your worse or humiliating experience when fat?
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1. This one has a better ending so I saved it for last. These girls in elementary school used to torment me for being fat. Unfortunately, the ringleader of the group made it to the magnet Jr/sr high school with me much to my disappointment and continued to attempt to make my life miserable with the name calling and the mooing. Thank god she got kicked out for bad grades. I was rid of her and was relieved. I dormed at the university and had finally been able to overcome the years or teasing, low self-esteem and just being a follower and was flourishing in college. Suddenly one day, guess who I see skateboarding through campus? That girl! Later I found out she lived in my same dorm, too. One day, I was sitting with my tableful of new friends, having a great time when she comes up to me and says loudly, "Hey Sam? Remember me? I'm the girl who used to call you fat cow and used to put cricket legs in your hair. Remember when I used to bully you?" Everyone stopped to look. Fortunately, I was a lot stronger emotionally by now so I said in an equally loud voice. "Honestly, I don't really remember all those things you did or said to me very much because now I have all these awesome friends and I'm really happy with new life and I don't really think about you anymore, so..." And I turned around and started talking to my friends and she was dumbfounded and just walked away! I was triumphant. Eventually, she dropped out of the university and I never saw her again.
This left me stunned. What motivates people to take pride in knocking others down? Things like this prompted me to avoid my 25th HS reunion. BTW - great response to the POS bully.0 -
That's awful! I always say I started my weight loss journey by dropping my 160 pound ex bf lol. He told me he was embarassed by me and said my body was gross. The right person will love you no matter what your body is like.0
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People gave my husband looks, too. (He's 5'8" and 160 pounds.) At the time we got married, I was nearly double his weight and I would just cringe when I saw people looking at him. I KNOW they were thinking, "Why her, he could do so much better." :sad: Bless my husband, though, he NEVER thought that or even paid attention to other people.
This. I still have no idea what he sees in me.0 -
I work for a very large company. It's not unusual to talk to someone on the phone for a year or two before meeting them face-to-face - if ever. We have a corporate directory with photos and mine is from when I was about 40-50lbs lighter. Anyways, I'm sitting in a conference room having already introduced myself to a group of folk when someone I've talked to a lot walks in and says "Where's Sam? He's supposed to be here by now..." and I was right there in front of him. Everyone knew why he didn't recognize me from my photo. <ugh>
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When I graduated from college, I was really fit. Then I went to grad school and got huge. I tried to delude myself into thinking I was still hot. So I left all of my old pics up on myspace. I met this guy on myspace who started flirting with me. We eventually met up for a date and when he got there, he said "You need to change your pictures," and turned around and walked out.0
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Weirdly it was a backward compliment. I was a shapely slim teenager and put the weight on in my twenties.
I was at the pub and a friend's mother was in there drunk. She said "Are you RG?" to which I replied "Yes." She went on to say, "Oh when you were a teenager, all the mothers used to be well jel of your gorgeous legs, to the point we used to b**** about you! It's such a shame you let yourself go."
I never knew about the ?envy? at the time, and for someone who was a generation older than me to say that really hurt.
Therefore my aim is to get my gorgeous pins as back as possible.0 -
"You'd be really pretty if you weren't fat "
Said to me at a wedding in front of a big group of people.0 -
I had an old boss say that to me! It didn`t shock me because she was a b***h!0
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Last year I was trying to get some exercise by biking around my neighborhood and a family stood on the porch and gawked at me, pointing and laughing. It made me so upset; I went inside and started crying . . . I was trying to better myself; why did they think it was appropriate to laugh at me?
Not to mention they were all fatties too.0 -
I'm a substitute teacher and I probably had about 10 students (over the course of a year or so) ask me if I was expecting :noway:0
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In Italy staying with an Italian family the dad saw a photo of me in which I thought I looked perfectly nice and slim. He laughed at it and said 'Sei piu ciccia qui!' = 'you are chubbier here!' Not traumatic but disconcerting, for someone who was always saw themselves as slim. Also, I hate it when people say 'oh you've lost weight' because it's like they are implying 'you used to be fat.' I think people should just stop commenting, unless asked!0
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This has happened to me before! A couple of years ago I used to run around my old neighborhood and one day I was going past this house and a few fat people sitting on their porch GAWKED and yelled at me(didn't really hear what they said, as I was listening to music.) I dunno what was so interesting. :bigsmile:Last year I was trying to get some exercise by biking around my neighborhood and a family stood on the porch and gawked at me, pointing and laughing. It made me so upset; I went inside and started crying . . . I was trying to better myself; why did they think it was appropriate to laugh at me?
Not to mention they were all fatties too.0 -
My worst ones are probably when I was not overweight at all. I think my self-esteem was probably a lot lower when I was skinny. As a chubby kid so I have endless ones from growing up but the one that always stands out for me is when my first girlfriend introduced me her friends. It was pretty awkward generally (they were clearly fairly homophobic anyway) and when I came back from the bathroom they were talking about me. Her best friend said "... but she's really fat, you could do so much better" and my ex-girlfriend replied "she's not *that* fat" and all of the other girls said "yeah she is"; I was 120lbs at the time. I just walked straight past the table and out of the restaurant, I have no time for that s**t.
