Tomboy or Girly-Girl

I was a jeans and t-shirt, tree and rock climbing girl till I met my hubby to be 24 yrs ago and he said he liked skirts! lol I went out and got some the next day!

I am both girly and tomboy! Versatile, ever changing and growing!

I color my hair, get my nails done, dig in the garden with them and climb mountains!

Help your daughter to be the best her she can be! There are no limits or set parameters!

As long as they have self esteem issues and don't know their father. They're mine...

Inspired by the ladies on my feed asking...
What qualities do you find makes a woman feminine?

I don't have the answer....
A lady that can just be one of the guys as well as the lady that can wear the dress is feminine to me.

P.S.
I'm a single dad with no positive female role-model in my daughters life.
So any and all info that can help me communicate with her is greatly appreciated.
(if this were to come up later with her)

It really comes down to her personality. My mom is not particularly feminine in the traditional sense and I'm VERY different from her even though she was always there. My daughter is more like my mother than she is like me.

Just get to know your daughter as a person and communication should be perfectly easy.

Let your daughter define her femininity. The biggest impact you will have is your acceptance, or not, of how she defines herself.

You're a good dad for thinking ahead, but please don't over think it. And don't box her in to a gender role for fear of screwing up or being a bad gender influence.

Good luck.

Just tell her to always be herself. That's all. People will love her for that.

This. The most valuable gift you can give your daughter is self-esteem and confidence to be herself. When a woman is comfortable and happy, and has the love of a good father, it makes her more beautiful.

Love me some Ms. Lauryn Hill, also so true. I am neither a tomboy or girly girl, I'm just me.

Thank you....I totally let her be herself.
No judgements here.

I do my best to keep the lines of communication open as well.

She stated to me yesterday it is "weird" for her to talk to "her dad" about a lot of things. (boys)
I'm here for her though....she is my everything!
Thanks!!!

It isn't much easier to talk to one's mother about boys, either. We don't like to think of our parents as people, especially when we're kids and teens.

If a girl is happy, it doesn't matter if she's one or the other. I can imagine it's tough for a dad to navigate this alone, but I think the worst thing you can do is try to force her into one category or the other (e.g. raising her like a boy because that's all you know or forcing her to be a girly-girl because you think that's what she "should" be). She will probably naturally gravitate toward tomboy or girly-girl and still have a little bit of the other mixed in. And she may drift toward the other end of the spectrum as she grows up.

I'm going to go against the politically-correct grain and say that I do think the concepts of femininity and masculinity are more concrete than most people are comfortable admitting. The differences are not just anatomical. But a woman doesn't HAVE to be feminine, nor a man masculine, to be loved and accepted, and I think most people have at least some characteristics that do not fit the stereotype of their biological sex anyway.

If I had to pick one label or the other, I would call myself a girly-girl. The way I dress and my general demeanor are very feminine. I pretty much only wear pants when I'm doing something that shouldn't be done in a skirt or dress. I only curse when I'm really pissed about something. I have very nurturing instincts. At the same time, I lift a crap ton of weight and take a lot of pride in being physically strong. I love sports. I prefer action movies to chick flicks. I do not shy away from conflict or expressing my opinions without solicitation or any particular concern for offending anyone. I don't consider the latter attributes and inclinations to be particularly feminine since feminine energy is, by nature, meeker and more reticent, but I also don't think those things detract in any way from my overall femininity.

Similarly, my dad is a very masculine man. He's also a crier and very openly emotional, and while that's not particularly masculine, it doesn't make him less of a man.

As long as we are not saying one is preferable to the other, then I don't think it matters. I think people can only reach their full potential for happiness when they are allowed and encouraged to be who they are.

Thank you....I totally let her be herself.
No judgements here.

I do my best to keep the lines of communication open as well.

She stated to me yesterday it is "weird" for her to talk to "her dad" about a lot of things. (boys)
I'm here for her though....she is my everything!
Thanks!!!

You sound like a good dad, bro. I've got one on the way, and my whole plan is to teach her to be as smart, strong, and fearless as possible. I don't really care if she goes princess or cage fighter....though I'm not gonna lie...a daughter who is a cage fighter (and physicist) would be pretty bad *kitten*.

The only thing I can say is try to give her a good balance between structure and freedom, as well as the tools to make the most of both.

One of the things I've learned about myself is that I'm somewhere between a "tomboy" and a "girly-girl." My dad didn't believe in forcing gender roles upon me in the form of telling me what was "feminine" and what wasn't. He taught me to rollerblade, tinker with gadgets (taking them apart), play softball, and work with wood. When I told him I wanted to skateboard, he looked a little apprehensive, but just told me to wear my helmet when I practiced. He also knew how to sew, cook, and take photos, so he taught me that stuff too. Basically, he didn't hold back trying to teach me all the things he knew!