Crying

NatalieBrooke88
NatalieBrooke88 Posts: 240 Member
edited September 22 in Motivation and Support
So, this guy I have been semi dating (or something like that) just called me. He screams my name and then I hear in the background his roommate scream "Hey, is that the fat girl you're talking to". It really tore me apart. Yeah, I was fat, and yes I have more weight to lose, but the comment cut me to the core. Perhaps, I am too sensitive, words can hurt so bad.
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  • LilynEdensmom
    LilynEdensmom Posts: 612 Member
    *hugs* I'm sorry you had to hear that...Guys can be jerks (not all but alot)
  • roylawrence87
    roylawrence87 Posts: 970 Member
    What an *kitten*. He was probably messing with the guy anyway. Please don't take it too personal. It was meant as a joke to demean your bf. To bring him down. You understand?
  • Saharali
    Saharali Posts: 1
    HI Natalie,
    what a jerk?!
    You're so pretty! and so not fat.
    Focus on your good points so the bad ones don't bring you down and away from you goals.
  • kanonxbou47
    kanonxbou47 Posts: 265 Member
    Wow, what a jerk. I'm sorry that happened to you. :(( -hugs-
  • emmaleigh47
    emmaleigh47 Posts: 1,670 Member
    So, this guy I have been semi dating (or something like that) just called me. He screams my name and then I hear in the background his roommate scream "Hey, is that the fat girl you're talking to". It really tore me apart. Yeah, I was fat, and yes I have more weight to lose, but the comment cut me to the core. Perhaps, I am too sensitive, words can hurt so bad.

    What a jerk ... your picture is absolutely beautiful.
    I would bet you are beautiful on the inside too ... HUGS... people suck sometimes!
  • ktbug1186
    ktbug1186 Posts: 266
    Umm, your drop dead gorgeous!!! his room mate WISHES he could get someone like you!!!!
  • HealthyHereICome
    HealthyHereICome Posts: 36
    I just looked at your photos and you are SO not fat!! You're gorgeous!! I agree that the guy in the background was just messing with the guy you're dating. He probably doesn't even know what you look like and was just playing around. That being said, if the guy you're dating didn't stick up for you, forget him!
  • classyleo77
    classyleo77 Posts: 98 Member
    Aww hun, from the looks of your pics you are GORGEOUS and not fat in the least bit!! How did the guy ur dating react when his roommate said that? Guys are stupid sometimes. I'd tell them both to kick rocks and go find yourself someone that can see how much you rock!!!
  • jasminebaggins
    jasminebaggins Posts: 22 Member
    That guy most likely has issues that have nothing to do with you.

    I'm sorry though.
  • karahauge
    karahauge Posts: 2
    Don't be sad and hurt!!!! Get mad!!!! Take it out on your tredmill, eliptical, or weights... and in a couple of months when you 'accidentialy' run into him you can cherrish that look on his face when he sees how hot you look!!!!
  • TaraMaria
    TaraMaria Posts: 1,975
    What an *kitten*. He was probably messing with the guy anyway. Please don't take it too personal. It was meant as a joke to demean your bf. To bring him down. You understand?

    This is the first thing I thought...This was meant as a jerk messing with a jerk. He was trying to not only demean your boyfriend but also make your boyfriend look like an *kitten*. Which he succeeded. However, the guy you are dating should not be hanging around with creeps like that. You are GORGEOUS! That whole phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me?" Bologna. But don't give the jerk any power. Its not true so don't focus on it. You are beautiful and that moron obviously should feel lucky he's dating you. :flowerforyou:
  • vhuber
    vhuber Posts: 8,779 Member
    YES you are being to sensitive!!! By looking at your profile pics, you are FAR from being fat, in fact you are BEAUTIFUL!! The jerk will one day have a fat wife and make him eat his own words!!!:laugh: Chin up and remind yourself how far you have come in your young life!!! I have two sons who are in their mid and later twenties who I know would say you are HOT!!! Smile and be nice to yourself!!!
  • TealStar13
    TealStar13 Posts: 165
    You're not fat you look pretty awesome in your pictures! Don't worry about what some loser said.
  • NatalieBrooke88
    NatalieBrooke88 Posts: 240 Member
    You are all very kind. but his roommate used to date my old roommate a couple of years ago. At that time I was 35 pounds heavier and fat. He never liked me and has always been rude to me. I know hes just another jerk, but it still is so incredibly painful. Oh, and after he said it his current girlfriend laughed.

