Looks do matter

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

Now forgive me if I'm wrong but the "I'm a nice person why does everyone dump me" thing is usually a euphemism for "I'm really clingy." Just make sure you're not.

I'm saying this because you sound sad, and I would love for your dreams to come true for you.

Nothing wrong with black rimmed glasses. Nothing wrong with her hair either. Bucky is beautiful.

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Looks draw me in, but they don't make me stay. Personality makes a world of difference in how attractive I find someone.

Looks matter...to an extent. But other matters are more important. Of course I want to be with somebody I find physically attractive, but I'm not willing to put up with a bad person or a bad personality in order to get that.

Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

lmao. yes, online dating is ridiculous. Take their profile preferences with a grain of salt. Reality says otherwise, like you pointed out.

With online dating, you have to realize that it's basically online window shopping for an attractive woman. They get flooded with messages. It comes down to looks, height, wealth, and a funny profile and good one liners. It does not at all resemble the outside world. Inflated egos abound. Don't take it to heart.

Oh, I know you're right. After my divorce, I did it for a year and a half. I know exactly. I've sworn off online dating now.

Hey now....I did online dating and even though it took a few months, I found a great guy online. There were many losers, but then I found a genuinely sweet, caring guy who was just tired of being played and tired of searching for a good mate in his area, so he turned to online dating. I was skeptical at first when he messaged me, but I gave him a shot and glad I did

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My opinion to the OP (haven't read any posts yet)


I am married been together 17yrs and my husband or I will both tell you...yes looks matter, I would have never given him the time of day if I didn't like the way he looked and he would not have persued me if he didn't like what he saw. I love my husband but I would never have known how great he is, if I wasn't attracted to him.


So after 17 years, bodies change but we do both put value on physical appearance still, we both still find each other sexy but we both always want to improve (I have had a 3 yr slump I'm am working my way out of). For some it may not be that important, but I met my husband at 20, never had an issue getting male attention and honestly could be shallow. When my husband asked me out, the place had low lights. I told him I couldn't answer him because I had no clue of his eye color....I then told him, "you never know who you will meet, fall in love with, get married, have kids and I want blue eyed kids". He flicked a lighter to show me he had crystal deep blue eyes. Funny thing is had never said anything like that before and it was prophetic... I have 2 beautiful blue eyed daughters

So to me yes looks matter, would I still love my husband if something happened to his looks, of course. If he neglected himself though and caused drastic change, I could see that lowering my sex drive and desire. He feels the same and I am fine with that. I will say though with my weight gain he has never said 1 negative word and has only ever complimented me....if I had gained enough to change my body shape drastically though, he might have then become sexually distant.

As I have matured though I do find myself finding traits and body shapes attractive that I never did in the past. I was bad when young, you could line any guy I dated into a straight line and if you wrote their description down, they would all match, so I definitely had a type.

When single and young I think looks matter the most in the sense of meeting someone, most people don't go out and say " Gosh that guy/woman looks really smart and nice!"....Nope they say "Damn, I have got to meet him/her...look at that *physical feature*"

kpost323 - Aww, I love the story of how you met your husband!

Yes, we are all superficial and vain about looks. It's a survival mechanism, no one wants ugly kids.

I tell my husband that he's lucky I am cute since my son looks a lot like me.

looks only go so far a woman can be absoulty gorgeous and a ****ed up personality straight stuck up ***** then shes ugly to me, just my opinion,

Ofcourse we all day first attraction is the outter shell so it does play a part on both genders.... So on side looks do matter however if the inneshell is ugly so is the outter

Looks matter to me, in the sense that how I look really matters to me and I care about the way I look, but I don't care what others think of me. For instance, if someone doesn't like the way I look then I don't care - as long as I like the way I look. My personality is much harder to like because I'm so weird and "out there" (apparently).

Also if someone has a horrible personality, they instantly become unattractive to me.

I agree with you on this... Idc either what people think I do this for me to look and feel good, Im kinda weird too Im a perfectionist and refuse to take my shirt off in public even tho I been told Im crazy and i should have it off all the time, i looking for a certain look to perfect, so yeah I get what your saying and excatly what I mentioned before if they ugly on the inside yeah very unattractive then

Looks doesn't matter but personality does.