how skinny is sexy?
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At your present weight your interpretation of his feelings might be off - he is probably more worried about your health than concerned about "sexiness". Your present weight is a health issue and not a matter of personal preference for a particular aesthetic.
Awhile back you posted three pictures of you ranging from your present weight to 160 lbs and the replies to "which do you think is best" resulting in both the medium and higher weight (or something inbetween) being the results for all the posters who replied. People weren't judging whether you were sexy or not with the 3rd photo but they did express genuine concern for you. Perhaps with professional advice you can get back to a happy and healthy "medium" for you. Men's taste will always differ from man to man (or perhaps even with time of day :-) so I wouldn't even consider this.0 -
A healthy weight for a woman who is 5'6", is 130lbs, by that standard you are 35 lbs underweight. That is likely your husbands issue. He is more than likely concerned, because that is unhealthy. I am only 5 feet tall and 95lbs is even too low for me. By medical standards, I should be around 100 lbs. However, when I started working with my trainer and told him my goal was 100lbs, he said that was too low and that a toned 115 to 120 was a better goal for me...at 100 lbs I would be too skinny and lose all of my curves.
Personally, I think you are focusing on weight being the primary factor in what is considered sexy. I don't always think that is the case. For some, it may be, but everybody has their own interpretation of what is sexy and it doesn't neccesarily have anything to do with body shape or size. I am very curvy and still have quite a ways to go before I reach my goal, but for some reason men still find me attractive. So, it can't be solely about weight or body shape for everyone. It could be, eyes, lips, smile, hair, legs, butt, boobs or just the ways she carries herself, that someone finds sexy. I had a couple of guy friends tell me it is about confidence for them more than anything else, however, for others, that might not be the case.
As others have said, the fact that your husband seems unhappy with you may have absolutely nothing to do with your weight or your shape. Have you tried discussing it with him? If not, my suggestion to you would be to do so. Good luck.0 -
I wonder if there is a way to stage a MyFitnessPal intervention. Can a user's account be cancelled when she is clearly using MFP to slowly kill herself via eating disorder? I'm actually not kidding. I actually thinking this forum might be enabling the original poster in her illness.0
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I wonder if there is a way to stage a MyFitnessPal intervention. Can a user's account be cancelled when she is clearly using MFP to slowly kill herself via eating disorder? I'm actually not kidding. I actually thinking this forum might be enabling the original poster in her illness.
Not that I agree with the OP or her eating habits, but I do know that many with eating disorders/disordered eating use this site as a very important tool in their very controlled eating schedules. If taken away they would either make a new account, find a new logging site, or at the very worst, not feel safe eating at all because their safety net (MFP) was taken away. Very counter productive. Just my opinion though.0 -
It all depends on his preferences. Its not a one size fits all.
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This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!0 -
This is a true story, when I was younger and up to almost the most that I have ever weighed... my first husband took some lingerie photos of me (I was totally covered like a bathing suit and I was like 290 lbs at 5'8", so I was HUGE). After that , Things went really badly for my marriage. He was a jerk and was cheating on me with other very heavy women (and one who looked "butch" and was even larger than me). I was very very depressed and pretty much stopped eating due to depression (which obviously was not the normal for me). I lost weight and then started feeling better about myself and started eating better, exercising more (the eating was the main thing) and left the jerk.
So about a year after those photos were taken, I was on an online dating site. And met a guy who liked big chicks (I was about 200 lbs then and pretty about losing but still a BBW:) . He asked if I had any photos and I only had that one photo scanned and sent it to him when I was close to 300 lbs. I told him that I was losing weight and was about 200 lbs and would send him another photo when I could get a friend to take one (my cam at the time didn't have a timer). So took this great photo and I was so happy with the results. I looked so great, everyone was saying how great that I looked. I sent it to the guy who had gone totally NUTS over the first photo, thinking that he would really go nuts over the skinnier me... he didn't. He said he really liked girls around 300-400 lbs... wtf???
While most guys seem to prefer a woman thinner to slightly more meaty women (like say Christian Hendricks)...there are those who like women up who are Massively huge. There are even videos and magazines for men that like women over 500 lbs. YA, it's freaky.
I don't know, I like a man like my present husband who likes me for my my personality, wit, etc and regardless of if I have been very big or fairly small, he still loves me and supports me and tells me that I am sexy and hot. I know for sure he will love me regardless after 20 years together and the scale going up and down (lately it's been steadily downward)0 -
Have you READ the thread? Did you READ the OP?This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!0 -
Have you READ the thread? Did you READ the OP?This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!
Er..excuse me?
I can read. Thanks!
