Just friends?

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  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I'm friends with plenty of women that I haven't banged.


    Also, OP, I think you've been watching too many RomComs.
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    Scratching my head.
    Sure why not.
    Hmm but ....

    You guys are making me a cynic.

    All those who said no - why not
    All those who said yes - well.

    *Still scratching my head.
  • Sovi_
    Sovi_ Posts: 575 Member
    Just stay friends. ..you see how he is to others. Not saying you are not the romcom chick in the movie to win his heart and devotion, also change his filandering ways. However, do you really want to take a gamble and find that out?
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    Ladies, let's say you have a guy best friend. You know all his exes and flings, how he lies to women and what he says to get them in bed, all about how he cheats and sneaks around. Basically, you know everything about this dude-- the good, bad and the ugly. Your friendship is weird because you cheer him on with his latest conquest. He'll call you to tell you about the girl he met the other night and that he banged her last night and you congratulate him. No jealousy whatsoever! Completely platonic. You know his friends, he knows your friends. He brings you along with him and his friends and you bring him with you sometimes too. Your friends and his think there's something going on with you two, but there really isn't. You two are just that close. You guys can hug without there being any malice. He can compliment you, and you him. He'll tell you *kitten* you want to know about straight up and not sugarcoat it. He tells you to go out and date. You scold him when he's being an as*h*le to the women, but he never listens. You're friends with him because some guys are just bad boyfriends but good friends, he's one of those people. You guys can talk about anything. He's just really a best bud.

    Then one night he suddenly jokes around about doing the deed together. *you get caught off guard because that's the first time that's happened) You scoff, laugh and say no. And then it happens again, he brings it up playfully and he even suggested that you two should date since you're single.

    What would you do in these situations? Or what have you done? (If you've experienced this already)

    Men, do you do this to your girl best friends if you have any? Lol

    I'll go all When Harry Met Sally on you guys...

    Can men and women ever just be friends?

    Go with YOLO.
    Can't post a gif or I will.
    Good luck.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    I'm friends with plenty of women that I haven't banged yet.


    Also, OP, I think you've been watching too many RomComs.

    Fixed
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    I'm friends with plenty of women that I haven't banged yet.


    Also, OP, I think you've been watching too many RomComs.

    Fixed


    Trouble.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I'm friends with plenty of women that I haven't banged yet.


    Also, OP, I think you've been watching too many RomComs.

    Fixed

    That would be quite ambitious!
  • DOM4U
    DOM4U Posts: 239
    they say shes just a friend..

    Oh baby please...

    You got what I neeed....

    They say shes just a friend....

    HAHA
  • laurie04427
    laurie04427 Posts: 421 Member
    Mm I've had this happen a slew of times yes. I tend to prefer guy friends in general, always have. But I choose not to make close guy friends anymore. For me anyhow it's how you describe, and in my mind it's platonic but they the guys inevitably make the move. I'm talking close guy friends, not just casual guy friends.

    Life is simpler now lol.
  • CoffeeBugg
    CoffeeBugg Posts: 75 Member
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.
  • DOM4U
    DOM4U Posts: 239
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    Thats called prostitution, i think?
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    Thats called prostitution, i think?

    That's nothing like prostitution
  • DOM4U
    DOM4U Posts: 239
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    Thats called prostitution, i think?

    That's nothing like prostitution

    I dont pay for sexxx so I wouldnt know sir. But ill take your word for it ;)
  • occupysmithmachine
    occupysmithmachine Posts: 49
    I've had several close guy friends so yes it is possible.
  • Chezzie84
    Chezzie84 Posts: 873 Member
    Read your post back to yourself and pretend you were reading it because I had posted it. What would you tell me?
    Then take your own advise.
  • Chezzie84
    Chezzie84 Posts: 873 Member
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    I have been in that situation... 4 years later we live together =)
  • FraggleRockerFitnessLover
    FraggleRockerFitnessLover Posts: 307
    I believe men and women can just be friends, however, it's the people surrounded in the world you live in who refuse to believe this concept is valid in today's world. Hence, causing compllications in your friendship to ultimately make it not like it once was, a beautiful friendship and a loving memory....
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    Explain please.
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    Thats called prostitution, i think?

