Make my roommate get a life!

plot twist inc!

I'm waiting for the plot twist

The roommate is really a blowup doll.

I knew it! That's why she can't get him to move. Just laying there, staring...

As an introvert I understand completely how he feels. Sounds like you two are not a good fit as roommates. I would normally advise you to just talk to him about a schedule that allows you each to use the space alone at different times, but in your case you just need a different roommate.

A different roommate or to live alone. OP needs a close female friend to live with her.

From personal experience, living with close friends is a TERRIBLE idea... at least for girls. I have yet to meet friends who ended a living together with a better, or even as strong relationship, as they had before living together.

I have two friends from high school that were from the same circles, but definitely not besties. They moved in together and now they're inseparable. It can work with the right girls. But if one or both parties are into being dramatic/passive-aggressive... yeah no. Not a good idea.

This is why I have been close friends with all of my past roommates beforehand. All of our friends would just hang out together, and it was no big deal.

If you have never actually told him you'd like him to go elsewhere when you have friends over then do you expect him to be a mind-reader? You gotta say it straight, if he gives you crap then start shopping for a new roommate, if he agrees and sees your opinion then you should be just fine since he sounds like he would work with you and not be an *kitten*.

As an introvert I understand completely how he feels. Sounds like you two are not a good fit as roommates. I would normally advise you to just talk to him about a schedule that allows you each to use the space alone at different times, but in your case you just need a different roommate.

A different roommate or to live alone. OP needs a close female friend to live with her.

From personal experience, living with close friends is a TERRIBLE idea... at least for girls. I have yet to meet friends who ended a living together with a better, or even as strong relationship, as they had before living together.

I have two friends from high school that were from the same circles, but definitely not besties. They moved in together and now they're inseparable. It can work with the right girls. But if one or both parties are into being dramatic/passive-aggressive... yeah no. Not a good idea.

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I lived with a friend my last two years of undergrad and we are still close. Only thing preventing us from hanging out on a regular basis is the fact that she lives in Florida and I'm in TX. I think it depends on how open the individuals are to talking about issues or things that are bugging them. Problems start when you let things fester.

Can't you agree some house rules with him?

I'm sure there's a compromise here which will be workable for you both.

As an introvert I understand completely how he feels. Sounds like you two are not a good fit as roommates. I would normally advise you to just talk to him about a schedule that allows you each to use the space alone at different times, but in your case you just need a different roommate.

A different roommate or to live alone. OP needs a close female friend to live with her.

From personal experience, living with close friends is a TERRIBLE idea... at least for girls. I have yet to meet friends who ended a living together with a better, or even as strong relationship, as they had before living together.

I have two friends from high school that were from the same circles, but definitely not besties. They moved in together and now they're inseparable. It can work with the right girls. But if one or both parties are into being dramatic/passive-aggressive... yeah no. Not a good idea.

I could easily be roommates with my best friend (and a few other female friends). Thankfully, I have never had to have a roommate and I don't think I would want to, but if I did, I would much prefer a friend than someone I didn't know well or at all.

Tell him to join MFP, he can TC with us and get Kik.

BWAHAHAHAHA

As an introvert I understand completely how he feels. Sounds like you two are not a good fit as roommates. I would normally advise you to just talk to him about a schedule that allows you each to use the space alone at different times, but in your case you just need a different roommate.

A different roommate or to live alone. OP needs a close female friend to live with her.

From personal experience, living with close friends is a TERRIBLE idea... at least for girls. I have yet to meet friends who ended a living together with a better, or even as strong relationship, as they had before living together.

Yup, just have to chime in that I've only had one female roommate (out of six) that I'm not still friends with and that's because it turned out that she was a manipulative, compulsive lying beyotch - so, just as well. LOL! I'm also the type of person who likes to lay out all expectations from the start so I think that helps. Who does what for cooking, cleaning, how are bills split, etc.

OP, I agree, if he pays half the rent, he has every right to hang out in his own living room. However, I agree that it wouldn't hurt to ask if he wouldn't mind you having a girls night every couple months. Make sure you check with him before setting those dates and also realize he has every right to refuse the idea.

If you want a place where you don't have to share space, get your own apartment.

Also, thanks to all of you for defending introverts!!

edited because more details and geebus I can't spell today!