Men: how much does a woman's weight really matter?

I guess it's no more important than a man's height or the type of car he drives...

Here is me. I have dated girls of all shapes and sizes, flat chested all the way to floatation devices. None looked or acted the same. But they all have 2 things in common 1) self confidence 2) they were all smart.

It's about confidence, and how you see yourself- not necessarily how the man sees your weight. I was always thin, but after having my children, I have gained a lot of weight. Now that I am divorced and dating again, I am noticing that I am not very confident at all. So, I want to lose this weight so I will feel better about myself- I think I am just projecting onto the men I date, and think that maybe they don't care about my weight as much as I do. Bottom line, I do care about it, so I'm going to lose it.

I'd like to answer no but the truth is its the persons appearance that catches my attention first, obviously if there a total arsehole I wont have any interest haha

All I can tell you is that when I met my husband, I was about a size 12. I'm a size 4 now.

He tends to like slightly "larger" ladies (not that a 12 is particularly "large"); but he seems to like a size 4 also...or maybe he just likes me.

DBs are those who don't like her, apparently. It's not even necessarily about weight. One of the best lessons you can learn, OP, is that not everyone is going to like you. Accept it. Let it go. They don't even have to be bad people. It's just the way life is. Keep looking until you find the person who loves you then take good care of each other. If you're really lucky you'll find him.
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This, absolutely

i woman's size does matter to me.

i prefer a woman who has curves, however, if she is extremely big, i might have an issue with that in the long run.

when i married my wife, she was perfect. i found her sexy, gorgeous and what topped it off was that she was quick witted and smart.

now, after a couple of kids she has put on a couple of pounds, but still, i find her as sexy and gorgeous as she was when it was just us. what has changed now is that i appreciate her more. but if she ever got to the point where she was on the path to obesity, i would hope she did something about it.

there is a reason we are all on this site - to loose weight and get healthy. we all know how stressful, unfitting, emotionally damaging it is to be overweight. why on earth would i want my lady to ever feel this way.

I have had a recent foray into online dating, and I am currently size 14. I am confident in myself, as I feel that I am pretty attractive and accomplished regardless of my weight. However, I notice that not getting much response from men in terms of second dates at the least, or a sense of excitement if there is a second date as I do when I'm even at a size 12. My girlfriends insist that weight isn't that big a deal in and if itself... But I don't buy it. When it comes to professional, educated men, does weight truly trump all else when it comes to dating? Am I just wasting my time even putting myself out there up until I'm back to a size 6-8?

My wife is a little overweight right now.
My wife was weigh more when I was dating her for the first time.
But I love her because of her confidence,self respect, brain & many other characteristics...other than weight

Yes getting the ideal BMI is much better.
For some guy, getting a girlfriend with "Victoria Secret Body" is a priority.
But for most, personality is the Quality we look to get a great partner for life, not weight.

I'm staying fit to motivate my wife to do the same.
To stay healthy is the goal, great body is the bonus.

Your body is fine & you look beautiful.
Just be CONFIDENT, style appropriately to your own look (not because someone else say so).
Be proud of yourself.

I can sense your doubt about your weight & size...DON'T!
If you want to trim your weight, do it to stay healthy, not for those moron who look down on you.