    That's nothing like prostitution

    Nothing is that's prostitution.
  • vasairiah
    vasairiah Posts: 5,187 Member
    What would you do in these situations? Or what have you done? (If you've experienced this already)

    I bought and paid the price for that ticket before.... It was fun in the moment because I knew everything about him - turn on/offs, morning after breakfast munchies, etc. Eventually the physical relationship fizzled, and because our friendship had been altered, we never were able to return to that comfort friendship level again.

    I've also had a guy friend/ex FB and we are still friends. We aren't as close as we used to be because of distance and family, but still friends.
    Can men and women ever just be friends?

    I think it goes back to most guys have girl friends that they haven't banged.. yet..

    I guess the more important question for you to consider is.. Will you be okay with it, if your relationship changed as a result of the physical and it doesn't result it any permanent relationship with him?
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    Thats called prostitution, i think?

    That's nothing like prostitution

    I dont pay for sexxx so I wouldnt know sir. But ill take your word for it ;)


    He didn't say he pays as well. He didn't make innuendos as well.
  • PinkyFett
    PinkyFett Posts: 842 Member
    I think.it's possible to remain just friends.
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    i like turtles.

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  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    What would you do in these situations? Or what have you done? (If you've experienced this already)

    I bought and paid the price for that ticket before.... It was fun in the moment because I knew everything about him - turn on/offs, morning after breakfast munchies, etc. Eventually the physical relationship fizzled, and because our friendship had been altered, we never were able to return to that comfort friendship level again.

    I've also had a guy friend/ex FB and we are still friends. We aren't as close as we used to be because of distance and family, but still friends.
    Can men and women ever just be friends?

    I think it goes back to most guys have girl friends that they haven't banged.. yet..

    I guess the more important question for you to consider is.. Will you be okay with it, if your relationship changed as a result of the physical and it doesn't result it any permanent relationship with him?

    i love how women have no agency in these threads
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Can men and women ever just be friends?

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  • hortensehildegarde
    hortensehildegarde Posts: 592 Member
    You can have sex with someone and still be nothing more than "Just friends" with them.

    absolutely! I had a male friend for several years but I was involved all that time. About 7 months or so after I got out of that relationship he suggested we hook up, or whatever I don't know what he suggested if he meant for us to date or not but I basically was clear I was cool with adding a physical part to our relationship but didn't want to be his girlfriend, or whatever. That went on a few years until I fell in love with someone else and for the last, I dunno, 7? years or so we've been friends without any physical involvement again.

    I do love him and have for a long time, but in no way shape or form do I love him in the way I'd want him to be my "life partner" or marry him or even be his girlfriend. I never did and I knew that from the beginning.

    So OP, if you are sure you don't care to try to have a committed monogamous relationship with an admitted womanizer, and just feel like "doing it" with him, sure, why not? But make sure he has the same intent for that not to change your relationship either, and be prepared that it may affect you or him in ways you can't predict right now.

    But don't expect him to change who he is, that's just silly.
  • VoodooSyxx
    VoodooSyxx Posts: 297
    Sure they can. I have one very close female friend. She's married to another friend of mine so obviously I'm not having any kind of thoughts about anything. I mean, I don't many morals but I have the one or two that I like to keep intact.

    OP though, you're just setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you go bangin that friend of yours. Just sayin.
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    I guess we are all friends. Sex or no sex.
    19 and being smacked on the face.
    Still shaking my head.
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39

    OP though, you're just setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you go bangin that friend of yours. Just sayin.

    So fall in love and bang? That better?
  • VoodooSyxx
    VoodooSyxx Posts: 297

    OP though, you're just setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you go bangin that friend of yours. Just sayin.

    So fall in love and bang? That better?

    Ideally it would be find someone with a modicum of class, then fall in love and bang. That's just how I tend to be though.
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