massive cleavage for all the world to see. it's a much more private thing.

I can go from one to the other in a day. It's oke not to fit in a box. Be who you want to be. You can like barbies and monster trucks.

I'm 100% a girly girl.

I have no clue, but I'll say that I was a total tomboy until I was about 12. All I wanted to do was play baseball, get dirty, and wear boy's superhero T-shirts. I even had a boy's bike. Then I decided I could still play baseball and attempt to do something with my hair and maybe wear some clothes that came from the girls section. Now, you wouldn't even know that I was a tomboy. I still don't really like wearing dresses and being super girly, but I'm me and that's all I care about.

Honesty, confidence, and lack of jealousy issues are in my opinion what make the best female types, no matter how they dress or behave otherwise.

^ This

And there is no right or wrong. I think I pull both off fairly well and a lot of the in between. Being versatile is a good trait to have as a woman. IMO.

Isn't just having boobs? Most of the females I've dated were athletic and wore dresses when they wanted to go out.

For me I'd be more concerned about who your daughter's pick as SO's rather than what distinguishes them as tomboy or girly girl.

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I think of myself as squarely between tomboy and girly-girl and it's been that way from Day One. Now at 37, I have short nails because I'm always working with my hands but they're usually painted a pretty color...love to draw and write and cook and bake, but don't know how to knit or sew...adore animals and caring for friends & family but have ZERO interest in caring for plants or babies...short low maintenance hair, but a penchant for fashion...you get the point!

A woman can be whatever she would like to be. I think that's the most important thing of all. Cherish your daughter and teach her all the "man things". I was raised by both of my parents even after their divorce (when I was 12) but I lived full-time with my father and he taught me so much and I feel strong & proud to be able to swing a hammer, saw, know my way around the hardware store and how to properly throw a football or make free throws. However, I do think it's important to encourage your daughter's girly side. Compliment her appearance occasionally, tell her she is pretty or looks nice. Buy her the makeup or whatever. I am NOT saying to act like appearance or feminine hobbies & interests are MORE important than any others she has. Definitely not! That is not the sum of what makes a woman feminine. But don't let her think "that stuff is off limits to me, because I don't know much about it and/or I don't look like a Barbie girl". I hope that makes sense.

I've always had the exact opposite problem. I was raised among all girls with a busy dad (no grudges there). Three sisters, three girl cousins, and only pal 2 years older or younger. But hey, it's a good skill to be able to relate to women. Luckily our first is a daughter :bigsmile:

Just tell her to always be herself. That's all. People will love her for that.

This. The most valuable gift you can give your daughter is self-esteem and confidence to be herself. When a woman is comfortable and happy, and has the love of a good father, it makes her more beautiful.

I'm more of a tomboy but I clean up good, and my 14 year old daughter is a perfect combo of both. Kudos to you on being a single dad raising a girl. I agree with the advice for her to be true to herself, my daughter knows she dances to a different beat then her friends and she couldn't care less. She loves who she is. Years ago when Madonna had her daugher she said something that has always stuck with me, when asked what she thought was the most important thing to teach Lourdes she said "my job is to teach her to have self respect". Later when asked what she would teach her about men, she replied "if I teach her self respect, I'll never have to teach her anything about men". So true, so true. If our children, not only girls, love and respect themselves the rest will be much easier.

ETA: keep in mind Dad YOU are her male role model to see how men should treat women and she will follow accordingly. She learns her first lessons on men from you. :-)

Just tell her to always be herself. That's all. People will love her for that.

This, for sure!!!!

I am a little of both. Depends on where I'm going/what I'm doing. I play basketball and softball and run in mudruns and can get down and dirty with the guys and be a tomboy....BUT, I can also wear a sundress and sandals and be a girly girl whenever...I just generally do it with bruises and scrapes from my various sports and mud runs. :laugh:

Tomboy...just look at my ticker. Bows/guns/motorcycles...yeah...tomboy!

Tell her it is ok to be either one or both. It is rare that a woman is an extreme example of one without the other. Of course we all know a version of each that we could make an example of, but for the most part women are very flexible. Tough when we need to be, dainty when we want to be.

Well, there's more than two things a woman can be, so. :noway:

Learn to shoot a gun. Do it in a dress. Who cares. Girls are raised with insidious social concept that feminine = bad (boys, too, to a different, but not necessarily lesser, extent), so why not encourage both and not listen to rhetoric about how hard it is to deal with "girly girls" as though there's only one way to be: "girly" or "not girly." The "I'm not like other girls, I like/play/do (insert random activity that probably a good percentage of 3+ billion other women also like/play/do)" phrasing gets wicked tiring.