Also when I was a teenager I got pretty skinny through restrictive eating and everybody told me how good I looked, how awesome my legs were etc. and I remember multiple comments along the lines of "You look so good like this, you really needed to lose some weight.". I had gone from normal weight to severely underweight. God knows what they'd think of me now.
The ones that always hurt the most come from my mother. She feels the need to constantly point out that when she was my age she was skinny and that I'm fat, as if I hadn't noticed. Not weight-related, but she recently told me that I looked like I have measles (I have fairly minor acne) and she went on for about ten minutes about how it looked like I had some kind of facial disease...0 -
I once had a small group of young men come up to me and say very sexually graphic, disgusting and demeaning things to me, based on my weight.
I had my two year old in a pram with me.
I just rushed off as fast as I could, but had I been alone, I would have tried to smash the mouthiest guy's skull against the pavement. I didn't feel scared, just beyond rage.0 -
My mom has been stick thin her whole life and she's totally clueless about what it means to be fat. We went shopping together for a professional wardrobe for me. She headed straight for the women's department. I tried to quietly tell her that nothing in this department would fit me. She has a loud voice and she said "don't be silly. They have a 16 here and an18 here". I said that I wore a 22. She exclaimed .Oh my god! Do they even sell clothes that big in regular stores?.. I showed her the plus size department. She kept saying.. My god these clothes are huge! You could use this one as a tent!... It was awful.0
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Ugh, too many to count :P
-Not being able to fit in the desks at school (my butt is coming out of the back and I can't get out!)
-2 words: Clothes. Shopping.
-People staring at me when I'm wearing shorts and a shirt
-Feeling like I'm on display when I'm eating with others
-Extremely low self esteem and self confidence
-Swimsuits, anyone?
-In 4th grade, we had gotten new chairs and the one in my desk got a crack in it after a week
-Out of breath when climbing stairs
-Dripping in sweat after walking for a short time
-Answering questions in class that have to relate to eating (I always imagine they're all thinking, "Oh, I'm sure she knows a lot about that!")
-Not being able to control your eating at parties and buffets
-Shopping in the "plus" sizes section in 2nd grade
-Thighs growing 10x their size when you sit down
I'm sure there's plenty more, but those are the ones I can think of right now.0 -
When I was a teenager, my Mum looking me up and down and then saying "you would be beautiful if you lost some weight".
I copped more than my fair share of bullying about my weight at school, but to hear those words from my own mother? That really hurt and still rings in my ears to this day.0 -
It's more of a blessing than I could have imagined, thanks!
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I have 2.
1. Being fitted for my sisters wedding and being told they had to order the largest size dress, and even then, my measurements, they may have to ADD material. ( Needless to say, they had to take it IN twice )
2. I was kicked off a roller coaster cause the latch wouldn't click a 2nd time.
Awful, awful, awful.0 -
I remember being in 4th grade and telling the other kids at my lunch table that I was going on a diet. One girl (who was actually fatter than I was, but whatever) said, "Yeah, you need to go on a diet".
Then in 7th grade this group of boys used to call me a water buffalo every day. Points for creativity, I guess...0 -
everytime I put on my wetsuit to go surfing. I'm not the oldest guy in the line-up, but I'm the heaviest.0
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I was in 6th grade, and this girl asked me every single day if I was pregnant.
Or when I only wanted to wear a specific sweatshirt and pair of jeans everyday because it's the only thing I felt comfortable in, and one guy confronted me in front of the whole art class about why I wore the same thing every day.0 -
Oh man, too many instances.
Probably the worst was going to dinner with my boyfriend (now hubby). There was a bit of a wait to get seated (lots of people there), so we sat down on the benches nearby. I didn't know that MY bench was broken already, so when I sat down, the bench COMPLETELY broke and I fell to the floor along with the remaining bench, in front of all those people...and I was wearing a skirt, which conveniently flew RIGHT up to reveal my panties. No one offered to help, they just stared in silence. To be honest, though, looking back on it makes me laugh AND we did get free dinner! LOL
The most painful, though, was trying to ride a rollercoaster...they couldn't get the bar down and they stood up and announced in front of everyone, "Miss, you're too fat to ride this ride. We're going to have to ask you to leave." And then I had to stand up and leave in front of all those people. Yikes.0 -
Being barked at by a group of guys that happened to be friends with a guy I liked (who although he did not participate, he didn't try to stop them either).
Breaking up with my low life ex who refused to work once we moved in together and cheated on me, only to have my father tell me that there was no longer any hope for me bc nobody likes a fat girl.0 -
My most humiliating experience wasn't public, but I was still mortified.
