How can someone get to 538lbs?
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Great story, glad to see some positive change come out of such negative things that happened . People say that they can't get how someone can get to that much weight. I can. Life really can be ****ty, I was in a few situations very similar to yours and a lot of peoples. I've never had anyone super close to me pass like that, but have had a bunch of internal family dysfunction that laid such a heavy mental burden on me that all I often did was choose to comfort eat.
Life was ****ty, frankly. I had lost the weight before, but I had got hurt and regained it all and THEN some. On top of home problems, the injuries depressed me because they caused permanent damage. Greatly hurting my strength. This is one of the most demoralizing things that can happen to someone. Life isn't a whole lot better now, but I am in a more mentally positive situation and try to find all the positive things in life that are actually worth living for. There are people, places, and things out there that are absolutely worth improving your life to be a part of. THat's what I always tell myself on the days where I feel like sinking back into that hole.0 -
You rock OP!0 -
Funny everyone on here saying anything to me has 4k, 5k, 6k, 9k posts. I wonder why?
I am not sure why you feel the need to try and tear people down, usually that is the sign of a person with severe emotional problems.
People lash out because of their doubts about themselves. Hell I know because I have done it myself. If you read my story instead of skimming you would know that even though at one point I might have blamed others for some of my issues I do not do that anymore and I take full responsibility for how big I got. I don't want sympathy or anything like it because it doesn't really help. Kind words are always nice and I appreciate everyone who had some kinds words to say. My post was about a question that I get quite often when people find out how much I weighed and its a question a lot of people get and so many just can't comprehend. All I wanted to do was address that question with some honesty. You cry excuses, but people do certain things for certain reasons. I was simply explaining the reason why I ate so much. I fully admit that I was wrong but that doesn't change how I felt at the time.
I assume you are attention seeking and I appreciate that you at least wished me well but saying it like that is quite passive aggressive and very childish. I wish you luck with your health goals.
My intention wasn't to tear you down. Sometimes when I feel strongly about something I come off the wrong way. I don't believe in excuses or blaming others for anything. Everyone has the capacity to change their situation, and that's exactly what you're doing. If someone came up to me and asked "how'd you get so big dude," I'd tell them straight up I drink and eat to much. Not " Well, ya know, this happened, that happened." No, it's my fault. I wish you the best in the future.
You could just say you expressed yourself poorly, apologize and stop trying to hijack the OP with what sounds a whole lot like excuses.0 -
Funny everyone on here saying anything to me has 4k, 5k, 6k, 9k posts. I wonder why?
I am not sure why you feel the need to try and tear people down, usually that is the sign of a person with severe emotional problems.
People lash out because of their doubts about themselves. Hell I know because I have done it myself. If you read my story instead of skimming you would know that even though at one point I might have blamed others for some of my issues I do not do that anymore and I take full responsibility for how big I got. I don't want sympathy or anything like it because it doesn't really help. Kind words are always nice and I appreciate everyone who had some kinds words to say. My post was about a question that I get quite often when people find out how much I weighed and its a question a lot of people get and so many just can't comprehend. All I wanted to do was address that question with some honesty. You cry excuses, but people do certain things for certain reasons. I was simply explaining the reason why I ate so much. I fully admit that I was wrong but that doesn't change how I felt at the time.
I assume you are attention seeking and I appreciate that you at least wished me well but saying it like that is quite passive aggressive and very childish. I wish you luck with your health goals.
My intention wasn't to tear you down. Sometimes when I feel strongly about something I come off the wrong way. I don't believe in excuses or blaming others for anything. Everyone has the capacity to change their situation, and that's exactly what you're doing. If someone came up to me and asked "how'd you get so big dude," I'd tell them straight up I drink and eat to much. Not " Well, ya know, this happened, that happened." No, it's my fault. I wish you the best in the future.
Everybody may have the ability to change their situation but it is never as easy nor can it be painted in black and white... Judging by your profile I am going to take a stab in the dark that you have never weighed over 500 pounds nor have the living experience one might need to comprehend the trials and tribulation one would have went through to get to that weight... I for one can totally relate to the OP on MANY Levels. I finally had that Aha moment after sitting in a recliner with a loaded handgun for 3 days... You have no idea the reasons that caused the weight gain, I went into the Army straight out of high school after playing 4 years of high school football at 270-280 lbs. coming out of boot camp/AIT combined in 1991, I weighed 209 lbs. and by 2009 I was pretty much trapped in my home unable to walk from room to room and tipping the scale at 560 lbs. for the better half of a decade my family tried several interventions but I didn't have the problem they did or atleast that is what I told myself for years until the day I had a reality check and decided to put the gun down and get busy living.
