Marry for Money not Love

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  • kimberlyblindsey
    kimberlyblindsey Posts: 266 Member
    Mr. Darcy soon drew the attention of the room by his fine, tall person, handsome features, noble mien, and the report which was in general circulation within five minutes after his entrance, of his having ten thousand a year. The gentlemen pronounced him to be a fine figure of a man, the ladies declared he was much handsomer than Mr. Bingley, and he was looked at with great admiration for about half the evening, till his manners gave a disgust which turned the tide of his popularity; for he was discovered to be proud; to be above his company, and above being pleased; and not all his large estate in Derbyshire could then save him from having a most forbidding, disagreeable countenance, and being unworthy to be compared with his friend.
    ^Austin, Mr. Darcy. . . . swoon, I'm in.
  • kinkyslinky16
    kinkyslinky16 Posts: 1,469 Member
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    and....... yes, yes I do. Sugar daddies, please apply via PM. :love:
  • Lofteren
    Lofteren Posts: 960 Member
    My stepmother married my father for money. He was good looking for his age and very wealthy and she was 21 years old, had huge fake boobs and only spoke Russian... match made in heaven huh?

    I have absolutely no respect for any person who marries for money, period. How shallow and selfish can you possibly be?

    I understand that you don't want to marry a slouch or a loser but you should want to marry someone who is more successful because it says something about the quality of their character, not the size of their checkbook.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    I married for love and future income potential.

    My wife used to say this. I'm kind of a let down.
  • elv1ra
    elv1ra Posts: 146 Member
    Sure, why not? dating for love hasn't gotten me anywhere.
  • Veil5577
    Veil5577 Posts: 868 Member
    I left a financially secure marriage because neither of us were happy and am now struggling financially on my own. Do I regret it? Not one bit. I have my freedom and independence now and that's worth the struggle to me.
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
    Wait, are we drinking? It's not noon yet here. Can I go ahead and have a beer? Or would that be wrong? *rubs hands together nervously and twitches*

    It's 5 o'clock some where.. Bottoms up :)
  • Saucy_lil_Minx
    Saucy_lil_Minx Posts: 3,302 Member
    Wait, are we drinking? It's not noon yet here. Can I go ahead and have a beer? Or would that be wrong? *rubs hands together nervously and twitches*

    It's 5 o'clock some where.. Bottoms up :)


    I'm in for the drinking! Never getting married again at this point for any reason! Maybe I'll change my mind when the right one comes along. Since I just got rid of the wrong one I'll stay happily single!:drinker: :drinker:
  • LassoOfTruth
    LassoOfTruth Posts: 735 Member
    No, not true. I prefer a broke fool over a rich *kitten* any day.
  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
    With that being said...

    I was raised middle-class.

    I did date a guy once that's family was effected by generational poverty.

    They thought I was a snob because I cooked with olive oil.

    I don't care how much they make per hour, but we are going to have to be used to the same lifestyle.

    I use electricity, plumbing, multiple cooking oils, bank accounts, etc etc etc

    If you think that makes me a snob, well, find yourself a nice girl elsewhere.

    My boyfriend right now was raised with a lot of money, although he only makes $10/hr or something like that.

    The cost of living is very inexpensive in Oklahoma.

    We both maintain just fine and take vacations, buy random hobby stuff, drink expensive beer, we're going boating this weekend, visit amusement parks, museums, mall shopping... etc etc etc

    on what most of the country would consider to be poverty but it's not here.
  • 1shauna1
    1shauna1 Posts: 993 Member
    I can provide for myself. I just want a man who can provide for himself!
  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
    They also had a major issue with my cheese platter I brought to dinner.

