What would you do

I smell troll.

Are you really that shallow minded to be more concerned with what people look like than enjoy the experience and your day. Do tell them how you feel. If I was them, I would say I don't need friends like you....

To be fair, what did she expect to happen? Especially when she says things like her fiance is 150 pounds overweight and is lucky to have her.

Well, this is a support site. My mother always taught me that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything. If people can't be supportive, they shouldn't post in the thread.

She didn't ask for support, she asked for opinions. And, whether they were brutal or not, that's what she got.

I think support is implied. She wants them to be a certain size and she wants to know how we would make sure she gets that. It is her wedding and her day and she should have everything she wants.

And people answered. You can't control how others are going to react and some were, understandably, offended. I could understand her being irritated that one gained some weight, that could be a slight problem but it's not the end of the world. What I can't wrap my mind around is one losing "too much" weight and so she's upset that her friend is looking better than her. That's just petty.
The fact of the matter is that not everything is going to go your way, there are going to be things that happen that are out of your control and the only thing you can do is make the best of it.
If she wants to be the center of attention then she needs to take the necessary steps in order to get her wish. If not, reconcile with the fact that someone in the audience might not be locked on her the entire ceremony.

To be fair, what did she expect to happen? Especially when she says things like her fiance is 150 pounds overweight and is lucky to have her.

Well, this is a support site. My mother always taught me that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything. If people can't be supportive, they shouldn't post in the thread.

She didn't ask for support, she asked for opinions. And, whether they were brutal or not, that's what she got.

I think support is implied. She wants them to be a certain size and she wants to know how we would make sure she gets that. It is her wedding and her day and she should have everything she wants.

And people answered. You can't control how others are going to react and some were, understandably, offended. I could understand her being irritated that one gained some weight, that could be a slight problem but it's not the end of the world. What I can't wrap my mind around is one losing "too much" weight and so she's upset that her friend is looking better than her. That's just petty.
The fact of the matter is that not everything is going to go your way, there are going to be things that happen that are out of your control and the only thing you can do is make the best of it.
If she wants to be the center of attention then she needs to take the necessary steps in order to get her wish. If not, reconcile with the fact that someone in the audience might not be locked on her the entire ceremony.

I am hung up on "understandably offendeded" -- how is it reasonable for anyone to be offended by somebody else's vision for their wedding they aren't in.

To be fair, what did she expect to happen? Especially when she says things like her fiance is 150 pounds overweight and is lucky to have her.

Well, this is a support site. My mother always taught me that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything. If people can't be supportive, they shouldn't post in the thread.

She didn't ask for support, she asked for opinions. And, whether they were brutal or not, that's what she got.

I think support is implied. She wants them to be a certain size and she wants to know how we would make sure she gets that. It is her wedding and her day and she should have everything she wants.

And people answered. You can't control how others are going to react and some were, understandably, offended. I could understand her being irritated that one gained some weight, that could be a slight problem but it's not the end of the world. What I can't wrap my mind around is one losing "too much" weight and so she's upset that her friend is looking better than her. That's just petty.
The fact of the matter is that not everything is going to go your way, there are going to be things that happen that are out of your control and the only thing you can do is make the best of it.
If she wants to be the center of attention then she needs to take the necessary steps in order to get her wish. If not, reconcile with the fact that someone in the audience might not be locked on her the entire ceremony.

I am hung up on "understandably offendeded" -- how is it reasonable for anyone to be offended by somebody else's vision for their wedding they aren't in.

There are people here who are way over the size 6/8 mark and it seemed like she was making a size 8 out to be extremely overweight. I'm not surprised people were upset by that, it was shallow.

Some people are just inconsiderate. When my sister was getting married, on of her bridesmaids became pregnant and ruined the symmetry of all the pictures. *shrug* maybe you should have chose a more understanding fiance and better, more considerate bridesmaids.

I would personally, call quits to everything....everyone involved should only have my interests in mind and anything less than complete submission would not be tolerated....but that's just me */sarcasm/*


OP if you are serious, you are in for some rude wake up calls later in life. It may be your day but the world does not revolve around you. I am also assuming the bridesmaids are purchasing their own dresses, feel happy enough you get to dress them as you like.

Life happens, and not everything will go your way, heck you may get a giant zit in the middle of your face for the big day, you know stress will contribute to acne. So be careful.

Also being offended has nothing to do with size, I had to have a size 6 taken in for my sisters wedding, I can be vain.....but this self centered is at a whole other level.

Wow, I can't believe all the unsupportive remarks on this thread. Trashing the OP just because she has high standards for her once-in-a-lifetime first wedding... just smh.

OP, if your bridesmaids continue refusing to cooperate, and you value their friendship too much to cut them loose, then you might consider having a staggered lineup. Have the larger one stand farther from the guests, and the smaller one stand closer to the guests. The illusion should help make everyone look perfect. I know it's not ideal, but when you're dealing with people who selfishly refuse to work wth you on things like this, you do what you can.

Oh, and with only four months to go... You'd better get them started on their uniform tanning regimen right away. If one is significantly lighter than the other, the illusory effect above could be ruined.

Agree

Maybe she should hire models but semi good looking and not smaller than her or have brown hair and blues.. damn she should put an ad out for auditions.. yep you've to far.. just making a point..

SHAME on you!! Those women graciously agreed to stand beside you while you marry the man of your dreams! How DARE you say what size they should be! I hope somebody spills grape Koolaid on your dress while you walk down the aisle!!

Wow, I can't believe all the unsupportive remarks on this thread. Trashing the OP just because she has high standards for her once-in-a-lifetime first wedding... just smh.

OP, if your bridesmaids continue refusing to cooperate, and you value their friendship too much to cut them loose, then you might consider having a staggered lineup. Have the larger one stand farther from the guests, and the smaller one stand closer to the guests. The illusion should help make everyone look perfect. I know it's not ideal, but when you're dealing with people who selfishly refuse to work wth you on things like this, you do what you can.

Oh, and with only four months to go... You'd better get them started on their uniform tanning regimen right away. If one is significantly lighter than the other, the illusory effect above could be ruined.

See. And they say MFP people aren't helpful!

THANK YOU!

You might want to have the larger one tan a little more.

Is this serious? ohh boy

Juice fast and a bulk? FIFY.