Sitting on that side of 500 lbs. knowing that you have to lose 300 lbs. and not having a clue of how to lose 3 lbs. let alone 300 lbs. is such a daunting task but finding the grit and determination to commit to the process and work hard and overcome the obstacles that have been standing in the way deserve a level of respect and admiration. OP I fully commend you on taking control of your life and working hard to overcome your demons that lead you to your weight gain but as you know it is so much deeper than shoveling food down the hatch. There is always a reason that led us to that place and finding out what that is, facing it, and working to overcome it is just as important as the whole eating thing, if not more...
I just wanted to let you know that I have stood exactly where you were and can tell you now standing on the other side that it is with out a doubt totally possible to change your path. (As you are doing.) Nothing and No one is ever to far gone to make the changes necessary to regain control of their life. I am living proof of that... Best of Luck on your continued journey and keep up the great job!!!0 -
Thanks for sharing this, OP. The emotional causes have to be treated along with the physical and I'm glad you are finding your way. Gaining weight to that degree must be very similar to other emotional crutches such as drugs and alcohol. Great job and good luck!0
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Funny everyone on here saying anything to me has 4k, 5k, 6k, 9k posts. I wonder why?
I am not sure why you feel the need to try and tear people down, usually that is the sign of a person with severe emotional problems.
People lash out because of their doubts about themselves. Hell I know because I have done it myself. If you read my story instead of skimming you would know that even though at one point I might have blamed others for some of my issues I do not do that anymore and I take full responsibility for how big I got. I don't want sympathy or anything like it because it doesn't really help. Kind words are always nice and I appreciate everyone who had some kinds words to say. My post was about a question that I get quite often when people find out how much I weighed and its a question a lot of people get and so many just can't comprehend. All I wanted to do was address that question with some honesty. You cry excuses, but people do certain things for certain reasons. I was simply explaining the reason why I ate so much. I fully admit that I was wrong but that doesn't change how I felt at the time.
I assume you are attention seeking and I appreciate that you at least wished me well but saying it like that is quite passive aggressive and very childish. I wish you luck with your health goals.
My intention wasn't to tear you down. Sometimes when I feel strongly about something I come off the wrong way. I don't believe in excuses or blaming others for anything. Everyone has the capacity to change their situation, and that's exactly what you're doing. If someone came up to me and asked "how'd you get so big dude," I'd tell them straight up I drink and eat to much. Not " Well, ya know, this happened, that happened." No, it's my fault. I wish you the best in the future.
You could just say you expressed yourself poorly, apologize and stop trying to hijack the OP with what sounds a whole lot like excuses.
Recognizing that someone is having a mental health crisis, like the OP did, is a far cry from blaming others. The OP shared a narrative of how he got to where he was and where he is. That's not excuse making, particularly when he specifically took responsibility, but it is recognizing what he's been through. Some people deal with depression with alcohol and drugs, others with food. It is essential though we look not at the symptom and judge, but at the disease and at least offer encouragement. We have a long way to go before mental health is given the attention it deserves.0 -
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Luke, wonderful story. I'm sorry someone was in here being a real dirtbag....that made me angry.
Do not look back with regret on your "wasted years." The best years are now - starting today. (((hugs)))0 -
^This, I agree with and Tony thank you for having the courage to share, so that those who may question how/why can think twice before they jump to judgement and those who are struggling can be inspired by not only your success, but to show how very fragile our humanity is and find a kindred spirit in you. Like the above poster said, I think we all have vices to deal with what we are lacking in our lives and some just have a more outward effect than others. My vice was shopping. Most people don't see it outwardly but it can wreak havoc on your credit score.Funny everyone on here saying anything to me has 4k, 5k, 6k, 9k posts. I wonder why?
I am not sure why you feel the need to try and tear people down, usually that is the sign of a person with severe emotional problems.
