heard disturbing convo about weight today
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Not sure what you mean but I hear it all the time from fit women talking about how much weight they gained (when you can tell they look amazing, or how bad they look, etc etc etc and all they are looking for is reassurances from people about how good they look.
what I mean is that you have no way of knowing that was the actual intent of the conversation or not simple by the account we have here.The op appears to be the same person that said she is obese and a size 0. She is trolling. I'm saying this to agree with the last comment.
Concur and agree.
I agree also. The op was eavesdropping on one portion of a conversation (probably between teenagers), if this even happened.0 -
Not sure what you mean but I hear it all the time from fit women talking about how much weight they gained (when you can tell they look amazing, or how bad they look, etc etc etc and all they are looking for is reassurances from people about how good they look.
And what's wrong with that? If you take a guy who's 160 pounds with 8% body fat and have him gain 10 pounds of fat, suddenly he's going to look a lot different and have a much higher body fat percentage (~13.5% body fat). On the other hand, take a guy who's 315 lbs and let him gain 10 pounds of fat and the difference is much less noticeable. It's also much harder to lose 10 pounds when you're very lean versus when you're carrying around a lot of excess weight. So while you may look at someone and envy their appearance, it doesn't mean they don't have goals just like you have. They might be further along than you are, but at the end of the day you're never really "done" when it comes to fitness and health.0 -
Personally, I distaste people who are either average or underweight making comments toward themselves regarding weight. Like what the heck ladies... I should be in 150's and I was in the 240's and I always think when I hear skinny mini's complaining how thet must think I'm so diguisting. It always made me feel huge and irrelvant.
I completely understand that you feel that way. However, I've never been overweight, always pretty average but I still have days where I feel so incredibly horrible about myself and the way that I look. Not being overweight doesn't make those insecurities go away.0 -
Jealousy is a nasty emotion. But it's always in plentiful supply.0
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Personally, I distaste people who are either average or underweight making comments toward themselves regarding weight. Like what the heck ladies... I should be in 150's and I was in the 240's and I always think when I hear skinny mini's complaining how thet must think I'm so diguisting. It always made me feel huge and irrelvant.
I completely understand that you feel that way. However, I've never been overweight, always pretty average but I still have days where I feel so incredibly horrible about myself and the way that I look. Not being overweight doesn't make those insecurities go away.
ding ding ding- winner winner chicken dinner.0 -
This ridiculous thread reminds me of the saying "everyone is fighting their own battles. Try not to be a c*nt."
Haha! Is that a saying!? Ill have to remember that one!0 -
This ridiculous thread reminds me of the saying "everyone is fighting their own battles. Try not to be a c*nt."
Haha! Is that a saying!? Ill have to remember that one!
it is now!!!!0 -
Gotcha. I came in late to this convo and it just seemed like all BS to me. Just heard someone at a ballgame talking about it, loudly, on Monday evening and a number of her friends reassured her that she looks great blah blah blah. INot sure what you mean but I hear it all the time from fit women talking about how much weight they gained (when you can tell they look amazing, or how bad they look, etc etc etc and all they are looking for is reassurances from people about how good they look.
what I mean is that you have no way of knowing that was the actual intent of the conversation or not simple by the account we have here.
Edit: I look amazing- I work hard and I dress well- so most of the time- i'm comfortable saying I look dayum good- most of the time- But I have days where I feel fat and horrible and I hate my body. Everyone has those days. And i DO look amazing.
My 30th this year- half way through my bulk- we were driving to my birthday dinner and I made my BF stop at Target so I could buy new pants- I was so upset- I felt miserable and fat.
It happens- just because they appear to look a certain way to you does not mean they feel that way. Perception to you is no perception to them. It's a feeling- not a fact.The op appears to be the same person that said she is obese and a size 0. She is trolling. I'm saying this to agree with the last comment.
Concur and agree.0 -
Going from the username, I feel like this is a new incarnation of MayaDaya/BrightCristal/the other 70 usernames this person has created...
Trolls gonna troll.0 -
Going from the username, I feel like this is a new incarnation of MayaDaya/BrightCristal/the other 70 usernames this person has created...
Trolls gonna troll.
And Haterz gonna Hate0 -
Personally, I distaste people who are either average or underweight making comments toward themselves regarding weight. Like what the heck ladies... I should be in 150's and I was in the 240's and I always think when I hear skinny mini's complaining how thet must think I'm so diguisting. It always made me feel huge and irrelvant.
Ultimately, it's you listening in on their conversation.
They're 100% entitled to their opinions, and it shouldn't be on them to censor their conversations in your presence.
