your worse or humiliating experience when fat?

Having my dad ask a friend if she knew someone who would take me to the prom. She actually did but he called the day of the prom and said he had to work. After I'd bought a dress and had my hair done. I never got to my prom either my junior or senior year.

:noway:
Never got to go either ... got kicked out of the schools right before it came up both times...

:sad: :sad:

maybe I could have taken ya :flowerforyou:

I'm continuously amazed at how mean people can be. I've had my share of weight related meanness, but some of these stories are so hugely...I don't even have words. lol


edited for speeling.

"You are too big to date"

Yeah that one, an evil loop that then turns into more food

I was out running and 2 young guys in a car yelled rude things at me.
I was having my wedding dress fitted and the stupid seamstress kept calling me a "big beautiful girl." I wanted to smack her.
A guy I had a crush on told me that he'd date me if I lost 20 lbs. (I was a size 8 then)
My kid came home from school upset because some of his friends had been laughing at me behind my back.
A homeless guy sang Queen's "Fat Bottomed Girls" at me on a busy city street.
Some teenagers sang "Baby Got Back" at me when I walked past them.

Can't think of any more right now, but there are plenty.

My mom has been stick thin her whole life and she's totally clueless about what it means to be fat. We went shopping together for a professional wardrobe for me. She headed straight for the women's department. I tried to quietly tell her that nothing in this department would fit me. She has a loud voice and she said "don't be silly. They have a 16 here and an18 here". I said that I wore a 22. She exclaimed .Oh my god! Do they even sell clothes that big in regular stores?.. I showed her the plus size department. She kept saying.. My god these clothes are huge! You could use this one as a tent!... It was awful.

This is why I never go shopping with anyone. Too many traumatic experiences.

Oh I just remembered another one but it's not me it was a friend. Somebody in a bar called her a fat stupid *****. She turned to the guy and said "I may be fat and I may be a ***** but I'm not stupid!" and she punched him in the face!

Wow, there are some really mean things here. I, for the most part have not experienced much ridicule. I only got overweight in high school (around 16) WORST TIME, actually, but still didn't have people saying anything to my face then.

One thing comes to mind though. Right after I had my daughter (back in 2008) I was in grad school and with a group of 10 classmates and a professor at a studio critique. I had given birth just a couple weeks earlier and one of my classmates said, "Wow, I didn't even know you were pregnant! You've always been kind of ... (insert puffed cheeks & hand/arm gestures to indicate the roundness of a fat body)" This was in front of everyone and made me feel bad about myself (a rare thing). I have a pretty thick skin, but whether or not it may have been true I was horrified and lost respect for her immediately. I mean, seriously, who does that? It was such a rude thing to do and was shocked by it.

On the "look" THIS I totally understand. I've experienced this more than anything else. It can be just as bad, but again, I am pretty hard to shake, so I just try to chalk it up to people own insecurities or rotten personalities even though it sometimes hurts.

There are some really terrible people out there, unfortunately.

Having one of my mom's friends see me at work and say "you're too pretty to be so fat!" :grumble:

When people try to tickle me. Ughh

When I was younger I remember always having to go diets - I went on Atkins and WeightWatchers (I remember being in 5th grade and going to a swim party at school and a teacher complimenting me on losing weight) and being made to work out, which I hated, so much that sometimes I'd cry. Now I look back on pictures from around then and in high school and I really wasn't even that fat? Overweight, a bit, but far from what I'd been made to think I looked like. Now I'm obese and working on slimming down and everyone in my family is complimenting me and telling me how 'proud' they are of me - which is nice, I guess, but it makes me wonder what happens if I gain back the weight (which I don't intend to do at all! But who knows)?

I haven't gotten many comments about my weight recently though, although my siblings would sometimes call me fat when I was younger. I do remember a year or two ago my sister was talking about going on a diet or something and my uncle made a remark about 'you going on it too?'

I understand. I'm at my heaviest ever, even heavier than I was when I was pregnant and although I'm at the beginning of my journey, I want to get down to about 180. I've never been small and that's where I was comfortable. Plus if I'm healthy as far as my other numbers go, I'm good. I'm proud of you! Keep up the good work. You're an inspiration to me!

1. When you go to a store and you hear one cashier whisper to the other " will anything here fit that chick? ' fml
2. When your at the beach, pool, or any swim suit situation
3. When you've packed a larger lunch and you see a skinnier girl staring at you with diguisted looks.
4. Gym class! in High school.. fml


Just being overweight in general.

Honestly, I can't read any more of this thread... is it any wonder people develop eating disorders?

Other than my now ex husband telling me I was not attractive because of my weight, I have never had a problem with people, because I usually avoid my fellow man.... and this thread tells me I should continue doing so.

But to everyone else who posted in this thread.. thank you for having the courage to post, and all my love to you. It may not mean much, but I hope that you never have to go through that kind of pain again.

the worst thing. Easy. My husband saying he was leaving because I was fat, finding out he has been having an affair for months.

C.right after my gallbladder surgery my mom pops in with, "would you ever consider bypass".
Thanks mom.

Ouch!