    I pledge never to use my words as a sword. I NEVER want to make others feel the same way this guy (and many others) have made me felt.


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  • thisis4me
    thisis4me Posts: 219 Member
    You are a beautiful girl and do not let that jerk get to you......You are absolutely beautiful, his friend only wishes he could date someone as pretty as you:) Hang in there!!:)
  • bedazzledmom
    bedazzledmom Posts: 32
    What an jerk! This roommate likely does NOT have a girl of his own.......wonder why?!!!:laugh:
  • haleighallen
    haleighallen Posts: 209 Member
    GIRL, YOU ARE TEENY TINY!! So I'm thinking this guy doesn't even know what you look like! So don't even think about what you heard some dumbass say. He probably just has a small penis and feels bad about it so he tries to bring down ANYONE that he can :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    But seriously, you are so gorgeous and slim! And you really shouldn't even need anyone else to tell you that ;):flowerforyou:

    Own what you've got!!
  • idreamofheaven
    idreamofheaven Posts: 16
    You are definitely not "too sensitive". That was mean and VERY immature. And not true! To echo the shared sentiment, you are gorgeous! It's hard to not let comments like that bother you though. hang in there!
  • KimBledsoe
    KimBledsoe Posts: 19
    Natalie,

    You are a very pretty young lady. The guy that you're semi-dating is a jerk for not setting his friend straight. I'd tell him to go kick rocks! You're much to pretty to have some silly guy bringing you down. I'm sure there's someone out there that will love you just the way you are and then some! Cheer up girl!
  • cheshirequeen
    cheshirequeen Posts: 1,324 Member
    you are absolutely beautiful. and words can hurt, worse than the sticks and stones. dont let that jerk have that much power over you. i agree, take that frustration out on the treadmill, and i hope at least the guy stuck up for you. definitely get rid of him if he didn't. i hope you feel better and again, you are beautiful:flowerforyou:
  • pinksocks73
    pinksocks73 Posts: 86
    That he would allow his friend/room mate to speak about you that way while he knows you are listening....right there he deserves the boot.

    And why exactly do you consider yourself fat? You look to be like a sz 2 or 4...and tall. Why let their words bother you when it's obvious that you're not fat...
  • crystalroy
    crystalroy Posts: 84 Member
    Chin up :), don't let anyone tear you down. You are no longer that person :)
  • roylawrence87
    roylawrence87 Posts: 970 Member
    What an *kitten*. He was probably messing with the guy anyway. Please don't take it too personal. It was meant as a joke to demean your bf. To bring him down. You understand?

    This is the first thing I thought...This was meant as a jerk messing with a jerk. He was trying to not only demean your boyfriend but also make your boyfriend look like an *kitten*. Which he succeeded. However, the guy you are dating should not be hanging around with creeps like that. You are GORGEOUS! That whole phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me?" Bologna. But don't give the jerk any power. Its not true so don't focus on it. You are beautiful and that moron obviously should feel lucky he's dating you. :flowerforyou:
    The only part here I don't agree with, and this is coming from a guys point of view, is that most guys say that. I don't think he's being a creep. It's just meant to bring him down because probably his roommate has no one as hot as you or no one at all.
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    GIRL, YOU ARE TEENY TINY!! So I'm thinking this guy doesn't even know what you look like! So don't even think about what you heard some dumbass say. He probably just has a small penis and feels bad about it so he tries to bring down ANYONE that he can :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    But seriously, you are so gorgeous and slim! And you really shouldn't even need anyone else to tell you that ;):flowerforyou:

    Own what you've got!!

    Totally agrees!
  • HealthyChanges2010
    HealthyChanges2010 Posts: 5,831 Member
    You are all very kind. but his roommate used to date my old roommate a couple of years ago. At that time I was 35 pounds heavier and fat. He never liked me and has always been rude to me. I know hes just another jerk, but it still is so incredibly painful. Oh, and after he said it his current girlfriend laughed.

