Should I be offended?
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This reminds me of going to the drive -in as a kid. Anyone else hide under blankets in the back seat for cheaper entry? NO? only me? okay...What is the strongest? Your body..... I'm still failing to see the glaring difference in the two analogies.
Is it almost as ridiculous as someone not being able to ride a roller coaster because they are too short? Or buy an extra seat on an airplane because they are too fat? Or have to take the stairs at work because they are too short to push the top button?
...planes have weight limits. it's not just for people it's for your baggage, too.
And? Do they give children or small women a reduced fare because they weigh so little?
Yes. As long as we weigh 50lbs or less and don't make a sound when they shove us in the suitcase.
Don't want to be accused of age-ism (or however you spell it). I went to a drive in with my aunt to see The Man With One Red Shoe... I didn't hide though, but I wish I had. All I remember is hair getting caught in a zipper and wanting to throw up. Man I was so grossed out!0 -
This reminds me of going to the drive -in as a kid. Anyone else hide under blankets in the back seat for cheaper entry? NO? only me? okay...What is the strongest? Your body..... I'm still failing to see the glaring difference in the two analogies.
Is it almost as ridiculous as someone not being able to ride a roller coaster because they are too short? Or buy an extra seat on an airplane because they are too fat? Or have to take the stairs at work because they are too short to push the top button?
...planes have weight limits. it's not just for people it's for your baggage, too.
And? Do they give children or small women a reduced fare because they weigh so little?
Yes. As long as we weigh 50lbs or less and don't make a sound when they shove us in the suitcase.
Don't want to be accused of age-ism (or however you spell it). I went to a drive in with my aunt to see The Man With One Red Shoe... I didn't hide though, but I wish I had. All I remember is hair getting caught in a zipper and wanting to throw up. Man I was so grossed out!
I'm so confused....You went to a drive in with your aunt......and hair got stuck in a zipper? Who's hair? What type of hair? Who was involved?0 -
Do you get offended when people compliment you on your weightloss/ 'improved' body shape?
If not, then no, you really should not complain.0 -
Don't feed the trolls.
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This reminds me of going to the drive -in as a kid. Anyone else hide under blankets in the back seat for cheaper entry? NO? only me? okay...What is the strongest? Your body..... I'm still failing to see the glaring difference in the two analogies.
Is it almost as ridiculous as someone not being able to ride a roller coaster because they are too short? Or buy an extra seat on an airplane because they are too fat? Or have to take the stairs at work because they are too short to push the top button?
...planes have weight limits. it's not just for people it's for your baggage, too.
And? Do they give children or small women a reduced fare because they weigh so little?
Yes. As long as we weigh 50lbs or less and don't make a sound when they shove us in the suitcase.
Don't want to be accused of age-ism (or however you spell it). I went to a drive in with my aunt to see The Man With One Red Shoe... I didn't hide though, but I wish I had. All I remember is hair getting caught in a zipper and wanting to throw up. Man I was so grossed out!
I'm so confused....You went to a drive in with your aunt......and hair got stuck in a zipper? Who's hair? What type of hair? Who was involved?
"the man with one red shoe" was a movie in 1985. I believe it was ? Darryl Hanna's? hair in ?Tom Hanks? zipper. I was pretty young so the idea of a woman putting her face near a man's crotch grossed me out. That is the ONLY part of the movie I remember. I was about 8.
nothing weird with my aunt - sheesh.0 -
You. Were. Not. Oppressed.
You were not stigmatized.
You were assigned a job based on your capabilities.
If you can't handle that, stop volunteering.
I.Was.Called Out.
I Was assigned a job based on my body appearance alone.
I have no issue with the work.....or the volunteering....just the way it was assigned and I was called out. Help me understand why it's different than someone being assigned the anchor on the tug-of-war team because they are fatter or the basketball/volleyball player because they are taller.......Or the lollipop guild in the school play because they are shorter.
I would choose a tall person for basketball and a short person for a short character. I do not believe that is an issue.
Choosing an anchor based on weight would be considered offensive because people who are fat are already an oppressed and stigmatized group who have to deal with societal discrimination on a daily basis. See the difference?