People lash out because of their doubts about themselves. Hell I know because I have done it myself. If you read my story instead of skimming you would know that even though at one point I might have blamed others for some of my issues I do not do that anymore and I take full responsibility for how big I got. I don't want sympathy or anything like it because it doesn't really help. Kind words are always nice and I appreciate everyone who had some kinds words to say. My post was about a question that I get quite often when people find out how much I weighed and its a question a lot of people get and so many just can't comprehend. All I wanted to do was address that question with some honesty. You cry excuses, but people do certain things for certain reasons. I was simply explaining the reason why I ate so much. I fully admit that I was wrong but that doesn't change how I felt at the time.
I assume you are attention seeking and I appreciate that you at least wished me well but saying it like that is quite passive aggressive and very childish. I wish you luck with your health goals.
My intention wasn't to tear you down. Sometimes when I feel strongly about something I come off the wrong way. I don't believe in excuses or blaming others for anything. Everyone has the capacity to change their situation, and that's exactly what you're doing. If someone came up to me and asked "how'd you get so big dude," I'd tell them straight up I drink and eat to much. Not " Well, ya know, this happened, that happened." No, it's my fault. I wish you the best in the future.
You could just say you expressed yourself poorly, apologize and stop trying to hijack the OP with what sounds a whole lot like excuses.
Recognizing that someone is having a mental health crisis, like the OP did, is a far cry from blaming others. The OP shared a narrative of how he got to where he was and where he is. That's not excuse making, particularly when he specifically took responsibility, but it is recognizing what he's been through. Some people deal with depression with alcohol and drugs, others with food. It is essential though we look not at the symptom and judge, but at the disease and at least offer encouragement. We have a long way to go before mental health is given the attention it deserves.
You have so much life yet to live and a story to tell, so get out there and do it.0 -
An amazing, inspiring and heart felt post! Thank you for sharing with us!
Congratulations on your success!0 -
You are amazing.thank you for sharing. Close your eyes as all your MFP give you a million of hugs.0
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OP, Thanks so much for your candor. Self-examination is hard enough when you plan on keeping it to yourself, but to share it with the Internet without pulling any punches....that takes some stones. I hit 408 because I ate whatever I wanted because I didn't care whether I lived or died, or about much of anything else. It took me a long while, and the love of a good woman to find value in both myself, and in my life. You're farther along than I am, but it's super encouraging to see someone that much further along the road I've been on, and am still traveling. You seem a good man, and I appreciate your sharing!0
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OP, Thanks so much for your candor. Self-examination is hard enough when you plan on keeping it to yourself, but to share it with the Internet without pulling any punches....that takes some stones. I hit 408 because I ate whatever I wanted because I didn't care whether I lived or died, or about much of anything else. It took me a long while, and the love of a good woman to find value in both myself, and in my life. You're farther along than I am, but it's super encouraging to see someone that much further along the road I've been on, and am still traveling. You seem a good man, and I appreciate your sharing!
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A few people have asked to see some images of my loss so far so here it is, the girl in the picture is my new niece Ella. She is much bigger now.
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Thank you for sharing your story. You are a good writer, and you made me cry. I sometimes feel like I wasted my 20s, too, not just because of weight but because of all the emotional turmoil. I actually don't think that is all that uncommon--I just figure some of us take a little longer to get our *kitten* together. :flowerforyou:
I am so sorry for the loss of your niece. I hope you can find peace with it. Great job on the weight loss and good luck on your journey.0 -
Beautiful little girl and your personal angel. :flowerforyou:A few people have asked to see some images of my loss so far so here it is, the girl in the picture is my new niece Ella. She is much bigger now.
Thanks for showing us your friend.0 -
A few people have asked to see some images of my loss so far so here it is, the girl in the picture is my new niece Ella. She is much bigger now.
You kind of look like an entirely different person!
You should be so proud of your achievements.0 -
Wow....what an amazing post and story! Congrats on starting this journey and good luck to you on the rest! Don't feel like you have wasted your life! We all have regrets but did not waste our time. We just spent it living a different way! :flowerforyou:0
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You are amazing and inspiring and strong! I'm so sorry about your niece, but I think she would be very happy to see how you've become. You are still pretty young too! I'm 43 and can honestly tell you it only gets better and you have so much to look forward to! :flowerforyou: 0
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Thank you so much for sharing your story OP! Three years ago, I tipped the scales at my ultimate highest weight of 428lbs on a 5'1.5" frame. Every move I made was painful, I suffered from extreme edema of the lower extremities which caused my feet to swell so tightly each step I took felt as if the skin were ripping and my lower back hurt so much that just moving from my couch to my bathroom was excruciating. I was miserable and ashamed and I didn't leave the house for over a year because as you know people could be incredibly cruel..especially when it comes to something they don't understand. I wished for death every single day..it really was no kind of life. Like you, I felt the challenges I faced ahead were incredibly daunting and maybe even impossible. How could I possibly lose weight if I could barely move?
