Marry for Money not Love
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Damnit, I'm doing it wrong. Any sugar daddys out there that I can leave my loving husband for?
Love is over rated. Let me give you all of my money so you can have sex with the pool boy.
Wait... we're going to have a pool AND a pool boy? OK. I'm in.0 -
I'm holding out for perfection, which MAY include, but is not limited to, money, love, and great sex. Until then, I'm doing a pretty decent job of supporting myself. Also, marriage is overrated...if being married were my goal, I might have to re-think my approach to life in general.
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Oh wait... I did marry for love the first time. That didn't go well... Damn it!! That's what I did wrong!!!0
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See I am with the OP saying don't marry a teacher... Right up until he said due to their income.
*shakes head*
Nope don't marry a teacher because... They're a teacher.
I would not want to be married to me, or any of the teachers I have ever worked with. 0 -
Also, you men folk should marry ugly women. They're better cooks.
Why are women's feet smaller?
So they can stand closer to the sink and the stove.0 -
Damnit, I'm doing it wrong. Any sugar daddys out there that I can leave my loving husband for?
Love is over rated. Let me give you all of my money so you can have sex with the pool boy.
if I'm gonna need the pool boy to take care of my needs... then I'm out!
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There's some truth to what OP is sa.............
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Damnit, I'm doing it wrong. Any sugar daddys out there that I can leave my loving husband for?
Love is over rated. Let me give you all of my money so you can have sex with the pool boy.
Wait... we're going to have a pool AND a pool boy? OK. I'm in.
Does it have to be a pool BOY? I'm a strong swimmer. And I know how to put those chlorine tablet thingies in a basket.0 -
As bad as it sounds OP might be right based on what people actually do. Although in my own case, I think my wife married me for love initially but she's divorcing me for money.0
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Well I married my husband for love and I make the money, so...0
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I know of great guys out there -- journalists, teachers, non-profit dudes -- who will probably make great dads. But I personally wouldn't wouldn't advise women pair up with them because, realistically, his salaries just wouldn't be enough to cut it for what they want out of life. But, but, but, "Bank accounts shouldn't matter at all!" And while I agree with that in theory, sorry, a man who can provide for a woman and their children is just much more attractive.
Right, women?
There are plenty of journalists, teachers, non-profit dudes - that are financially secure. The person that runs the non-profit farmer's market in my city makes $150K per year. The person that runs the NYC Marathon makes upwards of $500K. Just two examples of many.0 -
Right.. I've had it "ALL" and had "Nothing".... the Nothing was a great growing experience....0
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Damnit, I'm doing it wrong. Any sugar daddys out there that I can leave my loving husband for?
Love is over rated. Let me give you all of my money so you can have sex with the pool boy.
Wait... we're going to have a pool AND a pool boy? OK. I'm in.
Does it have to be a pool BOY? I'm a strong swimmer. And I know how to put those chlorine tablet thingies in a basket.
You're hired.0 -
Why can't a woman find both? Are these things necessarily mutually exclusive? Are wealthy men inherently unlovable, while less well-off men are the ultimate in lovey-dovey perfection?
I've known poor and rich *kitten*.....of course, they will tell you I am a self-centered witch with toooo high of expectations...0 -
I have mixed feelings.
On one hand- I fought hard for where I am. and I can survive on my own- and I make it quit clear that I can.
But. I realize owning a house- and moving forward- can be tricky on one income. two incomes makes life much easier. And I also (having been there) realize *kitten* happens- you lose your job- or you aren't making enough b/c of down grades/weather whatever.
I refused to move forward with my BF until he was making solid reliable livable money- I pulled the plug at some point and said- i'm not doing it- get your chit together.
3 months separated we got back on the same page- he realized he needed to do more- and I needed to be more understanding.
But i would never marry someone with an unlivable income. I'm not all about the money- but I'm not being someone's sugar momma either- I have expensive *kitten* tastes- I can't afford to pay for his stuff and mine- we both have motorcycles- and I have an expensive hobby.
so yeah- money/work ethic/internal drive to be successful is a factor. It's not the be all end all- but it's something I consider.0 -
When I met my wife ( 18 years ago I was in line to move up the ladder to near $500.00/day... "IF we're getting married" she said.. "Your not doing that anymore for a living (detonating explosives at the time).. SO I quit... and found a job making $12/hour... talk about financial shock... I went from shopping for Armani and Valentino to thrift store finds in one fell swoop.... BUT You do what you need to.. and look for opportunities... now she does what she loves... and I just broke past that $100K mark...
I married for love... and she obviously wasn't into me for the money otherwise she would have been happy with my blowing *kitten* up and myself at some point I am sure.. and I am still worth more dead than alive 0 -
Damnit, I'm doing it wrong. Any sugar daddys out there that I can leave my loving husband for?
Love is over rated. Let me give you all of my money so you can have sex with the pool boy.
Wait... we're going to have a pool AND a pool boy? OK. I'm in.
Does it have to be a pool BOY? I'm a strong swimmer. And I know how to put those chlorine tablet thingies in a basket.
Pffffttt..... Screw the pool boy, I'm sold! You're in.
Wait... don't screw the pool boy? Yeah, I think that's what I just decided.0 -
When I met my wife ( 18 years ago I was in line to move up the ladder to near $500.00/day... "IF we're getting married" she said.. "Your not doing that anymore for a living (detonating explosives at the time).. SO I quit... and found a job making $12/hour... talk about financial shock... I went from shopping for Armani and Valentino to thrift store finds in one fell swoop.... BUT You do what you need to.. and look for opportunities... now she does what she loves... and I just broke past that $100K mark...