You're as bad as people who make claims of "reverse racism". ugh.0 -
Do you get offended when people compliment you on your weightloss/ 'improved' body shape?
If not, then no, you really should not complain.
I haz huge boobs. And i'm supposed to get offended when men compliment me on them....even though it's a compliment. And I should be udderly (
) appalled if I get special treatment at work for it. Like say if asked to be the secretary who sits at the first desk entering our office to greet people....just because of my looks, I'm supposed to be all "well I NEVER!" *gasp*! Cochinos! Because all the other women will be offended by it, so I'm supposed to be as well. Isn't that right? 0 -
I used to be just like you! I always got offended and took things personally when people singled me out for things that were related to my body. I realized, however, that that's who I am - a big girl, and that I should embrace my body, be happy, and help others by using the things that I'm innately good at (strength). As soon as I realized that and made that decision, I became happy not only with myself and my body, but with the people that surrounded me as well. I don't think you should call to complain. Don't do that. Rather, be happy and honored for having been deemed one of the strongest. Don't take it personally; you were there to help. Whenever you get singled out for your strength, stand happy and proud of it, along with your head held high.0
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"I thought you'd be bigger"0
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You. Were. Not. Oppressed.
You were not stigmatized.
You were assigned a job based on your capabilities.
If you can't handle that, stop volunteering.
I.Was.Called Out.
I Was assigned a job based on my body appearance alone.
I have no issue with the work.....or the volunteering....just the way it was assigned and I was called out. Help me understand why it's different than someone being assigned the anchor on the tug-of-war team because they are fatter or the basketball/volleyball player because they are taller.......Or the lollipop guild in the school play because they are shorter.
I would choose a tall person for basketball and a short person for a short character. I do not believe that is an issue.
Choosing an anchor based on weight would be considered offensive because people who are fat are already an oppressed and stigmatized group who have to deal with societal discrimination on a daily basis. See the difference?
You're as bad as people who make claims of "reverse racism". ugh.
You think tall people or short people aren't stigmatized0 -
"I thought you'd be bigger"
I wish it was the first time I'd heard that....
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And look them in the eyes while doing it.You could probably let a 4-5 second long really smelly fart rip the next time they ask you to lift something. Maybe they won't ask again.0 -
"I thought you'd be bigger"
changed my mind, new thread winner. well...it's a tie.0 -
He who goes to the bathroom during setup gets the sh** jobs so to speak hahahahaha
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You. Were. Not. Oppressed.
You were not stigmatized.
You were assigned a job based on your capabilities.
If you can't handle that, stop volunteering.
I.Was.Called Out.
I Was assigned a job based on my body appearance alone.
I have no issue with the work.....or the volunteering....just the way it was assigned and I was called out. Help me understand why it's different than someone being assigned the anchor on the tug-of-war team because they are fatter or the basketball/volleyball player because they are taller.......Or the lollipop guild in the school play because they are shorter.
I would choose a tall person for basketball and a short person for a short character. I do not believe that is an issue.
Choosing an anchor based on weight would be considered offensive because people who are fat are already an oppressed and stigmatized group who have to deal with societal discrimination on a daily basis. See the difference?
You're as bad as people who make claims of "reverse racism". ugh.
You think tall people or short people aren't stigmatized
No, I don't. If you're talking about someone with Dwarfism, that's another issue entirely because that's a disability. And I don't believe I see tall people getting heckled on the street or given dirty looks at restaurants or treated in any way like someone who is fat gets treated.0 -
"I thought you'd be bigger"
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You. Were. Not. Oppressed.
You were not stigmatized.
You were assigned a job based on your capabilities.
If you can't handle that, stop volunteering.
I.Was.Called Out.
I Was assigned a job based on my body appearance alone.
I have no issue with the work.....or the volunteering....just the way it was assigned and I was called out. Help me understand why it's different than someone being assigned the anchor on the tug-of-war team because they are fatter or the basketball/volleyball player because they are taller.......Or the lollipop guild in the school play because they are shorter.
I would choose a tall person for basketball and a short person for a short character. I do not believe that is an issue.