Sorry if I happen to think it's lame to ask total strangers on the internetzzzzz how much a person should weigh to be considered sexy. If she's that underweight, maybe she should actually ask her husband...just a thought.0 -
Have you READ the thread? Did you READ the OP?This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!
Er..excuse me?
I can read. Thanks!
Sorry if I happen to think it's lame to ask total strangers on the internetzzzzz how much a person should weigh to be considered sexy. If she's that underweight, maybe she should actually ask her husband...just a thought.
If I remember correctly from her other posts, her husband wants her to gain weight and she is afraid to because she is anorexic. Now she says she is trying to find the "right" weight for her but imho is looking for excuses to stay the weight she is.0 -
I wonder if there is a way to stage a MyFitnessPal intervention. Can a user's account be cancelled when she is clearly using MFP to slowly kill herself via eating disorder? I'm actually not kidding. I actually thinking this forum might be enabling the original poster in her illness.
If you read any of the clean eating threads, it consistently comes up that there is the potential for developing Orthorexia nervosa. As a clean eater, I find this to be fear mongering especially when it comes up on the forums almost daily that someone is basically abusing the calorie tracker on MFP to lose an unhealthy amount of weight. MFP provides the tool but how it is used is up to the member. Only a very small segment of the MFP community use the forums so at best only a very, very small number of members abusing the calorie tracker are caught. MFP does cancel their accounts but nothing stops them from creating a new account and staying under the radar to continue with what they are doing. This is a major flaw to calorie counting in that the method does support eating disorders. That being said it is virtually impossible for MFP or any other site to stop a member from abusing the calorie counting tool. Even if they could, there are oodles of stand alone free/paid apps and software to achieve the same goal. Sadly, these folks will continue along that path of self-destruction until such time they seek help themselves or are forced to.0 -
This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!
No, it's Jeebus! 0 -
OK, let's end this once and for all!!! You are all sexy OK!!!! Its difficult to measure sexiness with a weight or a picture for that matter!! What makes you sexy is your smile, your personality, your drive, the way you walk, the way you speak, your passions among many more things!! Yes, some women may have better physical attributes then others, that doesn't make them less or more sexy... We are all here to improve ourselves, let's help each other, and try to feel comfortable in the skin we are in, we could always improve.
Hail Caesar!!!!0 -
I am 5'6" and weigh 120. Look trim and slim. At one time after motorcycle wreck I weighed 95 and looked like "H". Dr's were concerned about anorexia (no-ate like crazy but burned it up recovering for a couple years). Consult with your health professional for a good weight for you and examine what is going on between you and your husband.0
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Have you READ the thread? Did you READ the OP?This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!
Er..excuse me?
I can read. Thanks!
Sorry if I happen to think it's lame to ask total strangers on the internetzzzzz how much a person should weigh to be considered sexy. If she's that underweight, maybe she should actually ask her husband...just a thought.
So it's lame to ask the question, but not lame to offer a snarky response. Got it.0 -
Have you READ the thread? Did you READ the OP?This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!
Er..excuse me?
I can read. Thanks!
Sorry if I happen to think it's lame to ask total strangers on the internetzzzzz how much a person should weigh to be considered sexy. If she's that underweight, maybe she should actually ask her husband...just a thought.
If you read the OP why would you suggest she ask her husband what he thinks? In the OP she says that her husband doesn't like her at her current weight.0 -
And you'd see that she's DANGEROUSLY underweight.
Have you READ the thread? Did you READ the OP?This thread is lame.
OP - how about you ask the person who's opinion SHOULD matter. Yourself, maybe? Your husband?
Geezus!
Er..excuse me?
I can read. Thanks!
Sorry if I happen to think it's lame to ask total strangers on the internetzzzzz how much a person should weigh to be considered sexy. If she's that underweight, maybe she should actually ask her husband...just a thought.
If you read the OP why would you suggest she ask her husband what he thinks? In the OP she says that her husband doesn't like her at her current weight.0 -
I personally find underweight women to be absolutely repulsive. Serious no schwing zone. Less attractive than morbidly obese even.
Though fit or curvy are the most attractive IMHO, with fit and curvy (dat *kitten*) taking the cake.
I guess I'm repulsive. lol
In the stars, you keep bringing it back to you. I don't think ANYONE here is referring to you. Why do you do that? Just asking....not looking to argue, so, peace, ok?
It's not about me, there are other members that are both thin and fit. Peace.
Thin does not necessarily mean underweight. And it's probably as hard to be fit and underweight as it is to be fit and overweight. Neither is impossible, but it's not common.
