Help! He's withering away!

You can offer him a nutritious balanced diet but you can't force him to eat. You can be an example, but you can't force him to eat. He must take the responsibility for his own health.

Exactly!

A grown man who can somehow operate a motor vehicle and get himself to work, but can't figure out how to eat breakfast and lunch -- really? Doesn't know how to order a sandwich at a sub shop? Lots of people are busy. This is a lifestyle choice on his part, and one you can't fix.

I agree, first of all, get some input from his doctor or even a specialist like a endocrinologist regarding improvements to his diet so that he doesn't become diabetic. Taking a bunch of advice from strangers online could mean you're getting bad info - I'm pretty sure not everyone noticed the pre-diabetes thing. The other day, someone asked for advice on breakfast ideas that don't include eggs (due to allergy) and half the responses said "eat eggs". See what I mean?

You could also check out the American Diabetes Association website for info on foods, recipes, etc.

http://www.diabetes.org/

Second, once your armed with info, sit down and plan some meals and snacks that he can eat quickly. He gets breaks, he needs to start taking them.

Good luck!

OP, if there is one thing you need to do is convince him to go to the dr. Do not try to feed him high calorie foods or fix the problem in any other way, he needs to see his dr, check if he now has diabetes and getting an eating plan. There is more to health than weight.

This^. My mother is diabetic and she had to see a nutrition dr., she has to eat low-carb. food and she has to eat small meals but 5 to times a day. not less than 2200 calories per day.

People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

Ditto!! Get him to go to a doctor. My brother in law started losing a bunch of weight and when he went to the doctor, they found out he WAS diabetic!!

Ge had bloodwork done a month ago and the test showed that he was in the pre diabetic stage but it was for insurance purposes so I dont think his doctor knows about it. He is going to take results with him. No its a lifestyle choice for him. He is ADHD and blames his forgetting to eat on it...

The insurance blood work is hopefully a wake-up call to your husband. He needs to take that info to his doctor and follow up. The doctor won't receive that information directly from the insurance company. Don't let him blow it off because he's too busy with work.

Ge had bloodwork done a month ago and the test showed that he was in the pre diabetic stage but it was for insurance purposes so I dont think his doctor knows about it. He is going to take results with him. No its a lifestyle choice for him. He is ADHD and blames his forgetting to eat on it...

I don't think I can stress this enough, but he needs to see a doctor immediately. Like today.

I can understanding forgetting to eat once and a while, but we have this thing called hunger and if he's not experiencing it and losing weight he doesn't have to lose that could be a whole host of issues that are very serious.

What's his energy level? Is he happy?

People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

Yep. Diabetics dropping weight is not normally a good sign. Doctor first, and then discuss his diet with the doctor.

And please don't use "yuck" to describe your husband who seems to be having medical problems. Poor guy.

For all of those saying go to a doctor I completely agree. My husband is diabetic and he is 6 feet and was at 220, his weight started to drop and he was the "garbage disposal" of eating. He wound up with gastro parisis (sp?), end stage kidney failure and congestive heart failure within a year! He was going to the doctor regularly but his symptoms just piled on quickly.


Better to be safe than sorry.

I would be devastated if my husband said "yuck" about my body

Focus on the health aspect and see a nutritionist since he needs specialized help.

My husband is wasting away...his eating habits are atrocious yet he has lost 20 pounds in 2 years...not trying to. How can I get more calories in him. He's pre diabetic on top of everything else...and he refuses to lift weights. His stats are 5'11 139...yuck. no offense.Help!

Wow, your poor husband... On top of being skinny, he has to deal with a partner who publicly writes "yuck" about his physical appearance.

no offense? poor guy...maybe he should go see a doctor.

Yes. Unintentional weight loss is a sign of cancer, so instead of bashing his appearance, I'd get him to the doctor.

I don't know if this is a troll post...

The "Yuck" comment makes me sad.
"No offense" doesn't make it better.
If you were the one that wasn't at ideal weight and had health problems, How would you feel if the person closest to you referred to you as "Yuck"?

He has health issues and needs to see a doctor that can recommend appropriate course of action and possibly see a nutritionist.

There are many health issues that can cause weight loss and they can be serious. It is not an issue of vanity or yucky. Maybe once he gets his underlying health issues under control he will feel well enough to work out.

Oatmeal - made with a can of coconut milk - throw in some fruit like blueberries... add some chocolate chips ... it's rich, decadent - and enough calories to probably feed a family in one bowl.