    I pledge never to use my words as a sword. I NEVER want to make others feel the same way this guy (and many others) have made me felt.


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    Doesn't sound like anyone I'd want to spend time with...why waste yours with a guy like that, that's even got a roomie that talks trash about you. The bf allowed it and didn't put a stop too it, seems you deserve far more than that!!

    A lot of good decent guys out there that don't get so caught up in looks, it's how you feel about yourself that's truly most important, not what a 'semi-dating' bf thinks or a roomie yelling in the background thinks. Life's too short to waste your time on ppl that bring you down...it really is!:flowerforyou:
  • LoveMy3Boys
    LoveMy3Boys Posts: 562 Member
    I hope the guy your seeing gave him a nice hard punch ;)

    Joke or not it was a huge douche thing for him to say.Some guy called me fat when I was pregnant with my first child... new pregnant and it really upset me. Why go for "fat" as a way to mess with or insult a woman? Its messed up.
  • HealthyChanges2010
    HealthyChanges2010 Posts: 5,831 Member
    What an *kitten*. He was probably messing with the guy anyway. Please don't take it too personal. It was meant as a joke to demean your bf. To bring him down. You understand?

    This is the first thing I thought...This was meant as a jerk messing with a jerk. He was trying to not only demean your boyfriend but also make your boyfriend look like an *kitten*. Which he succeeded. However, the guy you are dating should not be hanging around with creeps like that. You are GORGEOUS! That whole phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me?" Bologna. But don't give the jerk any power. Its not true so don't focus on it. You are beautiful and that moron obviously should feel lucky he's dating you. :flowerforyou:
    The only part here I don't agree with, and this is coming from a guys point of view, is that most guys say that. I don't think he's being a creep. It's just meant to bring him down because probably his roommate has no one as hot as you or no one at all.
    No, I don't agree... I think most guys THINK other guys act this way... but it's simply not true. If a guy thinks this is how all guys act then it's the company they keep that's making them think this, not a true reflection on all guys.
  • roylawrence87
    roylawrence87 Posts: 970 Member
    I am by no means taking up for men by no means. Lots of men throw that word around because we don't know how it hurts you. To us, being fat is just ok. To females, not ok. Worse than that. I know it sucks. We just don't know the power words have. I am truly sorry. Though you are not fat. You just so happen to be amazingly hot!
  • roylawrence87
    roylawrence87 Posts: 970 Member
    What an *kitten*. He was probably messing with the guy anyway. Please don't take it too personal. It was meant as a joke to demean your bf. To bring him down. You understand?

    This is the first thing I thought...This was meant as a jerk messing with a jerk. He was trying to not only demean your boyfriend but also make your boyfriend look like an *kitten*. Which he succeeded. However, the guy you are dating should not be hanging around with creeps like that. You are GORGEOUS! That whole phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me?" Bologna. But don't give the jerk any power. Its not true so don't focus on it. You are beautiful and that moron obviously should feel lucky he's dating you. :flowerforyou:
    The only part here I don't agree with, and this is coming from a guys point of view, is that most guys say that. I don't think he's being a creep. It's just meant to bring him down because probably his roommate has no one as hot as you or no one at all.
    No, I don't agree... I think most guys THINK other guys act this way... but it's simply not true. If a guy thinks this is how all guys act then it's the company they keep that's making them think this, not a true reflection on all guys.
    You must be a guy then right? You don't think like men. There is no way you can be. Men were taught that fat was ok. That being fat was ok. Women were taught otherwise.
  • NatalieBrooke88
    NatalieBrooke88 Posts: 240 Member
    You are all incredibly supportive and kind. Thank you for helping me get through this..

    I think I am going to buy Nike's shirt that says "Strong is the New Beautiful' and just move on. I have experienced this more than I would like to account for, but I would like to think it makes me a little bit stronger every time.


    If any of you want a super supportive MyfitnessPal friend, then feel free to add me! I would love to be there for you as well. This journey is hard, but we are all here doing it together!


    "Choice, not circumstances, determines success"
    "Maintain an attitude of gratitude"
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