Cut the negativity and welcome change

I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. I FEEL heavy when I walk, sit,....breath. People just say, "YOUR NOT FAT! YOUR CURVY!" ...thats not the point though. The point is to feel comfortable in your own skin and be healthy.

I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

Good luck.

:huh: Depression is NOT a chemical reaction. Don't quit your day job Einstein.

At the risk of adding fuel to the fire. As far as Im aware there isnt a precise disease model for depression. But chemical imbalance is pointed to as a highly probable cause in at least some, but not all modeling.

I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. I FEEL heavy when I walk, sit,....breath. People just say, "YOUR NOT FAT! YOUR CURVY!" ...thats not the point though. The point is to feel comfortable in your own skin and be healthy.

OMG yes! I say this all the time and it is like I am talking to a wall (the be comfortable in your own skin part - not the you're not fat you're curvy part) because people have said that to me. I am like that is great that you think that but I have to be the one who is in here and I am not comfortable as I am. And that is why I am trying to change that - for myself.

I don't like threads where the original poster tells everyone else what they're doing wrong. It is indicative that their focus is on external things that are out of their control, rather on internal things that they can control.

I don't think the op is telling everyone what they're doing wrong at all, she's expressing a general frame of mind and how when she changed hers that her weight loss suddenly became a lot easier. And then she gives a little cheer at the end. Nothing wrong with that.

That was my take on OPs Post also.

I guess I got distracted by the OP's use of the pronoun "you" along with relatively specific instructions about what should and should not be done by "you" and "yourself".

I think people's response to OP's message shows each person's attitude and perspective in life. No one is wrong, and we DO all need support. Everyone is going through a different stage in life. My clinical depression is alleviated through medicine and therapy combined. This helped me with having a positive attitude and taking responsibility for my actions. We all judge, to some extent or another. And I've been at a point in my life where I will be negative and take things personally. Then I probably will still get that way from time to time. The thing I strive for is to be at a place where I can be positive and encouraging to others as well as myself. It's hard sometimes, but I have it in me to do it. I hope everyone can get to that point where they are happy most of the time. I gained most of my weight through the medicine I'm on, but I think if I reign in my craving to eat everything that looks good, I will get to a healthy weight again. I went through a time of blaming my medicine, but working with my Dr., we were able to dial back some of the medicine that was putting on the weight gain to a reasonable amount, and I am on my way towards getting healthier and happier, clinical depression be damned!

I get that too...."you just had a baby 3 months ago"! yes I did, that does not mean much right now to me though. I know I will lose the weight, but I feel gross non the less!

I thought this was going to be a post ranting about when people with experience give tough love in the forums. It was refreshing to read your post and I completely relate. Staying positive absolutely has made my weight loss and maintenance feel effortless. I even feel like a fraud when people say, "you've worked so hard," because it hasn't felt that way.

It may seem difficult to get into a positive mindset. Coming from a background of depression I can totally understand. However, it is necessary for any real changes to occur in life.

I hope this helps. Most of all, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Other people can believe in you all they want, but until you believe in yourself and your ability to change your life nothing will happen.

I think you are right.

I see a lot of people putting themselves down or engaging in negative self talk. Sometimes we are our own worst critics and that doesn't help our cause to be healthier or reach our desired weight. Self belief can take us a long way to success.

I think you may get some flak for your OP as it will probably get misconstrued as a "mean posters" thread however. Brace yourself for idiocy...

Ive left several targeted "groups" because of this type of thing here. Yes, Im over weight and yes I need to lose weight...and I will. What I struggle with here are a couple things.

I have a lot of trouble coming into MFP, belonging to any group who has maybe 10 or 15 members who talk about virtually nothing except self loathing, how fat they are, how they hate or dont like themselves, how they cant find clothes to fit because they're so fat and ugly etc etc etc. Continuous talk about all the things they CAN'T do because of their weight, how awful they feel every day or the snide remarks made etc. I understand that you can feel that way from time to time, but I also know that it's that very attitude that can and often will undermine your weight loss. Its not healthy to dwell so efficiently on the negative.

It's much the same as focusing on all the negative nasty comments, insults and mean things that have been said to you over the years. Im sure it hurts but it begs the question of....WHY would you choose to carry that type of thing with you? NO one ANYWHERE can MAKE YOU FEEL ANYTHING. How you react to something someone else says is YOUR choice. Allowing it (them) to continue is the first mistake, holding on to what they said is the second one and rehashing it at a later date is the third.

DUMP it AND them (if they continue) and move on. Even at my VERY heaviest..which was uber overweight :blushing: I didnt hate me, I always dressed nice, took care of myself, showered, did the hair and make up etc. I didnt, dont and refuse to use negative self talk. I dont hate myself. I dont self loath as it seems so many do. I didnt get overweight by living a rosey self contained in a bubble type lifestyle granted. I dealt with major depression for a lot of years. I suffered extreme PTSD(D). I was heavy into cutting, suffered flash backs, had over 30 surgeries repairing damage done over the years as a child and young adult. AND STILL....I dealt with it and moved on, took control, changed my lifestyle, raised awesome children et al.

No matter who you are or what your past has been...you CAN change, take control, be better than what was and have a riot going in to what will be. Stop the negativity and self loathing. I hate the fact that Im overweight but I dont hate me and wish you wouldnt either.