Who made you become overweight?
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Please continue to blame your problems on every other factor in your life besides yourself... then report back in a year on your progress, k? :flowerforyou:
Are we reading the same thread ? I am inpressed with how people here take responsibility for themselves not blaming anyone else. Are you just naturally angry .....:o) ?
Yeah, I'm a little confused too. :huh: So far, in all of the threads I've read everyone pretty much takes responsibility for themselves. Some do cite influences and role models but have said that in the end, no one makes us overeat.0 -
oh definitely my mom
she personally doesn't like sweets and desserts and she never bought them for me and my brother because she didn't want us to become fat and ruin our teeth.
so i have a childhood trauma because there was never enough sweets. now that i live alone i can eat all the stuff i want and well, that resulted in weight gain.0 -
Me, my husband, and depo0
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Yes ! i used to be an average kid, and then my parents got divorced. I lived with my dad for a fe years and then i got fat. Not very fat or dangerously obese, but above average. My mum used to be the only one who cooked food in the house and then all of a sudden my dad had to do it alone. So we had a lot of takeout, or unhealthy stuff.0
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WOW Cant believe how many people replied! I just read the whole thing I don't know how I missed this! Thanks for all the replies
Just so you know, I know it was ME, I asked because I often here others in my life blame everyone but themselves and it interested me. 0 -
Who made me become overweight? It was me, myself and I!0
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the devil? dun dun dun.. otherwise I would have to take full responsibility for myself ! and i'm not ready for that responsibility >.>.. i dont live that life
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oh forgot to add the cookie monster.. stole his cookies
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It was most definately me that ate and drank too much, but family upbringing definately helped shaped my attitudes to food. My mum is one of those that likes to feed people and and everything was celebrated with food. Changing my mindset was hard, as was being able to say no to mum and her constant "would you like a sandwich/cake/biscuit" everytime I visit.0
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Ultimately me, no one force fed me !
1. Bad homedinner habbits through teens
2. Unhappy at home in teens
3. Thyroid disorder from age 4 diagnosed at 10
4. Got a nice figure summer 2008, first time feeling confident ever, got pregnant winter 2008, EXTREMELY bad pregnancy, an abnormal amount of water, longer than average baby, and would be physically sick if i ate any fruit or veg that wasn't strawberries, peas or baby corn..! IAt best, I would feel nausious after every meal, that wasn't something like a white sauce lasagne, mc donalds (hadnt previously eaten mc donalds in years) or, my favourite, some form of red meat sandwich with a melted chocolate filling...
I put on 4 stone in that pregnancy
5. Living as a single mum, sitting on the sofa in the evening, unable to exercise
6. food to deal with emotions
7. A father that brought me up (no mother) doesnt know how to deal with emotional problems so answers with food
8. Family who think it is funny to try and tempt you with food
9. Convenience food as a working ful time, often travelling for work mother of a young child
Lost some weight over a course of 3 yrs v slowly with no real comittment.
Went through some harder times last year financially and in August 2013 i was the same size and weight i was when pregnant! dropped around 3 stone, and now working on the rest0 -
We are adults and know the difference between right and wrong. There is no need to put blame on anyone else. Learning to stop blaming everybody else for your own personal choices is when you start getting things done.0
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Haha so me because my family and friends are skinny.0
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After careful consideration, I still blame it on my kids.0
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I don't put blame on my parents. But I grew up in the 80's in a household I thought was pretty typical...Lunchables and Little Debbie and Pizza Hut or Red Lobster. All of the sugar, salt & fat was what I was accustomed to. A lot of my friends ate the same way and were skinny, but I was always chubby. So that impacted me -- I felt like I was somehow in the wrong for getting fat off the same Hot Pockets and Snickers that didn't affect my friends, and I assumed it was genetic. Ha. By the time I hit my teens those habits were in place and add to that being very sedentary, preferring to read or draw over sports or other active hobbies...that's how I became very overweight.0
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I once heard a comedian say your parents don’t just know where your buttons are they installed them.
Food issues don’t just run in my family…they go at warp speed. I have never known my mother to not be on a diet. Food has always been reward or punishment. All of my siblings have issues with food, one has anorexia the rest of us struggle with over eating.
Having spent some time with my Grandmother as an adult I know exactly where it came from…but it all has to stop somewhere for each of us. My sister seems to have raised 4 healthy kids who don’t have the same issues so that’s amazing. It’s easy to blame your parents but often they were doing the best that they could do at the time.
It doesn’t matter who or why, I need to be responsible for my life and health. I have lost one sibling and I don’t plan on being next.0 -
Being overweight as a child I could say that my parents are mostly responsible for the crap that I consumed.