Other people are allowed to have opinions, even if you don't happen to agree with them, and I think this is a fairly tame thing to hear. They feel fat if they're skinny. Big deal...that's up to them and not up to you.0 -
BTW, and I know this may sort of contradict what I said above, but these two girls sound like they may be on the precipice of some major body dysmorphia issues, so for this specific instance I would definitely take anything they said to one another with a grain of salt. They don't seem to have healthy self images of themselves, so any judgment you may have perceived is, in a way, poisonous and inaccurate.
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I agree here.
I also think that you shouldn't be hating on them for making those comments. They are individuals with their own personal journey and own personal feelings. They made those comments because they genuinely feel that way.
We all have our own personal struggles. What another girl was saying to her girlfriend is none of your business, and you should treat it as such.
You feeling more poorly about yourself because of it isn't any of their fault, it's yours.0 -
Gotcha. I came in late to this convo and it just seemed like all BS to me. Just heard someone at a ballgame talking about it, loudly, on Monday evening and a number of her friends reassured her that she looks great blah blah blah. I
indeed.
And I"m not saying what you are saying isn't possible. It's a very real truth that women do that and fish for compliments. But in this case- it's impossible to tell- there is absolutely not enough context.0 -
Its probably does seem crazy but any tiny bit shows when you are small. I'm on my normal average about 110 and I'm 120 right now... Its noticeable not just by me... Its been noticed by others... Well by the BF and actually as a compliment because he likes it and rubbing my stomach... but for me just the way I perceive things it's got me wanting to get back down to that. And actually as crazy as it sounds I had a little extra meat at 110. No I'm not crazy, women in my family are just that tiny. Heck my grandmother was 97 until after a few kids and I had an aunt like that but they looked healthy. Me at my lowest was 100 but I don't feel like I need to be that I was perfectly fine at 110... And maybe those girls are a bit dramatic but its also pretty hard to lose those couple of pounds even people who come from a higher weight always have trouble losing those last few.
Yeah I agree, when you're tiny, a few pounds does make a large difference on how you look. I'm 4'9 and am usually 100 pounds but when I gained up to 7 pounds in college, you can really see how much fat got stuck on my arms and tummy. Compared to my other siblings, I'm considered the chubby child in my family. :x0 -
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In my mid 20's, when I was a size 20 at 5'8", I worked with this girl who was 5'2" and I'd estimate around a size 2-4. She was a petite 20-something woman who had a little belly bulge due to having an intestinal disorder and also just the way her body was made. People were always asking her if she was pregnant and it REALLY bothered her...like A LOT. Not that I blame her! Anyway, she would get so down on herself and she was upset because she didn't want to lose weight and look sickly (which she did when she lost a few pounds, I saw that myself) but she just was so unhappy with her body.
Another girl we worked with was taller and wore size 6 pants but she had her own issues because she gained about 10 lb in the off season from playing college sports and she felt "fat" and bloated. Her size 6s were not comfortable on her during the off season and you could tell. She was a student on a very tight budget working part-time and she couldn't go to the store and get a bunch of size 8s. In my view, her gaining 10 lb was similar to me (at the time) gaining 35 or 40 lb (later on). Feeling awkward & uncomfortable in her own body!
I knew very well that I was obese (had been for years at that point), but I was fairly happy with my own figure at that time and was down about 10-15 lb from my "usual" weight so I felt great.
I'd say both of those ladies were probably more unhappy with their bodies than I was with my own...a size 20 and sizes 2-4-6...you just never know, people...0 -
I just figure they're idiots like so many others in the world and ignore them. Just hope they don't breed more idiots.0
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Are you sure they didn't mean kilograms?0
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Personally, I distaste people who are either average or underweight making comments toward themselves regarding weight. Like what the heck ladies... I should be in 150's and I was in the 240's and I always think when I hear skinny mini's complaining how thet must think I'm so diguisting. It always made me feel huge and irrelvant.
I completely understand that you feel that way. However, I've never been overweight, always pretty average but I still have days where I feel so incredibly horrible about myself and the way that I look. Not being overweight doesn't make those insecurities go away.
*Bingo!! ^^ That!0 -
Id love to be that thin. I have a bff that was down to 80 lbs at one point...she's 5'8. Anorexic beyond belief. I on the other hand am 6' tall and about 3 times that :sad:
When I hear someone that is that thin and tiny complaining about being fat.....I think maybe if Id THOUGHT THAT WAY WHEN I WAS THAT WEIGHT maybe I wouldnt be fighting to lose all this weight now.