I married for love... and she obviously wasn't into me for the money otherwise she would have been happy with my blowing *kitten* up and myself at some point I am sure.. and I am still worth more dead than alive
That's nice that it worked for you, but any woman that told me I couldn't do a job i liked doing, probably wouldn't be with me much longer.0 -
I got your pool boy right here...Damnit, I'm doing it wrong. Any sugar daddys out there that I can leave my loving husband for?
Love is over rated. Let me give you all of my money so you can have sex with the pool boy.
Wait... we're going to have a pool AND a pool boy? OK. I'm in.
Does it have to be a pool BOY? I'm a strong swimmer. And I know how to put those chlorine tablet thingies in a basket.
Pffffttt..... Screw the pool boy, I'm sold! You're in.
Wait... don't screw the pool boy? Yeah, I think that's what I just decided.
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I married for love and future income potential.0
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I married a social worker...so definitely NOT for money...However, he has since gone on to get another degree and move into a higher income bracket. I also make a good salary, that I didn't make when we met and married. SO win/win I guess..LOL0
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They need emotional detachment so they can make use of your money when you "die".Why can't a woman find both? Are these things necessarily mutually exclusive? Are wealthy men inherently unlovable, while less well-off men are the ultimate in lovey-dovey perfection?0 -
Damnit, I'm doing it wrong. Any sugar daddys out there that I can leave my loving husband for?
Love is over rated. Let me give you all of my money so you can have sex with the pool boy.
We have a pool?!
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When I met my wife ( 18 years ago I was in line to move up the ladder to near $500.00/day... "IF we're getting married" she said.. "Your not doing that anymore for a living (detonating explosives at the time).. SO I quit... and found a job making $12/hour... talk about financial shock... I went from shopping for Armani and Valentino to thrift store finds in one fell swoop.... BUT You do what you need to.. and look for opportunities... now she does what she loves... and I just broke past that $100K mark...
I married for love... and she obviously wasn't into me for the money otherwise she would have been happy with my blowing *kitten* up and myself at some point I am sure.. and I am still worth more dead than alive
That's nice that it worked for you, but any woman that told me I couldn't do a job i liked doing, probably wouldn't be with me much longer.
I agree, but it depends a lot on phrasing.
"I love you, but I can't marry you if I'm going to have to worry about you coming home from work each day" is a fair statement.
"You aren't allowed to ride your motorcycle" is a whole 'nother ballgame.0 -
I know of great guys out there -- journalists, teachers, non-profit dudes -- who will probably make great dads. But I personally wouldn't wouldn't advise women pair up with them because, realistically, his salaries just wouldn't be enough to cut it for what they want out of life. But, but, but, "Bank accounts shouldn't matter at all!" And while I agree with that in theory, sorry, a man who can provide for a woman and their children is just much more attractive.
Right, women?
Right
http://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138(14)00003-8/abstract
Abstract
Sex differences in the framing effect within the mating domain (and the underlying negativity bias) were investigated. In three separate studies, men and women evaluated eight prospective mates, each of which was described using either positively or negatively framed attribute information. The key difference between the three studies was the temporal context of the relationship for which the mates were considered (long-term versus short-term) and the quality of mates that were presented to the participants (high quality versus low quality). Overall, women exhibited larger framing effects than men (and in three of the four experimental conditions), and this sex difference was driven by women's greater sensitivity to negatively framed information. This robust sex effect is a manifestation of the greater vigilance that women show within the mating domain (consistent with parental investment theory). At the attribute level, women displayed stronger framing effects than men in 10 of the 11 cases where significant results were found, and these were on attributes that accord with evolutionary principles (e.g., women exhibited larger framing effects for Earning Potential and Ambition while men yielded a larger effect in only one instance for Attractive Face). Finally, the sex differences in framing effects became stronger when evaluating short-term mates as compared to long term ones (in accord with the general guiding principles of Sexual Strategies Theory). The current paper situates the framing effect within an adaptationist framework and proposes, that in many instances, the pattern with which individuals succumb to it is an instantiation of ecological rationality.0 -
When I met my wife ( 18 years ago I was in line to move up the ladder to near $500.00/day... "IF we're getting married" she said.. "Your not doing that anymore for a living (detonating explosives at the time).. SO I quit... and found a job making $12/hour... talk about financial shock... I went from shopping for Armani and Valentino to thrift store finds in one fell swoop.... BUT You do what you need to.. and look for opportunities... now she does what she loves... and I just broke past that $100K mark...
I married for love... and she obviously wasn't into me for the money otherwise she would have been happy with my blowing *kitten* up and myself at some point I am sure.. and I am still worth more dead than alive
That's nice that it worked for you, but any woman that told me I couldn't do a job i liked doing, probably wouldn't be with me much longer.
I agree, but it depends a lot on phrasing.
"I love you, but I can't marry you if I'm going to have to worry about you coming home from work each day" is a fair statement.
"You aren't allowed to ride your motorcycle" is a whole 'nother ballgame.
no motorcycle.... no relationship.
So glad my man rides. we'd be over if he said I couldn't.
Same with dance.
My Bike- my horse- my dance- they are my first loves- I have had them by my side longer than I have known you- so you go before they go.0 -
I don't care how much money he makes, as long as he works hard. If he works hard for $25,000/yr or $75,000/yr it's all the same to me.
I want biceps and a good libido.0 -
so to summarize, pool boy and drinks?
I'm IN0 -
Holy crap. I went to sleep and woke up in 1960!I know of great guys out there -- journalists, teachers, non-profit dudes -- who will probably make great dads. But I personally wouldn't wouldn't advise women pair up with them because, realistically, his salaries just wouldn't be enough to cut it for what they want out of life. But, but, but, "Bank accounts shouldn't matter at all!" And while I agree with that in theory, sorry, a man who can provide for a woman and their children is just much more attractive.
Right, women?0
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