How did you know you were marrying the right person?

To be honest it kinda blows my mind that people could get married. Idk I just cant imagine myself thinking, "This is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with." Wouldn't you get bored seeing the same person everyday? How are you so sure that person is the one? What does it feel like? It just seems very scary to me.

So don't get married. You don't have to. And you haven't ever thought that because you haven't met anyone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Actually, you may not. That's okay.

And no, I don't get bored with the same person every day. My life involves much more than that person. He's not there to keep me entertained and fulfilled. He's there to be my partner through life. He just experiences life with me and that's awesome. I don't think there's just one person out there for each person and we are destined to meet or anything. You just have to find someone you love and can get along with and yeah, then you think, sure, pretty sure I can spend the rest of my life with this person. Of course you are never 100% sure but you make a commitment to try as hard as you can to make it work forever and sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't.

But yes, getting to know someone for a decent period of time is a good idea. 5 years really isn't that long once you past 25 years old.

I've been with my husband for 12 years and most of the time we still get along really well. We are happy, great friends, have 3 great kids. We still have a lot of fun together, have awesome sex, laugh, flirt, have adventures. We also support each other when times are bad, when a loved one passes or when there major stress at work. We support each others goals, dreams, hobbies, etc.

by the time you go to marry someone, you believe that you are with the right person- that's how you know, haha! Hindsight says that you never really know...

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Well, I haven't found the right one yet but luckily my ex and I figured this out before we got married .

Marriage #1 - complete failure. Turned out that I married a sociopath. I was afraid to leave. What if no one else ever wanted me? What if life would get worse? Bah, bad choice for sure.

Marriage #2 - Total success (from my perspective) I learned a lot about myself between marriage #1 and #2. Getting bored is an issue for me. I have interests that my hubbs doesn't and he has interests that I don't. As such we are happily married in an open relationship, thus allowing us to find what we feel we need without burdening the other. Good communication has been key and so far other than the fact that I have holly terrors.. I mean kids, we have very few rough spots in our relationship. The parenting is the hardest part.

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Do you guys have offshore accounts or secret assets?

:huh: No. Are you implying a need to hide money from your spouse?

My dad once said every man should, because you always need a backup plan.

Hiding things from each other is an excellent foundation for a marriage.

To be honest it kinda blows my mind that people could get married. Idk I just cant imagine myself thinking, "This is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with." Wouldn't you get bored seeing the same person everyday? How are you so sure that person is the one? What does it feel like? It just seems very scary to me.

When you meet the right person none of these things matter - you never ever contemplate that you could get bored. You really have to work at marriage though and even when I feel like chucking it all in I remind myself why I married him and why it's worth working at it.

When I met my husband he was the opposite of the sort of person I'd usually be attracted to. The fact that he didn't snore and wasn't a sports fanatic was a bonus. Opposites do attract but you need some things in common too.

If you still consider having any offshore accounts and hiding anything from the girl, she's not "the one". Simple.

You'll know that you're ready to marry that person when there's no need to ask "how?"

I totally married the wrong person the first time. I've been divorced almost a year now. All I can say is make sure her sammich making skills are up to par before saying "I Do"

Hahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa there's that sammich thing again! That's the funniest joke EVER.

17 years and the jury is still out!

To be honest it kinda blows my mind that people could get married. Idk I just cant imagine myself thinking, "This is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with." Wouldn't you get bored seeing the same person everyday? How are you so sure that person is the one? What does it feel like? It just seems very scary to me.

Just don't get married then. Marriage isn't for everyone and you can still be in a serious long-term relationship without getting married.

You'll know if and when it's right. I was engaged to a guy for 6 months, and I arrived at the decision it would have never worked for us. My light bulb moment was 4 months into the engagement, I had long heart to heart conversations with co-workers about how miserable I was. But, also, everyone else saw it was a disaster before I even had an inkling. So, trust yourself and trust those closest to you that know you best.

So, here I am, 30 and unmarried, but I know a dodged a MAJOR bullet in breaking off my engagement and sending him packing.

I've been with my husband almost 15 years (married 10). He's tall, funny, and makes good money. What else is there?

It is different for everyone. For me, I knew my husband was the one when I didn't have even the least bit of interest in another man. I still don't, six years later. For me, he was the one who made me a priority and was always good to me. He was the one who I wanted to be the father to my then future children.

I like this answer. Very cool!!