Help! He's withering away!

UFITYETXX
UFITYETXX Posts: 38
in Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
My husband is wasting away...his eating habits are atrocious yet he has lost 20 pounds in 2 years...not trying to. How can I get more calories in him. He's pre diabetic on top of everything else...and he refuses to lift weights. His stats are 5'11 139...yuck. no offense.Help!
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  • poohbah4
    poohbah4 Posts: 127
    You can offer him a nutritious balanced diet but you can't force him to eat. You can be an example, but you can't force him to eat. He must take the responsibility for his own health.
  • 120by30
    120by30 Posts: 217 Member
    Tie him up and force-feed him?

    On a serious note, share your concerns with him. Cook high-calorie meals for him. That's all I can think of.
  • vms4evr
    vms4evr Posts: 106 Member
    ...his eating habits are atrocious...

    I'm with poobah. The above is the first thing to address. Until he agrees with you the rest is not going to happen.
  • UFITYETXX
    UFITYETXX Posts: 38
    He's definitely on board with gaining weight. We just need some ideas to get higher calorie Healthier foods in him to gain the weight back. Believe it or not hes a produce manager at a grocery store. But he is so busy he wont eat breakfast or lunch then comes home and eats to pb n j sandwiches...and a pint of ice cream.
  • serindipte
    serindipte Posts: 1,557 Member
    He's definitely on board with gaining weight. We just need some ideas to get higher calorie Healthier foods in him to gain the weight back. Believe it or not hes a produce manager at a grocery store. But he is so busy he wont eat breakfast or lunch then comes home and eats to pb n j sandwiches...and a pint of ice cream.

    Cook him breakfast before he leaves, pack a lunch for him, and cook dinner in the evenings?
  • BurntCoffee
    BurntCoffee Posts: 234 Member
    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.
  • Clarifications
    Clarifications Posts: 22
    Peanutttt butter.
  • Ilikelamps
    Ilikelamps Posts: 482 Member
    no offense? poor guy...maybe he should go see a doctor.
  • Itskaleena
    Itskaleena Posts: 157 Member
    try ensures?
    peanut butter with oatmeal , flax seed and a banana.

    avocado, turkey and egg tomato sandwich

    brown rice pastas
  • SoLongAndThanksForAllTheFish
    SoLongAndThanksForAllTheFish Posts: 831 Member
    Exercise is one thing that helps greatly in people who are pre-diabetic, is there a way to get him to do some kind of moderate exercise for 150 mins per week? Try something he may not think of as exercise, as simple as going on walks with him, biking, hiking, etc. Exercise can also help with increasing the appetite, and getting an evaluation with a physician is a great idea if there seems to be no good reason for the weight loss. I would start with the Dr. visit to make certain there is nothing else going on and check his "pre-diabetic" status...diabetes can cause weight loss too...
  • 120by30
    120by30 Posts: 217 Member
    I apologize for my snarkiness. I misunderstood your question, thinking he didn't care about his weight but you did. I think you're asking how to seriously up his calorie intake while watching what he eats due to his pre-diabetic condition, and my answer would be to seek help from a doctor.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Get off the damn internet and go to the doctor.
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    Get off the damn internet and go to the doctor.

    This.


    I feel bad for your husband, OP
  • stevee290
    stevee290 Posts: 85 Member
    Pasta extra heavy on the oil.
  • amwbox
    amwbox Posts: 576 Member
    Buy half a gallon of heavy cream and start adding it to everything. Cream on oatmeal. Soup made with cream. Mashed potatoes with cream. Cakes and cookies with cream. Pancakes and french toast with cream.

    There are very few things that can't be made awesome by adding cream to them. :D

    Take if from me. It WORKS. lol.
  • Newf77
    Newf77 Posts: 802 Member
    BurntCoffee covered my thoughts. Prior to my PWD diagnoses I was not eating and dropped a lot of weight. You might encourage with all due gentleness a visit to the MD for an A1C.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    :indifferent:
  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    BJ's...The second best kind

    problem solved.