At my heaviest in 2010, I was 287, and I was flying to my parents' for the holidays and I had to go to the bathroom while I was on the plane. I didn't fit the toilet and tried to sort of hover above and ended up peeing on myself and some on the toilet and floor. I cleaned it and myself up, but I was shaking and in nearly in tears when I returned to my seat. I was sure someone was going to ask me why I'd been in the bathroom so long, or that I had gotten some on my skirt and would smell like urine and someone would comment on it.0 -
1. I wasnt heavy as a child, but I was as a younger teen. My friend and I were working at a fundraiser car wash. We ate lunch at a nearby burger place. Two guys that were with us ate with us and we were having a discussion about something like attractiveness or something. My friend was teasing one of the guys because he liked her. As we were walking back to the car wash, the one that liked my friend was "complimenting" her (but really putting me down). He said I like you because your thin and not and looked right at me ......... his voice trailed off. I spoke up after looking at him in shock and said "fat like me". He said "you said it not me" as if that excused him from being an Ahole. This one sticks with me.
2. As a teen, eating a hot dog in my car on the way home as i hadnt eatin lunch that day,, guys in the car next to me--- "mmm yum,, moooo"
3. In the last few years same experience as others with not being able to ride the rides I wanted to,, being told before I could even get on the ride that I was too big. The people behind us chewed out the ride attendant though, so that was good.
4. Recently, I work downtown, so there are alot of homeless. There were two guys and a girl together. Older people, all three of them. The guys were waving at me, I was wearing an outfit that I look good in and apparently they agreed. The girl then yells (apparently jealous) " yeah all you need to do is put a little more wieght on that body and it wont be so bad" not sure what she meant but it puzzles me.
All of these things stick with me and I think most of them have contributed to my weight. My self esteem has never been very high, but now it is and I am accomplishing my goals of getting healthy!!!:happy:0 -
I have two, a couple years ago (actually when I weighed less than I do now) I had this man ask me on two separate occasions when my baby was due, this is in front of my old Commander, and both times I said "I'm not pregnant I'm just fat." Afterwards both times, I cried. Another time was when I was a little heavier than I am now, a drunk "friend" said I used to be pretty, but now I'm fat and ugly and everything thinks I am going to fail. I balled after that. He has since apologized, but it has still stuck with me.0
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I hate when friends who are smaller than you call themselves fat/chubby/chunky and then feel awkward because they notice the current audience and then they try to back pedal and start saying something like "I mean...ugh...I know I'm no where as big as you...so I shouldn't." This has happened SOOOO many times I've lost track. I DO NOT OWN THE RIGHTS TO USING THE WORD FAT/CHUNKY/CHUBBY! There are many variations of overweight. Don't bring me down with your own body **** talking!0
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Three instances:
1. I was trying out for cheerleading in hs...I wasn't extremely fat, but not skinny either. I guess I was in denial though, because I was considered obese by others. I did make the squad though- because they needed one more extra person, I got in by default. But after the announcements were made at a school assembly of the new team, a few of the mean boys in my grade walked by, snickering, and one quoted Bring It On: "How'd you make it on the squad? In cheerleading they throw people in the air...and fat people don't go as high". Everyone that heard laughed and I actually quit the squad before I truly started.
2. I went to a play with a few friends after school. We were sitting and enjoying conversation when I heard a creak. My entire chair, snapped, wood literally flew everywhere. Everyone in the building laughed at me. Even my friends at the time, (strangers now) laughed. I was so embarrassed. I got up and quickly walked away, and left, calling my mom for a ride.
3. In theology class, we had a potluck. Everytime we had class potlucks, I opted into not eating anything. I hated drawing attention to myself. I was pressured and I went up with another friend who was probably a good 280lbs at the time and me 200...and we started getting our food. People in the class were moo'ing, laughing, making rude comments, and being ignorant. I even heard someone say "ohh the fat a$$es are up there, good thing we ate first. they are going to eat like its the last supper". I just wanted to cry. But what's worse than being the fat kid? The fat kind who cries
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I'm sure there have been a ton, either real or imaginary but two situations stick out in my mind.
One Christmas at my in-laws my mother-in-law was talking about how eating off small plates leads to eating less leads to weight loss, etc. Later that afternoon while setting the table for Christmas dinner I was sitting in the den with some other family members and she comes in with a small saucer and holds it up and says "Jess, this is the size plate YOU should be eating off".
This one is STUPID and just ridiculous that I even still think about it, but it had a profound effect on me...
One night in college, me and two of my friends were sitting on a bench in front of a dorm. A few floors up some dudes opened the window and starting essentially flirting and saying stuff like "why don't you girls come up to our room?" and then one said "we aren't talking to the fat one on the end!" I was the fat one on the end. The WORST part about situations like that is because the situation is so childish and moronic that if you break out in tears you look like you actually gave a **** what these d-bags thought of you which just makes you feel worse about yourself because you feel like a fool for caring. Oy.0
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