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Chances are she just wanted her friend to tell her she wasn't fat....probably fishing for compliments more than actual disgust with her body.0
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(I'm not sure if I'm replying to your right, MeghanMarie... I do not know how to forum. EDIT: Evidently, definitely do not know how to forum. Sorry - I'd have quoted, but I don't think I can do that going back...)
MeghanMarie, what if she'd been a size 12 a few years ago? And she's only now just fitting into that size 0?
For some context, I used to be up to a size 12 in this one brand (with consistent sizing so I can actually compare reliably! Yay!) - heck, I might've gone up to 16 at one point. I can't remember - I didn't want to.
Now, I'm a size 4, working down to a size 2. Will I ever by a size 0? Probably not, due to bone structure and a stocky, farmer-like build. But maybe I will - some of my other family members are size 0 with a similar structure.
Now, I've gone into change rooms and tried on a size 8, because I still have 25lbs to lose - I can't POSSIBLY fit into something smaller.
... Except I can. And a size 8 becomes a size 6. And then THAT'S too big, so it becomes a size 4. And I'm rejoicing with my friends because I remember when I was a size 12 and just barely squeezing into it.
So someone asking for a size 0 because a size 2 is too big shouldn't be something worth throwing pants at (unless it's the size she's looking for) - it's something to take as a celebration in stride. She's done it - celebrate with her (quietly, in your change room cubicle). Think about it - if you had the same thing happen, wouldn't YOU want someone to celebrate it with you instead of scoff and throw pants at you?
Replying to the OP:
If they were tall ladies, I can see that being a bit disturbing. But if they were like me (barely 5'), I can see it being totally acceptable. If I had maintained at 100lbs for a very long time, but then all of a sudden upped by 5lbs (assuming not due to water weight, shark week or unresolved... issues), I'd be concerned too. I'd tell my friends - because they've supported me in my weight loss and maintaining the loss - and I'm sure they'd be worried and asking about if anything changed.
But I'll agree with you in that a 5lbs difference is totally not worth freaking out over. I've dropped 7+lbs in two days and it turned out it was just water weight and... food on the way out, suffice to say.
That said, it's none of your business. Nor should it affect you. So this skinny lady gained 5lbs and her friends are freaking out - who flips a waffle? Not you. Her body is not yours. They were not talking about you, they were not even looking at you.
If conversations all around you are all of a sudden all ABOUT you, that's not their problem - it's yours. Until that sinks it, you'll find it hard to accept your body and love it. Only you need to love your body - if other people don't, that's not your problem.
You know, you're right. At the time, I was at my original, bigger weight, so that comment resonated with me. Now I would probably just roll my eyes. At my highest, I was a 16, now I'm 8-10 but I still get distressed w myself when I'm trying on pants that numbers wise, should fit, but don't. I know that I could try on 5 different pairs of pants from 5 different places and they will all fit differently but it's still frustrating. So as much as I hate to admit it, I should probably let that fitting room memory go LOL Like I said tho, weight gain is relative, so I realize that 5 extra pounds could make a big difference to someone.0 -
Going from the username, I feel like this is a new incarnation of MayaDaya/BrightCristal/the other 70 usernames this person has created...
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I see more humor in that situation than anything. I'm a big guy now but I'd never ever want to date a woman that was that tiny. At 100 lbs that doesn't leave much room for boobs or an *kitten*, and what about love handles?
There's plenty of room on petite women for curves.0 -
I want to accept my appearance before losing weight....I don't want to feel ashamed and hate my body.......it's a real struggle and hearing these things just reaffirms that other people think I'm fat and "omg what have you been eating"
Don't let other people's hangups about themselves affect how you feel about yourself.
You think that people think that about you because that is what you think when you look at yourself. Not only do you need to learn how to accept and love yourself, you also need to learn to not care about what others think of your appearance.0 -
I overheard a conversation once. It was none of my concern so I stopped listening and went about my business.
Eavesdroppers often hear highly entertaining and instructive things :P
Though in this case just annoying things
My eavesdropping skills are second to none. It provides constant entertainment0 -
When I tough my wife or hold her I prefer not to feel bone.... ugh...
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Yea.... fixed that. I type way to fast and make a lot of things sound / look mildly retarded.
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Going by the logic everyone is commenting, none of us should complain about our weight unless we're 600lbs +. Look, I know it's frustrating hearing a skinny person complain they feel fat. But I'm sure you've all had days where you feel bigger than usual, even if you are in a healthy weight range. It's frustrating. It's a normal thing to feel. Just because they're thin doesn't mean they can't have a low self confidence day or be worried about going up a size. Going up to a size two may seem ridiculous to you, but to someone who has always been a 0 it's a confidence blow.0
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That is just mean. You know what she meant.0
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