Tips to get over a heartache

Time

And possibly getting under someone else.

^^ agreed

Ive been going the same thing for the last month and a half. And I realized something. He wasn't good enough for me. He excused himself from my life. He held me back.

Remember all the times that were red flags. Remember how you felt at that second you realized it was over. And then realize this. God makes no mistakes. There is a reason why this happened. There is a reason why you deserve to be happy. There is a chance to make your life what you want it to be. Make yourself happy.

I'm not always the best at taking my own advice, but trust me - I'm going to look damn good when the day comes that our paths may cross and he will realize that HE missed out on a good and loving relationship.

**Hugs to you**

Sorry to hear about your heartache. What has helped me in the past is:

- Write down the reasons why the relationship ended. Re-read this whenever you're feeling weak and want to ring them, this has always helped to stop me!
- Writing down all the things you can do now that you're single that you couldn't do in a couple. Plan to do one of these things this week, you can start right away.
- Write down a reviewed set of life goals and small steps you can take to achieve them. Get started on this right away.
- Plan some things to do with your friends and family. If you're heartbroken be kind to yourself, don't push yourself to go on big nights out or anything, just small things that will life your mood. Give someone a ring you've lost touch with.
- Treat yourself extra kindly. You are fragile at the moment and need to heal. Eat healthily but allow yourself some treats too, just don't overdo it. Get lots of rest and exercise.

Remember that it does get better. I have been totally and utterly devastated after breakups in the past but now couldn't care less about these people. As humans we are very resilient creatures. Good luck and hope you feel better soon.

I like all of the above, and think it is very helpful!!

Even though it sounds silly, I always loved to do a bit of reinvention after a breakup. New hairstyle or color, change up the music I listened to (no more of "our song"), and perhaps the most helpful was getting new bedding & rearranging my furniture. For me that really helped reset my mind & routine to a new beginning.

Best of luck to you!!

Relationships are funny.
you can have a 99.9% failure rate but, that ONE sucessful one makes it all worth it.

would you come over and explain this to my mother, please? i'm sick to death of hearing her crow about how much better at relationships she is than me because she's had two husbands to my four boyfriends. no, you do not win the relationship game just because you were married for seventeen years. :huh:

finding a playmate :bigsmile:

Tips to get over a heartache. And tips to not check on them on fb etc

The best advice I can think of came from Nikki Six from Motley Crue:

The best revenge is living well and looking good!

Go get a pedicure!

This!!

And make a new platonic friend. Works every time.

Do not immediately jump into another relationship because you're lonely or to make yourself feel desirable. I'll never understand that kind of advice. You're in an incredible emotional and vulnerable place right now and the last thing you want to do is bring someone else into that.

Take the time to redefine yourself as an individual rather than part of a couple. One of the worst parts of a break-up is that feeling of losing a part of yourself because you've been so connected to someone else. The best way to combat that feeling is to remember who you are by yourself, unattached to anyone else ... and if you're not happy with who you are as an individual, then, again, it's time to redefine your individuality.

My ex and I were together for 5 years, and when we split up, I felt so completely lost because I had long ago stopped thinking of myself as "me" and thought of myself as part of "us". So when that "us" was no longer there, I no longer had any idea who I was by myself.

And I immediately jumped into a new relationship ... that ended incredibly poorly, because if I didn't know who *I* was as an individual any longer, how could I possibly know who I was in a couple with someone that wasn't my ex?

So I decided to really redefine myself. Create my own goals and figure out who I wanted to be as "me" before I even considered becoming an "us" again.

Time heals all wounds a hell of a lot faster when you're aggressively using that time to create a better, happier, prouder version of yourself.

Relationships are funny.
you can have a 99.9% failure rate but, that ONE sucessful one makes it all worth it.

It's finding that one sucessful relationship is a b*tch.

With my last breakup I got into orchid collecting and I rearanged the furniture in living room.

Look for a rebound. The sooner you're dating again, the sooner you'll overcome the heartache, just don't get attached to the rebound!
Go out with friends. Go dancing, out to dinner, shopping, whatever, just get OUT.
Pedicure.
Chocolate.
Sorry you're heartbroken.

Time, sorry thats really about it, keep busy it does get easier, I didn't believe it would but it does :flowerforyou:

edit: and when you feel strong enough delete their numbers and any media contact and if that don't help and still do it, deactivate/ re-create all social media with nothing on them that links them to you, even ask them to block you on it

Keep busy, listen to break up songs (the ones that make you feel like you're better off not the ones that makes you want to curl up in a corner and cry), and stay away from social media. You would think deleting them from your friend list would solve the problem right...trust me you'll find another way to creep them, so just avoid Le Facebook and Le Instagram altogether.

I know this is a diet site and we should be promoting healthy habits but sometimes a girl just needs some booze and a big piece of cake! Whatever you do don't watch The Notebook or A Walk To Remember. -_- trust me it's not a good idea no matter how much you think it is at the time. I'd watch Game Of Thrones, nothing like a good Red Wedding to make you forget your lost love! Feel better darling!

easiest way to get over someone, is to get under someone else... and hit the gym between sessions

I recently just got dumped myself, so I'm right there with you. My tips are probably just a repeat of what everyone else has said:

Cut off all contact.
Go out with your friends and spend time with your family.
Keep occupied.
Work out more than you usually do.
Like "I dated that douche" on Facebook and read other ladies torturous relationship endings to make yourself feel better.

My thought is that if a person I liked/loved wasn't going to be happy when being with me, then I'm just foolin' myself. It will end up being a miserable relationship and just cause more heartache. Better to find out now than later.

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There's this little button on their facebook profile that probably says 'following', yeah, you really want that to say unfollowing. Do it, now. Really though, once you stop seeing them pop up on your screen all the time, it becomes easier to forget, or at least distract yourself.

Running and work have seem to been good distractions.

But then again, cupcakes work too