Luckily, with the encouragement of my late grandmother I managed to find some spark of hope within myself and I slowly started to make an attempt to change my life around. Prior to MFP I lost 51 lbs following a low carb diet and herbal life (do not recommend), but it quickly grew old (and expensive) and just when I was ready to give up a friend introduced me to this site. I've since managed to lose 169 lbs with MFP for a total combined weight loss to date of 220 lbs. It hasn't been easy, the struggle is mental just as much as it is physical but it's not impossible.
Last Summer I went to Puerto Rico and sat in an airplane seat without the need for an extension or an extra seat. It was surreal and despite the sad events that led me to Puerto Rico (my grandmother's death) I think I smiled that entire flight. Little things like fitting into restaurant booths, or rides at the amusement parks thrill me to the point of tears. I've recently started jogging. JOGGING. I never thought I'd see the day. I was a prisoner in my own body for so long, and now my only regret is that I didn't start sooner.
I'm very sorry for the loss of your niece, but I commend you for finding the strength to move forward. I think you are incredibly brave, and you've come so far already I have no doubt you will achieve all you want and more.
I wish you the very best of luck!! :flowerforyou:0 -
That is an awe-inspiring story, and it must have taken a lot of courage to share it. Thank you for being so brave.
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OP - You have made an amazing transformation. I read your story with tears in my eyes. Your pain and journey are so evident. You should be very, very proud of how far you've come. The picture of you and your younger niece and you after losing 150 pounds are both beautiful for very different reasons. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. And I know there's a guardian angel up there cheering you on. Be so proud of all your accomplishments. Losing weight is just one of them. Seeing why and how you got there and having the drive to fix it is even bigger in my humble opinion.0
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You are absolutely amazing!0
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Wow...
This is truly inspiring to read! Thank you for opening up and sharing your story with us!
As many others have said; I'm so sorry about our niece! The loss of a child (whether your own or not) is devastating! I lost both of my daughters in 2009 and that is when I started packing on the pounds. It's how I dealt with my anger, sadness, confusion of it all...I sympathize with you on some level and I'm inspired to see your changes and dedication and to see how strong you are to have gone forward to get healthy!
You're doing an amazing job! I wish you the very best!!0 -
What an incredible story. I am so sorry about your niece...
But so happy you are getting things together. Congrats on your huge weight loss. We all can probably say.. shoulda..coulda..woulda.. at some point in our lives.. maybe more than once.. but we all should pick up and get on like you did.
Congrats again.. and **hugs** to you!!0 -
Thank you for sharing. You have left me speechless and teary eyed. Congratulations on your loss. (((((( hugs )))) 0
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Thanks for sharing! I really admire your courage and honesty. Congratulations on all of your work and results!
Every experience has made you who you are, do not regret your 20s and 30s. In fact, I have a trusted friend who tells me that her 40s have by far been her best decade!0 -
Wow...
This is truly inspiring to read! Thank you for opening up and sharing your story with us!
As many others have said; I'm so sorry about our niece! The loss of a child (whether your own or not) is devastating! I lost both of my daughters in 2009 and that is when I started packing on the pounds. It's how I dealt with my anger, sadness, confusion of it all...I sympathize with you on some level and I'm inspired to see your changes and dedication and to see how strong you are to have gone forward to get healthy!
You're doing an amazing job! I wish you the very best!!
I am so sorry to hear about your daughters. Even though I had a great loss I can't imagine losing two daughters. Just being able to keep on going is testament to how strong you must be, and I know how hard that can be on a mother. I saw my sister suffer so much after my niece died. She had a strong group of friends around her and she has been able to carry on better then I ever thought she would. She still has a good cry now and then because you can never ever really be over it, but time does make things bearable.
Thanks so much for the kind words and I hope you meet your goals.0 -
Thank you for sharing your story so candidly, you should be so proud of all you have overcome. I agree with others that many of us have "wasted" part of earlier years, but still there is today and all those tomorrows, and those tomorrows look pretty darn fantastic! Sending you hugs from California!0
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live it up my friend! its never too late. (although i too suffer from regrets regarding my weight.)0
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