Choosing an anchor based on weight would be considered offensive because people who are fat are already an oppressed and stigmatized group who have to deal with societal discrimination on a daily basis. See the difference?
You're as bad as people who make claims of "reverse racism". ugh.
You think tall people or short people aren't stigmatized
No, I don't. If you're talking about someone with Dwarfism, that's another issue entirely because that's a disability. And I don't believe I see tall people getting heckled on the street or given dirty looks at restaurants or treated in any way like someone who is fat gets treated.
I have not seen those kinds of actions to an overweight person since grade school. Kids are really mean0 -
Happens to me all the time. Do I care...no why would I? Take it as a compliment and enjoy what others think of your hard work. Geez never have I ever even looked at it the way you did. Especially since it was at a food bank. Come on man!0
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Especially if OP is thereI'm getting scared of volunteering due to this thread.
Right? It seems like a scary thing to do.0 -
Happens to me all the time. Do I care...no why would I? Take it as a compliment and enjoy what others think of your hard work. Geez never have I ever even looked at it the way you did. Especially since it was at a food bank. Come on man!
MMMMmmmmmmm
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You. Were. Not. Oppressed.
You were not stigmatized.
You were assigned a job based on your capabilities.
If you can't handle that, stop volunteering.
I.Was.Called Out.
I Was assigned a job based on my body appearance alone.
I have no issue with the work.....or the volunteering....just the way it was assigned and I was called out. Help me understand why it's different than someone being assigned the anchor on the tug-of-war team because they are fatter or the basketball/volleyball player because they are taller.......Or the lollipop guild in the school play because they are shorter.
I would choose a tall person for basketball and a short person for a short character. I do not believe that is an issue.
Choosing an anchor based on weight would be considered offensive because people who are fat are already an oppressed and stigmatized group who have to deal with societal discrimination on a daily basis. See the difference?
You're as bad as people who make claims of "reverse racism". ugh.
You think tall people or short people aren't stigmatized
No, I don't. If you're talking about someone with Dwarfism, that's another issue entirely because that's a disability. And I don't believe I see tall people getting heckled on the street or given dirty looks at restaurants or treated in any way like someone who is fat gets treated.
I have not seen those kinds of actions to an overweight person since grade school. Kids are really mean
Well then you're lucky. My fat friend Ragen was out running and someone stopped their car, called her a fat b****, and threw eggs at her. My friend Paul, who is very big, had someone come up to him at a restaurant and yell at him in front of everyone for ordering something in Alfredo sauce. They are both in their late 30s. So NO, I do NOT think you should be whining. You have no idea what being singled out really means.0 -
You. Were. Not. Oppressed.
You were not stigmatized.
You were assigned a job based on your capabilities.
If you can't handle that, stop volunteering.
I.Was.Called Out.
I Was assigned a job based on my body appearance alone.
I have no issue with the work.....or the volunteering....just the way it was assigned and I was called out. Help me understand why it's different than someone being assigned the anchor on the tug-of-war team because they are fatter or the basketball/volleyball player because they are taller.......Or the lollipop guild in the school play because they are shorter.
I would choose a tall person for basketball and a short person for a short character. I do not believe that is an issue.
Choosing an anchor based on weight would be considered offensive because people who are fat are already an oppressed and stigmatized group who have to deal with societal discrimination on a daily basis. See the difference?
You're as bad as people who make claims of "reverse racism". ugh.
You think tall people or short people aren't stigmatized
No, I don't. If you're talking about someone with Dwarfism, that's another issue entirely because that's a disability. And I don't believe I see tall people getting heckled on the street or given dirty looks at restaurants or treated in any way like someone who is fat gets treated.
I have not seen those kinds of actions to an overweight person since grade school. Kids are really mean
Well then you're lucky. My fat friend Ragen was out running and someone stopped their car, called her a fat b****, and threw eggs at her. My friend Paul, who is very big, had someone come up to him at a restaurant and yell at him in front of everyone for ordering something in Alfredo sauce. They are both in their late 30s. So NO, I do NOT think you should be whining. You have no idea what being singled out really means.
