Looks do matter

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rocklion
rocklion Posts: 69 Member
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I don't know. Just felt like rambling a bit. But I'm just going to post a question for single people. Heck, even married if you want to comment.

Do looks matter?

I think they do. I've heard countless times again and again "Looks don't matter if they have a good personality." Sure.... Let's be real. Let's be honest. If as a man or a woman and they're fit do you take a second look? Yeah you do. I'm sure they get approached more often. At least the women. And if some guy talks to a girl with a ripped body, I'm sure women pay more attention to him than if there was a chubby looking guy with a keg instead of a six pack.

What's your guys thoughts?
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  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
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    Looks can matter to a degree of course. Physical attraction is a huge part of it.

    However, getting to know you as a person I think is equally as important. An incompatible personality is just asking for trouble if a serious relationship is pursued.

    So in the end I think it comes down to both.
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
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    This won't end well... locked by the end of the night is my prediction. Also in for the .gifs that are sure to follow.

    My two cents: looks will get people to do a double-take, yeah. I'm not gonna lie and say I won't look twice at a guy (or girl, for that matter) that I think looks smoking hot. However, what I think is smoking hot, others might find geeky or ugly. Looks are subjective. So they do matter, but again, subjective to each person. I don't believe there's one "look" that matters for everyone. Not all girls like their guys to have 6-pack abs, and not all guys want their girls to be "fit" ... for example, my best friend prefers his girls bigger.
  • NerdyAdventurer
    NerdyAdventurer Posts: 166 Member
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    I like my guys a little on to chubby side :)

    I fully enjoy looking at the super ripped guys, but they're not who I want to be with. I'd rather be with someone fun than I guy who lives at the gym and can only talk about how much protein he needs.

    And as I tall girl, I like my guys tall and bigger than me. Going through like I so rarely get to feel small, so it's nice to be with a guy that makes me feel like that.
  • NerdyAdventurer
    NerdyAdventurer Posts: 166 Member
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    But they can't have bigger boobs than me.
  • fr053n
    fr053n Posts: 2,793 Member
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    If we're talking first impressions and attraction, looks do matter slightly more than personality. Also, if someone "looks" like they lead an unhealthy/healthy lifestyle, this may also be a factor in determining if people are attracted to him or her.

    But, overall, I think that personality is more important than looks, in the long run.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
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    of course looks matter

    someones appearance is what initially attracts me to them

    if im not physically attracted to them I am not going to be sexually attracted to them & they could only ever be someone I would be friends with

    also what I find attractive is not necessarily what the majority considers attractive . Attraction is pretty subjective
  • Bucky83
    Bucky83 Posts: 1,194 Member
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    Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

    I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

    I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).
  • Capt_Inzane
    Capt_Inzane Posts: 733 Member
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    But they can't have bigger boobs than me.

    Checks my man boobs ... what size are yours? :D

    lol


    Looks matter hell, I go back and look at when I weighed 350 lbs and it's not just about how bad I looked but how bad I felt and how little I actually did. I wasn't the same person then as I am now. I'm stronger mentally and physically.
  • Phoenix__Rising
    Phoenix__Rising Posts: 9,981 Member
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    I think as time has evolved to be more look conscious (internet/plastic surgery and even porn)
    Men & women hold ideals. Sometimes it's not healthy but it really does go as far back as
    the cave ppl. Psychologically we are designed to look for mating material (thinking of kids
    like when a man chooses a lady he might not realize that's his intention) and ladies look
    for strong handsome guys, typically.This isn't ALWAYS the case. A lot of us might like what
    society would call 'meh'.
  • trojan_bb
    trojan_bb Posts: 699 Member
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    I fully enjoy looking at the super ripped guys, but they're not who I want to be with. I'd rather be with someone fun than I guy who lives at the gym and can only talk about how much protein he needs.


    uh huh.
  • rocklion
    rocklion Posts: 69 Member
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    Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

    There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

    But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.
  • sunglasses_and_ocean_waves
    sunglasses_and_ocean_waves Posts: 2,757 Member
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    Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

    I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

    I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

    You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

    Now forgive me if I'm wrong but the "I'm a nice person why does everyone dump me" thing is usually a euphemism for "I'm really clingy." Just make sure you're not.

    I'm saying this because you sound sad, and I would love for your dreams to come true for you. =)
  • sunglasses_and_ocean_waves
    sunglasses_and_ocean_waves Posts: 2,757 Member
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    And looks matter enough that I sent a FR to a hottie in this thread. :drinker:
  • trojan_bb
    trojan_bb Posts: 699 Member
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    Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

    There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

    But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

    lmao. yes, online dating is ridiculous. Take their profile preferences with a grain of salt. Reality says otherwise, like you pointed out.

    With online dating, you have to realize that it's basically online window shopping for an attractive woman. They get flooded with messages. It comes down to looks, height, wealth, and a funny profile and good one liners. It does not at all resemble the outside world. Inflated egos abound. Don't take it to heart.
  • fr053n
    fr053n Posts: 2,793 Member
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    Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

    There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

    But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

    lmao. yes, online dating is ridiculous. Take their profile preferences with a grain of salt. Reality says otherwise, like you pointed out.

    With online dating, you have to realize that it's basically online window shopping for an attractive woman. They get flooded with messages. It comes down to looks, height, wealth, and a funny profile and good one liners. It does not at all resemble the outside world. Inflated egos abound. Don't take it to heart.

    ^This
  • shrinkingmichelle
    shrinkingmichelle Posts: 26 Member
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    When I first met my husband I was not attracted to him but I liked spending time with him. He's 15 years older then me. As I continued to date him I saw him differently. Because of his great personality and thoughtfulness I started to be attracted to him. When I fell in love with him I found him sexy.
  • rocklion
    rocklion Posts: 69 Member
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    Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

    There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

    But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

    lmao. yes, online dating is ridiculous. Take their profile preferences with a grain of salt. Reality says otherwise, like you pointed out.

    With online dating, you have to realize that it's basically online window shopping for an attractive woman. They get flooded with messages. It comes down to looks, height, wealth, and a funny profile and good one liners. It does not at all resemble the outside world. Inflated egos abound. Don't take it to heart.

    Oh, I know you're right. After my divorce, I did it for a year and a half. I know exactly. I've sworn off online dating now.
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
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    Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

    There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

    But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

    That's an interesting finding. Not really surprising, but interesting
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
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    Yes.

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