    ETA: You could probably use both kinds creatively if you put some thought into it.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Protein shakes? Get him a shaker bottle and he can drink them at work. You can get the weight gainer ones too (but watch the sugar on those).

    And yes, help from a doctor.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    In case this is for real:
    He could be an actual (not pre-) diabetic or any combination of things listed here. Please take him to a doctor.
    Even if you think he is perfectly well, he should see a doctor periodically.
    http://www.mayoclinic.org/symptoms/unexplained-weight-loss/basics/causes/sym-20050700
  • PDisbennet1
    PDisbennet1 Posts: 3 Member
    When I worked at a care home we had a lot of luck with milkshakes made with a high fat ice cream like haagendaas (Spelling?). We would add different things to them, like protein or ensure. They were always well received and I see that your husband likes ice cream but I agree that you have to watch the sugar. Check with the doctor, maybe they will have other suggestions, too. That's what we pay them for, right?!
  • Phoenix__Rising
    Phoenix__Rising Posts: 9,981 Member
    Tie him up and force-feed him?

    On a serious note, share your concerns with him. Cook high-calorie meals for him. That's all I can think of.


    lol I just thought of 9½Weeks. Seriously you could tie him down and seduce him with food.
  • milyba
    milyba Posts: 49
    My husbands losing weight too...cause he works so much. We talked about it but he just burns it off because of hard work, like way to many hours, but I love him for him not his weight so to me i noticed it realized I can't change it and moved on
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    ^^^^ this

    especially if he's not trying to lose weight!
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    OP, if there is one thing you need to do is convince him to go to the dr. Do not try to feed him high calorie foods or fix the problem in any other way, he needs to see his dr, check if he now has diabetes and getting an eating plan. There is more to health than weight.
  • _KitKat_
    _KitKat_ Posts: 1,066 Member
    Pre diabetic, and he is going without food then eating a pb&j. He is going to turn diabetic if he keeps spiking his glucose. Was he hypo before? Hypo is low blood sugar and when you turn pre, all of a sudden you start spiking high. He needs to see a doctor, and should already be is he was diagnosed pre diabetic. Does he monitor? Weight loss is not normally a symptom, not trying to scare you but he NEEDS to be seen!

    Also not saying it is a woman's place but it is normal for a spouse to look after the other, ever considered cooking dinner? Breakfast? Packing him a lunch?




    Background....husband was hypo at 20 and Pre diabetic at 30, he has always been active, muscular and on the slim side. According to most doctors, he is the opposite of someone at risk of these conditions. Turning pre was the worst because he ate when his sugar was bad, and instead of low he was high and would spike. Now years later he is pretty much clear of it, it seems his body balanced out. He never had weight loss, and was never warned to look for it.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    I'd suggest that he seek a divorce. Going on the Internet and describing one's spouse with the word "yuck" isn't cool
  • UFITYETXX
    UFITYETXX Posts: 38
    He has a Dr appt this week so hopefully we will get some solid answers. Thank you sooo much for the helpful answers. I try to help him every way I can but I cant keep him away from sugar...hes a grown man...lol. I cook for him, encourage him, give him tips, advice etc, but Its up to him I guess.
  • fooninie
    fooninie Posts: 291 Member
    He's definitely on board with gaining weight. We just need some ideas to get higher calorie Healthier foods in him to gain the weight back. Believe it or not hes a produce manager at a grocery store. But he is so busy he wont eat breakfast or lunch then comes home and eats to pb n j sandwiches...and a pint of ice cream.

    Maybe see a doctor? Could be more to it than just eating habits.

    Not sure if I can be super helpful, but how about lots of healthy fats...nuts, coconut oil...what about protein shakes or Boost-type supplements?

    I hope it comes together and you can both be healthy and happy weight-and-otherwise.
  • commanderval
    commanderval Posts: 187 Member
    My ex was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes when he was 28 years old. In a very short period he dropped from 160 pounds to around 140 for 6 feet tall. He was always hungry and thirsty. We went to the doctor and his blood sugar was at 27 when your supposed to be in the range of 4 to 7. Don't mess with diabetes and go see the doctor.

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