It's terrible that either of those things happened. Those are both awful.0 -
I'm disappointed there aren't any kitten gifs yet. We're up to page 7 and no one posted a kitten gif. *sad*0
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Good grief! You were there to volunteer. I didn't read the whole thread, but you didn't say what you had to lift.
If you were offended, next time tell them you want to do lighter work (which means you'll have to wait to go to the bathroom until after the jobs are assigned)--or show up on crutches. I don't know where you're from, but I'm from the South. Women do physical stuff, too, but men usually do the more physical, labor-intensive jobs. It's expected.
Besides, you're on MFP to lose weight (I assume) and get healthier/fitter. Having a more physical task will help with all of that.
No, you shouldn't report anyone. Get a different place to volunteer or a new attitude if you aren't happy helping out there. Simple.0 -
Especially if OP is thereI'm getting scared of volunteering due to this thread.
Right? It seems like a scary thing to do.
Well actually I'm afraid of braid girl or someone like her taking it upon themselves to appoint themselves "boss" and telling me what to do based on my appearance alone and a 2 minute assessment. Even when I look as fit as all get out I have back issues and should not be asked to lift heavy things repeatedly or in an awkward way that might compromise my form. If she saw me though amongst some of the other mom's at school she or someone might deem me the "strongest" and make me do hard labor.0 -
You. Were. Not. Oppressed.
You were not stigmatized.
You were assigned a job based on your capabilities.
If you can't handle that, stop volunteering.
I.Was.Called Out.
I Was assigned a job based on my body appearance alone.
I have no issue with the work.....or the volunteering....just the way it was assigned and I was called out. Help me understand why it's different than someone being assigned the anchor on the tug-of-war team because they are fatter or the basketball/volleyball player because they are taller.......Or the lollipop guild in the school play because they are shorter.
I would choose a tall person for basketball and a short person for a short character. I do not believe that is an issue.
Choosing an anchor based on weight would be considered offensive because people who are fat are already an oppressed and stigmatized group who have to deal with societal discrimination on a daily basis. See the difference?
You're as bad as people who make claims of "reverse racism". ugh.
You think tall people or short people aren't stigmatized
No, I don't. If you're talking about someone with Dwarfism, that's another issue entirely because that's a disability. And I don't believe I see tall people getting heckled on the street or given dirty looks at restaurants or treated in any way like someone who is fat gets treated.
I have not seen those kinds of actions to an overweight person since grade school. Kids are really mean
Well then you're lucky. My fat friend Ragen was out running and someone stopped their car, called her a fat b****, and threw eggs at her. My friend Paul, who is very big, had someone come up to him at a restaurant and yell at him in front of everyone for ordering something in Alfredo sauce. They are both in their late 30s. So NO, I do NOT think you should be whining. You have no idea what being singled out really means.
I really hope Ragen and Paul don't have MFP because you just called them fat and big and they are your friends? Especially Ragen though because that's such a unique spelling of that name plus your face is on your avi, and yeah...just sad.:embarassed:0 -
Or have to take the stairs at work because they are too short to push the top button?
Don't talk about me like I'm not here.
I think you should be offended for people suggesting that you have NPD and should be ashamed of that.
My mind is officially boggled. I am fascinated by how many people are taking you seriously. Thanks for the psychological contemplation material!0 -
hehOr have to take the stairs at work because they are too short to push the top button?
Don't talk about me like I'm not here.
I think you should be offended for people suggesting that you have NPD and should be ashamed of that.
My mind is officially boggled. I am fascinated by how many people are taking you seriously. Thanks for the psychological contemplation material!0 -
Personally, I choose a doctor based on the degree he's earned and hence the knowledge he should have stored in his brain.
I choose a mechanic based on his skills.
I chose my boyfriend based on many factors, some of which were his appearance and my attraction to it.
I chose my Italian Greyhound based on his size and build.
I chose my mutt based on her beautiful long brindle fur, and her size and build.
I chose my car based on its color, speed and shape.
I don't get what is the issue. We're all chosen for various things based on various factors involving our appearance and abilities. If we're not allowed to choose people based on such factors, then I guess I'd like my professional basketball contract now, please. I have no particular skill or ability, and I'm short, but apparently that doesn't matter.0 -
take it as a compliment0
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