I am not common. Sad, but I'm the normal one here.0 -
So today's society confuses me. There are girls who are super skinny that men find attractive, but then there are women who are curvy and a little 'chubby' that is attractive. So what would the ideal sexy weight be for a woman of 5'6"? The reason I ask is because I want my husband to be happy with me and he doesn't seem very happy with me at 95 lbs...so any advice?
Research seem to support that attractiveness is not so much linked to weight as much as general indicators of health and fertility.
-hip to waist ratio
-symmetry
-absence of outward signs of disease
Things we've been explicitly programmed to subconsciously see as indicators that a partner is healthy and has good genetics. At biological level were still programmed to try to maximize the genetics of our offspring.0 -
I personally find underweight women to be absolutely repulsive. Serious no schwing zone. Less attractive than morbidly obese even.
Though fit or curvy are the most attractive IMHO, with fit and curvy (dat *kitten*) taking the cake.
I guess I'm repulsive. lol
In the stars, you keep bringing it back to you. I don't think ANYONE here is referring to you. Why do you do that? Just asking....not looking to argue, so, peace, ok?
It's not about me, there are other members that are both thin and fit. Peace.
Thin does not necessarily mean underweight. And it's probably as hard to be fit and underweight as it is to be fit and overweight. Neither is impossible, but it's not common.
I am not common. Sad, but I'm the normal one here.
I don't know what you mean. You are the normal one where? And why is it sad?0 -
So today's society confuses me. There are girls who are super skinny that men find attractive, but then there are women who are curvy and a little 'chubby' that is attractive. So what would the ideal sexy weight be for a woman of 5'6"? The reason I ask is because I want my husband to be happy with me and he doesn't seem very happy with me at 95 lbs...so any advice?
I would say you are on the skinny side. I my humble opinion I would say anyone taller than 5' even should be well above 95 lbs. I really don't mind feeling muscles when I hug a woman but I know I would hate to fee bones!!0 -
I personally find underweight women to be absolutely repulsive. Serious no schwing zone. Less attractive than morbidly obese even.
Though fit or curvy are the most attractive IMHO, with fit and curvy (dat *kitten*) taking the cake.
I guess I'm repulsive. lol
In the stars, you keep bringing it back to you. I don't think ANYONE here is referring to you. Why do you do that? Just asking....not looking to argue, so, peace, ok?
It's not about me, there are other members that are both thin and fit. Peace.
Thin does not necessarily mean underweight. And it's probably as hard to be fit and underweight as it is to be fit and overweight. Neither is impossible, but it's not common.
I am not common. Sad, but I'm the normal one here.
I don't know what you mean. You are the normal one where? And why is it sad?
pssst....quit while you're ahead.....0 -
I am normal in tampa, it is sad because there are heavy people elsewhere.0
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I am normal in tampa, it is sad because there are heavy people elsewhere.
I've been to Tampa several times.0 -
I would say you are on the skinny side. I my humble opinion I would say anyone taller than 5' even should be well above 95 lbs. I really don't mind feeling muscles when I hug a woman but I know I would hate to fee bones!!
mmhmmm...0 -
Honestly I would just go to a doctor and get their opinion. Maybe your frame is smaller so that weight is fine for you. I'm 5'6 but I'm no where near 95 lbs I'm 174 and a larger frame. I could stand to lose a little more but my doctor doesn't see it as a problem since I use to be 265. I'm sure doctors take many considerations whether you are over or underweight such as blood results, body frame, ect. Everyone is built differently and if it was a real issue they would tell you. If results show that you are healthy then I wouldn't change anything for anyone.0
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I am normal in tampa, it is sad because there are heavy people elsewhere.
I've been to Tampa several times.
annnd?0 -
Does it matter what men on here find attractive? Is your husband on here?
He's the one you're married to soooooo ask him if you're seriously going to change yourself to make him happy0 -
"The reason I ask is because I want my husband to be happy with me and he doesn't seem very happy with me at 95 lbs...so any advice?"
Find another husband. Be happy because you want to, not for others. That's it. It's not a matter of weight, it's a matter of your self esteem and how good do you feel and how healthy you are.0 -
"The reason I ask is because I want my husband to be happy with me and he doesn't seem very happy with me at 95 lbs...so any advice?"
Find another husband. Be happy because you want to, not for others. That's it. It's not a matter of weight, it's a matter of your self esteem and how good do you feel and how healthy you are.
You do realize she is like verge of death skinny, right? Sub 100 lbs at her height should be in a hospital.
There are like zero males attracted to that, even vaguely. It is downright disgusting.
Do you find walking skeletons attractive?0
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