Why bother?!

Do you stop wearing clean underwear because nobody comments on how clean they are?

interesting analogy...LOL

Because you're worth it.


Oh wait, I sound like a commercial.

I think this is how it goes "diet pills, 200 dollars, body wrap, 50 dollars, your health, priceless"... Or did I get that backward?

I'm in a healthy weight range now (but didn't used to be). I've lost around 28lbs, yet not one person has commented on the change. Why do I even bother? Why don't I just eat a loada ice cream and cake since I obviously looked the same when I was 28lbs heavier?!

No, a resounding no. Just my 2 cents. If you are around the same people every day they may not notice. However, if you see relatives and friends you saw when you were heavier and see again they may or may not say anything because weight is a touchy personal subject for many. Keep up the awesome work and dont get discouraged

Do you stop wearing clean underwear because nobody comments on how clean they are?

Why does everyone have to take things so literally and seriously..she's obviously making a sarcastic comment...venting if not but someone always has to be the almighty....anyways I feel your pain. ...it's always a great feeling when others notice

This is interesting to me and have been thinking about this, but I forgot to post- sorry, I'm not intending to hijack the thread.

Most people want to "lose" weight (or manage their weight, rather). They set goals, follow a process, etc. But they really have it all wrong.

Because their goal is not to lose weight - is to look better and get compliments. Or feel better. Or be fitter. Sure, weight management can be a large component of it, but confounding your goals leads to dissatisfaction

I commented this to a (female) friend a long time ago. She was quite surprised and was about to argue, but then I mentioned she could tie the components to the real objective (she wanted to look good): after you lose x amount that you want off, get a haircut. If you lose y more, then get that dress you wanted. And so on.

We people are weird and sometimes lose sight of the true motivation.

Oddly enough I'm getting compliments but not seeing the difference myself. The only change that I see is that my belt needs to be pulled further to be tight, but my gut seems to be the same size. All the same I've got a bunch of people saying that I definitely look skinnier.

I had a conversation with a coworker about this stuff the other day. We are pretty close. He said people do notice but most choose not to say anything because it's a very gray area and sensitive topic. Sometimes you think you pay a compliment but outcome could be totally reverse.

I had a conversation with a coworker about this stuff the other day. We are pretty close. He said people do notice but most choose not to say anything because it's a very gray area and sensitive topic. Sometimes you think you pay a compliment but outcome could be totally reverse.

This is true. "Have you lost weight?" Can easily be translated to "You're a fatass, but not quite as big as before." by a lot of people.

I'm in a healthy weight range now (but didn't used to be). I've lost around 28lbs, yet not one person has commented on the change. Why do I even bother? Why don't I just eat a loada ice cream and cake since I obviously looked the same when I was 28lbs heavier?!

Sometimes people don't say a word because saying "you look great, did you lose weight", implies that you have been considered overweight before.
Stef.
Edit: sorry did not read all the answers and have just seen others posted the same before me.

I'm down a little over 80 pounds and it wasn't until I was down the first 40 or so that people began to occasionally comment. Even now, they are very few and far between. Mostly, people don't want to embarrass someone who may be sick or have other issues that cause weight loss. Just because they don't say anything doesn't mean they don't notice. Make a light hearted, self deprecating crack about your weight loss and see if they don't open up. Some just need a bit of an invitation.

This exactly. Also if the weight loss was super gradual and you see someone all the time, they may not realize the change. However, if it was super quick, they may think you have some Illness where you are struggling to keep weight on.. Weight is a hard thing to talk about. People would rather not risk offending you, rather than give you a compliment. I've lost a good amount of weight and people are very sheepish about mentioning it, even if it's kind obvious. Don't take it to heart too much.

There can be any couple of reasons for this.

1. It may be that they just have not noticed yet... Is there a difference? Of course. but I did not really hear people telling me how much I had lost until much later in the process... I was probably down about 50-60 lbs before I heard many comments.

2. People may be being polite. There are those who don't feel comfortable discussing these matters with you. It implies that they thought you WERE overweight and they may not want to take that step yet.

Now, really, you need to lose weight for yourself. It is nice for others to notice... It is really encouraging when that happens. If others noticing is really important to you, post some before/after pics on this site ... most of us are more likely to be supportive of each other because we are all focused on similar goals.. We are encouraged by your progress.

BTW .. you are down 28 lbs... Congrats. That is quite an accomplishment and best wishes on your further success... AND, if you want that cake and ice cream.. enjoy it.. Then get back to work creating a new you...

This is assuming that the only reason you lost the weight is to look better. I'm sure your knees are telling you you look much better.

You shouldn't be bothered whether someone is commenting or not. A positive comment or two are a bonus. The weightloss is meant to be for you and you alone. You're the one putting in the effort/work. Its your body. Your health. Try and stay strong and remember WHY you're on this journey xxx

Never do this for anyone but yourself. When your weight and emotions depend on others, it's time for a reality check. Love yourself and see results.