rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

No one ever really said anything when I was at my highest (which, let's be honest, wasn't THAT high, at 150). But now that I've lost weight (somewhere in the neighborhood of 25-30 pounds), multiple people have told me that I should stop now, that I don't need to lose anymore, that I'm too skinny. I find THAT to be as rude as anything. I have put in a lot of hard work, dedication, tears, stress, time, etc. to lose all that weight, and it would be nice if someone commended me for it rather than saying they didn't understand why I was losing weight to begin with. Uh, perhaps because by my BMI I was "overweight?" Perhaps because I couldn't run then and I can now? Perhaps because I can school my coworkers in Kenpo now? Perhaps because my heart rate is lower? Perhaps because I can buy clothes now and most of them actually fit and look decent on me, instead of being stretched to the max in my thighs, or that I can't find any in my size to begin with? Maybe because I actually feel somewhat comfortable in a bathing suit (something I have never felt before). I mean, none of those reasons matter, though.

(I would like to point out that my Husband is my biggest supporter and has cheered me on and rooted for me the entire way. He even came over to me the other day, with a 20 pound dumbbell in his hand, handed it to me, and said, "Is that heavy?" And I said, "Uh, yeah." He says, "You have lost MORE weight than that." Score 100 points for Hubby for pointing out something so obvious, but that I hadn't even thought of. What a perfect way to make me really see all that I have accomplished!)

I was seeing a guy a few weeks ago and we had gone to the beach. I fell asleep and woke up to find he had left, whilst leaving a note written on sandwich paper, on my stomach which said "Not a Whale - Do Not Harpoon" ...

Needless to say, we aren't seeing each other anymore.

you know if I really liked you I would have helped you lose weight said the guy who had just found out I was having his baby then he left and had nothing to do with his daughter

and your pretty but if you were skinny youd be hot ouch

When I was about 13, this boy at my church (whom I had liked a few years before, but his tendency to split lizards in half had happily ended that little moment of insanity) told me that I was too ugly and fat to ever be loved. He said I'd probably die alone and get eaten by my cats.:noway:

B***h please. I'm a dog person... :laugh:

Seriously though, that comment stuck with me every time I looked in the mirror for years.

An old family friend told me I'd been so beautiful, and that I'd ruined myself by having children.

I'm highschool this boy told me I would never have a boyfriend. Jokes on him now.

I work from home mostly so when I'm in the office I take any available desk but there are no extra phones. When I joked to my boss about spending most of the day walking to and from her office every time I had a question, she replied, "That's ok, you could use the exercise." I thought that was somewhat inappropriate, plus I had already lost some weight so it pissed me off. I did take great satisfaction in seeing her jaw drop on my next visit, having lost another 40 lbs.

Lady in line...yes at Mc Donalds...asked if I knew what I was having. I said um...I'm not pregnant. I'm just fat. She said oh...people thing my daughter is too. I said oh that is nice.

Maybe she was asking what you were having to eat eg a Big Mac or a Quarter Pounder.

My son has lost about 120 lbs but before that, every time he would go on a diet my advice to him was not to tell anyone because I noticed that when he did people who on the one hand tell him he needed to lose weight would on the other try to sabotage him. While it was "you don't need another serving" when he was not dieting, as soon as he was it would change to "oh, you need to have some more fried chicken".

At a recent job interview with a well known Scottish owned London bus company, I was told Sorry for any upset but we never employ anyone as fat as you as you break our drivers seats come back when you are lighter. This despite only being 4 kg over their cut off point. Needless to say I told them where to poke the job.

So for Easter we had my sister's roommate staying over. She lived far away and couldn't make it home for the small break and we offered to let her stay. So she is a small skinny girl, and my family...well we aren't. So my grandmother was over and the kids were going to take the dog to the playground, so everyone left but me. I was sitting with my grandmother and my mom when she said "You can definitely tell that she doesn't belong in this family." :sad:

Now then my sister isn't as big as me, and I am definitely not as big as my mom or grandmother. But that comment really hurt. I have been trying to lose weight, but I haven't told anyone. All I could think was, you both used to be so small! I see pictures of them and I can't believe it's the same people. My mom was in the military and she was so healthy, but then she had kids and she let her health go....I want to prove to them that we can look healthy if they just try!

That comment has always stuck with me...along with a few others that people have told me (the usual "you have a pretty face").

These are so sad

My dad and bf have both used the word 'big' to describe my mother and I. I think it's a lack of tact with vocabulary but my dad meant that my mom is tall (they're kind of a funny pair, he's 5'6 and she's 5'9) but no woman wants to be called big!!!! My bf has called my calves big and he just meant the muscles are defined. Lol so awkward. *rolls eyes* I'm now self conscious about my calves.

in a darker light though, these are the worst memories i have.
1. my best friends when we were around 11 years old “you would be so beautiful if you lost weight”
2. i was at summer camp and at lunch some girl looked at my plate and asked me “why so much?” i wanted to throw it at her. and then later we were all walking in a group to do some activity and this random guy just walks up behind me and says Rita’s so fat. like out of NOWHERE. a sweetheart older guy said in response when i had nothing to say because i was so shocked, “i like rita, she’s real” or something. in reference to my personality. it made me feel a lot better and stopped the tears from wanting to come out.

3. my middle school principal’s 5 year old daughter when i was 13 “you’re fat” i wanted to deck the little *****.

4. after being bullied throughout the entirety of middle school by the other 9 girls in my all girls’ class (oh that was a great idea) as the fat girl, can’t even go into detail about that cause there are too many details… this one girl actually sent me an email after we graduated telling me how much she hated me and that i wasn’t worth anything and that i was ugly and no guy will ever love me. I don’t know why she felt the need to do that even, seemed kind of bizarre at the time. well she ended up overdosing on ecstasy her first year of college and dropped out. now she hates her life. i think she was just unhappy her whole life and had to take it out on people she saw as targets.

is it any wonder that at this age ,13, I lost 50 lbs and got down to a BMI of 18.5 and developed an eating disorder for years? I’m in so much better of a place today but jesus christ I don’t know how I survived ages 11-14 sometimes. for some reason it felt good to get all of this out. ****, people are so gross sometimes! i'm so grateful to my family and boyfriend who have never been anything but loving and supporting and never been cruel to me.

Back when I initially lost 85lbs, my neighbor invited me over to "fix her computer." She locked me in the house and insisted on telling me how unhealthy I was, how I was likely abusing drugs to get to thin, how clearly I had something "dark in my soul" and how I needed God to help me, and how she wouldn't let me leave until I ate a piece of cake. And then I'm pretty sure she tried to get me to have sex with her.

w...t...f..

I always find it funny when people come out of the woodwork once you loose weight, and start trying to tell you how it's unhealthy to loose so fast, how taking fat burners or supplements are unhealthy, or to eat so little is going to stop my metabolism. I just think " I lost 60 lb's and my doctor says that my vitals are the best they have ever been, what do you know." I just X those people out of my social network nowadays instead of arguing with them.

As I walked across the living room one time at 17, my dad was on the couch with a bowl of ice cream sitting on his stomach, He looked at me and said "You're getting a little broad across the beam, aren't you?"

I was wearing a bikini top and shorts when I went to visit family and my mom asked me "Are you really going to walk around with your belly hanging out?"

Um. My body fat is 20%. I'm a runner. There is nothing "hanging" anywhere. I don't have rock hard abs, but I definitely don't have "hanging" anything and I think I have every right to wear whatever I want out in 90 degree whether as long as my reproductive bits are covered up.

I'm not sure if it was jealousy or what, but I never forgot just rolling my eyes and walking away.