Co-worker looks anorexic. Help with ideas please.

OP, you have handled a lot of rudeness with a lot of grace, so good on you.

To the people who say things like "STFU" and "shove it up your *kitten*" when people ask questions, ya'll need to check yourselves before you give advice. The amusing thing is, you were trying to tell the OP not to be rude!

OP, you have handled a lot of rudeness with a lot of grace, so good on you.

To the people who say things like "STFU" and "shove it up your *kitten*" when people ask questions, ya'll need to check yourselves before you give advice. The amusing thing is, you were trying to tell the OP not to be rude!

I don't think STFU is necessarily rude.... in this context (you ask for advice about a situation in the office) and someone says "I think in situations like this it's best to STFU" I would not take it as rude, more as a way of saying "if you say something it's going to end very very badly badly indeed, so really for your own sake just don't say anything at all, don't even come close to this subject." but just phrased in a more amusing way, and to emphasise the point that it's a ****really***** bad idea to say anything in that situation. In some contexts STFU is rude, like if you're talking or just posted something and the STFU is said directly to you, then it's rude. (unless it's someone you know and it's just banter)

Anyway, it's really hard to gauge someone's tone of voice on the internet... people can write something that's intended to emphasise that something's a really bad idea, or that the OP has read something into a situation that's not there and rethink their whole attitude/approach to the situation...... and it can be very easily read as rude.

I didn't read all the comments on this thread, so I'm not saying that none of the responses were rude and "shove it up your *kitten*" usually is rude unless you already know that person and it's banter, but I can't think of a context where that wouldn't be rude when talking to someone you don't know. But that doesn't mean all the comments that came across as rude were intended that way. Sometimes it's actually really difficult to say "you've made an unfair assumption about someone and if you try to advise them based on that assumption you're going to have a really bad case of foot in mouth disease" without it coming across as rude to some people.... I know they say you should be careful how you say things.... but really that's a lot harder than it sounds in certain situations.

Hi everyone. I am not upset by any comments. This is the internet after all. Please don't fight each other.

I think we are all done with this thread. Have a good night and sweet dreams!

:drinker: and good morning from me from the other side of the world

MrM27, it was randomtai who made the charming comment about shoving things up *kitten*, not cip1. That's why she put it in quotation marks.

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I agree with those that say leave it be...some people are just super thin...I'm 5'5", my sister is 5'10" and even at my lowest weight I outweighed her by like 30 lbs. She's just naturally super thin. There was a time I really worried about her, but she's always been 5'10" and probably weighs like 120 lbs, which by all charts says she's underweight. I had an aunt that was the same way, tall and super thin.