I've lost 43lbs, and nobody has noticed.

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  • MissFlab2Fab2014
    MissFlab2Fab2014 Posts: 109
    I'd love to see before and afters :)

    Let us motivate you, sometimes like many ppl said others do not comment because they dont know if it is intentional or not and if they say "wow you look great." you may think "so I didn't look great before?"

    I complimented a resident at my apt community about her tremendous weighloss she was losing weight on purpose I could tell being a military spouse and her husband on deployment and participating in a weightloss group/competition prior to the boys coming home... but I was nervous to say anything because she may be offended that Id never complimented her before. She thankfully was very happy to hear and told me all about her work outs etc, but its a touchy subject. WE ALL KNOW THIS.
  • Happy_Niss
    Happy_Niss Posts: 95 Member
    It's not easy when nobody notices, but that's probably because they see you all the time. When you're around somebody all the time, they don't notice changes that take a long time, such as aging. Say something! And mostly, be proud of yourself! Besides, that's what matters :)
  • ziggyc
    ziggyc Posts: 191 Member
    This is my first post here but I have used the app for awhile. I am only 5'4 and since November I have gone from 176lbs to 133. I look and feel like a new person, looking at me now and old pictures make me amazed at what I have done! But it is a bit... unmotivating (I wanna keep going to 125-120) that not a single family member, coworker, nobody has said anything. My boyfriend noticed and compliments me on it... but then again... he sees me naked. Back to the point I feel like maybe my loss is not so big and that I am thinking too highly of what I have done. It makes me sad. I may post a before and after to show... but has anyone else experienced losing a lot of weight and nobody noticing? :(
    Well I am super impressed by your success so bravo!!! I struggle so much that whenever I read a success story like yours all I can think is "I am not worthy!!"
    Congrats girl :-)
  • pita7317
    pita7317 Posts: 1,437 Member
    Look in the mirror and smile. Instead of just looking in it because you have to.
    Then pull out your drivers license (old pic).
    Works wonders for me.
    As for comments from others...great to hear them, but if not, who cares ?
    You are doing this for yourself and no one else.
  • ziggyc
    ziggyc Posts: 191 Member
    As a side note, one of my bosses at work that I don't see very often suddenly started losing a ton of weight and I never said anything because I wasn;t sure if he was doing it on purpose or if he was sick. Turned out it was all good but it was so drastic for a while that I wasn't sure and wasn't comfortable enough with him to address it.
  • MuseofSong
    MuseofSong Posts: 322 Member
    Get new clothes!

    My clothes billow around me. I still want to loose more, and it's obviously impractical to buy a new wardrobe every 20 pounds, but I by new articles of clothing to slowly downsize my overall wardrobe. Baggy shirts make you look the same size. If you don't have anything that's your size, you look the same size.

    My co-workers realize that I lost weight when I slide into a student sized desk with room to spare and my flowing blouse collapses down around me. That's when I hear it. Wow, you look look like you're losing weight! Just walking around though, my blouses are loose, so you can't tell I'm smaller unless the wind blows my clothing against me or somebody hugs me.

    The thing is I'm so darn shy that I don't like to wear anything that's form fitting. But even buying loose blouses or tunic tops that are ~my size~ instead of wearing my old clothes make a difference in how big I look. So, that's my advice. Try a smaller top.
  • Antlady69
    Antlady69 Posts: 204 Member
    Don't feel discouraged! People who see you every day will not notice the difference so much - because they see you EVERY DAY. It's the nature of the beast that changes which take place slowly - like your weight loss - are not noticed as much by those who see you every day, because every day their brains get used to the "daily new you".

    Casually pull out an older photo and show it around - under some pretext, if you feel uncomfortable otherwise, like a party or a walk down memory lane. I bet people will remark on the difference then!

    Or meet up with someone who hasn't seen you in a while. They will notice!
  • msbhavesalot
    msbhavesalot Posts: 15
    I think people *do notice, but weight is such a touchy subject to begin with. I think you've done a fantastic job and you should be proud of yourself! Don't diminish the work you've put into the weightloss, it is a big deal! In the end, you don't do it for others - you do it for yourself. Yes, it is a bummer nobody notices except your boyfriend but as someone pointed out before, it could as well be of jealousy people don't say anything. If it makes you feel any better, nobody's been pointing out my loss either - not even my family which I see maybe once a year and very well notice the difference... Don't let it get you down, keep pushing - and if nobody tells you how well you've done, you do it yourself. Every day. And believe it, because it's true.
  • KarenB927
    KarenB927 Posts: 94 Member
    I once complimented my brother's sister-in-law on her weight loss. Turns out she had been sick and that's why she lost all the weight she did.
  • knra_grl
    knra_grl Posts: 1,566 Member
    Maybe you aren't noticing the way they say it? Rather than say "hey you have lost so much weight!" has anyone said "hey you look great today!" ??
  • elyanta
    elyanta Posts: 11
    Who have you told that you are working on losing weight. The only people who have said anything about my weight loss are people I told. And I kinda wish I hadn't told my mom and sister because they are less than encouraging when I say where I want to be weight wise. God forbid I be happy with my body at a smaller sizer than them. I think if you have a good support system that is great but the most important thing is that you are healthy and happy with your self.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    First off, ANY LOSS IS BIG!!!! don't discredit yourself because people aren't complementing you.

    A few things -- some people may notice but don't want to say anything. If you are wearing the same clothes, and haven't bought any to show off your new curves people may not notice, etc. There are a million things BUT... you did the work and you deserve a pat on the back for it.

    Just remember, you lost the weight for you, not them.. be proud of yourself.
  • moautry
    moautry Posts: 12 Member
    When someone sees you everyday, its so gradual that its hard to notice. There have been people who work in my building who have lost a lot of weight, and it took me a while to realize it. "Didn't she used to be pudgy?" And baggy clothes are not slimming, so make sure your clothes fit your new size.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    I don't make comments on people's weight loss after seeing a co-worker go from over 300lbs down to 130-140lbs in a very short period of time. Turns out she had weight-loss surgery that went severely wrong. She looks like she aged 20 years.
  • Cheriemightyfit
    Cheriemightyfit Posts: 3
    You are doing great! :smile:

    I once told someone she looked terrific (after losing about 20 pounds) and she said "what, did I look that bad before??" so I am hesitant to say anything now. I want to be supportive but she took it as criticism. Ah well.
  • madworld1
    madworld1 Posts: 524
    I sometimes don't say anything to people when I have noticed that they lost weight. I am always afraid that it will offend them. I like when people mention that I look like I have lost weight. But, I have known others that get offended even when they are complimented on weight loss.
  • DeeBerning
    DeeBerning Posts: 131 Member
    First of all,congratulations! That is an amazing accomplishment.

    Don't take the lack of acknowledgment personally. There could be many things at play there. Some people are very aware that a person's weight loss or gain is very personal and may not want to approach the subject. Others may be jealous. Just keep in mind that you lost the weight for you, not them..... and celebrate your victory.

    Buy yourself some cute, fitting outfits and walk with pride.

    WE are all proud of you and happy for your.
  • MemphisBeat
    MemphisBeat Posts: 3
    You have noticed, and you are the only one that truly matters. We all want to be acknowledged for our hard work if we want to admit it or not. Truth is, our journey is about us and only us. Most people are apprehensive for acknowledging weiht loss. it like they saying "hey your not fat anymore".

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