Co-worker looks anorexic. Help with ideas please.

People would often accuse me of being anorexic, even my own doctor because I was not in the recommended goal range. I ate everything in site and still love to eat. I love sports and being active, all my vitals, medical, and mental capacities are normal, I need no medications, still get accused of being in my 20's (by my college classmates as well), and I have been told by my doctor I am in excellent health. The difference between me and my co-workers, is that I have a very petite frame for someone who is 5'6". So what appears to be anorexia by others and what is actually anorexia are two different things. My doctor assumed I was not eating, but I would put my brother under the table when it came to food and he said I was extremely healthy. Some of us have a higher metabolism than others even though our thyroid may be in the normal range. I am 47 now and I still get accused of being anorexic, because I am too thin in the eyes of others, but my weight is just right for me and when you look at my family, you would see that I am built just like the rest of them. So it is best to stay out of it. Anorexia is a psychological issue, where a person refuses to eat or reduces portions because they don't want to gain weight to the point that they need help and should be evaluated by a medical professional.

It always blows me away how someone feels the need to tell someone who is thin that they are too thin and they need to put on weight but very few will tell a large person the opposite. Has she dropped a lot of weight in a short amount of time, is she chundering in the toilet? Is there any actual evidence other than what you perceive that she may be what you are implying? What does an anorexic person look like just out of curiosity? Plus advice given without request is not about the person receiving its about the person giving, so they can feel better about themselves, mind your own p's and q's! How would you feel if she told you to stay off the donuts!

Wow everyone needs to give the OP a break. I know personally how invasive it feels to be told I'm "too skinny" (for what? is what I'd like to know) I know how invasive it can feel ... but OP's heart is obviously in the right place and she's taking your knee-jerk responses like a saint so... relax.

Wow everyone needs to give the OP a break. I know personally how invasive it feels to be told I'm "too skinny" (for what? is what I'd like to know) I know how invasive it can feel ... but OP's heart is obviously in the right place and she's taking your knee-jerk responses like a saint so... relax.

I kinda wanted to throw poo at the OP when I first read her post, but she did handle it well. OP, you may want to report your thread and get it removed, because these things have a way of slowly, but inevitably, spinning out of control.

OP, you have handled a lot of rudeness with a lot of grace, so good on you.

To the people who say things like "STFU" and "shove it up your *kitten*" when people ask questions, ya'll need to check yourselves before you give advice. The amusing thing is, you were trying to tell the OP not to be rude!

OP, you have handled a lot of rudeness with a lot of grace, so good on you.

To the people who say things like "STFU" and "shove it up your *kitten*" when people ask questions, ya'll need to check yourselves before you give advice. The amusing thing is, you were trying to tell the OP not to be rude!

I don't think STFU is necessarily rude.... in this context (you ask for advice about a situation in the office) and someone says "I think in situations like this it's best to STFU" I would not take it as rude, more as a way of saying "if you say something it's going to end very very badly badly indeed, so really for your own sake just don't say anything at all, don't even come close to this subject." but just phrased in a more amusing way, and to emphasise the point that it's a ****really***** bad idea to say anything in that situation. In some contexts STFU is rude, like if you're talking or just posted something and the STFU is said directly to you, then it's rude. (unless it's someone you know and it's just banter)

Anyway, it's really hard to gauge someone's tone of voice on the internet... people can write something that's intended to emphasise that something's a really bad idea, or that the OP has read something into a situation that's not there and rethink their whole attitude/approach to the situation...... and it can be very easily read as rude.

I didn't read all the comments on this thread, so I'm not saying that none of the responses were rude and "shove it up your *kitten*" usually is rude unless you already know that person and it's banter, but I can't think of a context where that wouldn't be rude when talking to someone you don't know. But that doesn't mean all the comments that came across as rude were intended that way. Sometimes it's actually really difficult to say "you've made an unfair assumption about someone and if you try to advise them based on that assumption you're going to have a really bad case of foot in mouth disease" without it coming across as rude to some people.... I know they say you should be careful how you say things.... but really that's a lot harder than it sounds in certain situations.

Hi everyone. I am not upset by any comments. This is the internet after all. Please don't fight each other.

I think we are all done with this thread. Have a good night and sweet dreams!

:drinker: and good morning from me from the other side of the world

MrM27, it was randomtai who made the charming comment about shoving things up *kitten*, not cip1. That's why she put it in quotation marks.

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