But now as an adult, I am 100% responsible for my health and weight.0 -
I think my mom being a single parent and working nights contributed. I became less active because my sister and I couldn't go outside and play while she was sleep. I wasn't too involved in school activities because I wouldn't have a way home. I'm also an introvert so I would watch tv or get on the computer when I wasn't at school.
I ate a lot and sometimes just out of boredom. I knew nothing about calories or how to lose weight.
I, too, was raised by a single mom. She didn't work nights, but I was a latch-key kid and not allowed to go out until she got home. Of course, by then, it was dinner time and in the winter, it was dark. I ate a lot out of boredom. I'm also an emotional eater. I come from an Italian family, when you're sad, you eat...when you're happy, you eat...when it's Tuesday, you eat. I'm working on it, but it's hard to break a lifetime habit.0 -
Other people certainly trigger me, especially when I feel I havent asserted myself.
but its me who I think is to blame.0 -
Me? Though I think some of it was due to the mentality of "eat everything on your plate" from my grandparents. They weren't mean about it or anything, I was just always an eager to please child. My parents never required this, only that we finish whatever vegetable was on our plate. To this day I feel guilty if I don't eat everything I'm given, though doggie bags help assuage some of that b/c I can eat it later (though then I feel guilty for using styrofoam containers!)0
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The blame game is outdated, old, and ever so tired!0
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There were multiple factors that lead to me being obese. As a child, I grew up in a typical southern home. The nutritional aspects of the food in our home weren't the best. By first grade, I'd become "husky" as they liked to call it in the '80s. Add on top of that an abusive father and stress eating to swallow my feelings... you get the idea.
By college, I was a big boy. Becoming an EMT with an ambulance company only made it worse. Long sleepless nights, eating on the road... my weight skyrocketed. After five years of that life, I transitioned into banking and finance. That put me behind a desk. The inactivity sealed the deal. At my biggest, I was 340 pounds.
Last year, I finally decided enough was enough. Here I am today at 306. My goal is to just make it to 300 by September, then make a new goal.0 -
I think its a bad idea to start doing the "blame game" and deny personal responsibility.I obviously know that ultimately I put the food in my mouth. So obviously me
But do you think that your childhood homelife and parents contribute to you being overweight as you get older? Like when you see a fat child ? Or parents who aren't educated in what and how to cook?
Or maybe partners who eat badly? Or do you just think its all your fault for eating too much?
Just curious:)0 -
me myself and I ! Depression, beer and eating when depressed don't help !0
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Me. Simple.
I don't expect anyone to listen to my excuses and I don't have time to tell them to myself either.0 -
really....
as a child if your parents allow you to eat whatever, whenever they have to take some responsibilty for that but once you can make the choices yourself...then no it's all you...
My mom was a great cook and we were poor so I was a slim child...continued to be slim until I could make my own choices then I got fat...and stayed fat...
That is all on me...
As for your partners...unless they are force feeding you it's still on you...
Trying to blame others for your choices is not taking responsibility for your own behaviour..which is imho childish...0 -
My weight was normal up until I was 7 , my uncle at the time got very sick and my mum was out most of the days .. when you're that young you can't really know how to eat healthy, I just ate out of the fridge, a lot of rice over six months and I found myself already chubby ! when my mum got back home after that she tried to make me lose weight but I was a child and I felt that I am punished, I was the only one who is not allowed to eat want I want and everyone around me is eating what they want !
Until then I really can't stop blaming my parents ...
when I was 15 I decided to lose weight in a healthy way, I lost about 12 kg in 4 months which was amazing but I gained it all back an more over a period of 6 years, NOW THAT was honestly my fault !
when I became 21 with 97 kgs (216 lbs) I realized there is something wrong and I began to put the possibility that I might be a food addict and I began to change my life style .
I still ask myself though, if my mum had never neglected me and left for my sick uncle would any of that had happened ?0 -
really....
as a child if your parents allow you to eat whatever, whenever they have to take some responsibilty for that but once you can make the choices yourself...then no it's all you...
My mom was a great cook and we were poor so I was a slim child...continued to be slim until I could make my own choices then I got fat...and stayed fat...
That is all on me...
As for your partners...unless they are force feeding you it's still on you...
Trying to blame others for your choices is not taking responsibility for your own behaviour..which is imho childish...
I love your explanation and outlook.0 -
someone just looked at me with their eye and i swelled up like a balloon0
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Ronald mcdonald and the taco bell dog0
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I take FULL responsibility
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Me. Eating what I wanted and laying on the couch and drinking beer=fat *kitten*.0
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