    Such a snob... with her cheese.
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  • laynerich15
    laynerich15 Posts: 1,918 Member
    Girls Take note of this.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    makes sense. love is overrated.
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    I know of great guys out there -- journalists, teachers, non-profit dudes -- who will probably make great dads. But I personally wouldn't wouldn't advise women pair up with them because, realistically, his salaries just wouldn't be enough to cut it for what they want out of life. But, but, but, "Bank accounts shouldn't matter at all!" And while I agree with that in theory, sorry, a man who can provide for a woman and their children is just much more attractive.

    Right, women?

    Right

    http://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138(14)00003-8/abstract

    Abstract

    Sex differences in the framing effect within the mating domain (and the underlying negativity bias) were investigated. In three separate studies, men and women evaluated eight prospective mates, each of which was described using either positively or negatively framed attribute information. The key difference between the three studies was the temporal context of the relationship for which the mates were considered (long-term versus short-term) and the quality of mates that were presented to the participants (high quality versus low quality). Overall, women exhibited larger framing effects than men (and in three of the four experimental conditions), and this sex difference was driven by women's greater sensitivity to negatively framed information. This robust sex effect is a manifestation of the greater vigilance that women show within the mating domain (consistent with parental investment theory). At the attribute level, women displayed stronger framing effects than men in 10 of the 11 cases where significant results were found, and these were on attributes that accord with evolutionary principles (e.g., women exhibited larger framing effects for Earning Potential and Ambition while men yielded a larger effect in only one instance for Attractive Face). Finally, the sex differences in framing effects became stronger when evaluating short-term mates as compared to long term ones (in accord with the general guiding principles of Sexual Strategies Theory). The current paper situates the framing effect within an adaptationist framework and proposes, that in many instances, the pattern with which individuals succumb to it is an instantiation of ecological rationality.

    What about all of the cases where significant results were not found?
  • SemperAnticus1643
    SemperAnticus1643 Posts: 703 Member
    I'm not one to marry for money at all. I have dated men that made/had good money though:

    1. Trust Fund Baby. Very nice, funny and treated me well. Didn't work out cause his mother wouldn't get out of our relationship.

    2. Oilfield Worker. Very attractive, very nice, treated me well outside of the fact that he slept with his ex wife while we were together. That's an immediate break-up in my book.

    3. Banker/Finance. Very attractive, treated me well, engaged. Didn't work out cause we were young and he wasn't ready for marriage.

    The man I married was working part time at minimum wage when we got married. His pay went up the longer we stayed together and he was making decent money up until the point of our separation. Our pending divorce does not come down to money. It was other aspects of the relationship that were lacking.

    Point: My Dad taught me a long time ago that I shouldn't be with someone for their money. I was a smart woman. I live in an age where I can go to college and make a decent living by myself. I don't need a man to "take care" of me. My aunt once told my Dad that her daughter better marry a rich man to provide for her taste in clothes and lifestyle. My dad's response was that his daughter would have her own money. When I got married, I made sure that if anything were to go wrong, I would be able to maintain the lifestyle that I had. Sounds pessimistic to think of my marriage that way but that's how my mind works. I have to take care of myself and my children. I have told the guy that I'm dating that I will not "need him" but I will "want him" if things were to get serious. For me, there is a big difference. So IF I ever marry again, it will be for love and not money.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    There is some merit in this. I love my husband dearly, but if he'd been an aspiring actor or musician when he proposed, I would have re-thought my "yes". At the very least I would have asked him to reshift his focus to a career so he could support the family we both wanted.

    That said, money certainly comes second to love. There was a guy a few years before my husband proposed, who begged me to run away with him, he promised me I'd want for nothing, and he'd always take care of me. He had a good promising career, and he made good money. I was quickly becoming bored with his antics though, and rejected his proposal of being his "kept woman". Now I'm married to my husband, and while we don't make much money, it's enough to get by plus put a little in savings. And I'm happier than I ever would have been with that moneyflinging man-twa--uh, I mean...guy.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    There is some merit in this. I love my husband dearly, but if he'd been an aspiring actor or musician when he proposed, I would have re-thought my "yes". At the very least I would have asked him to reshift his focus to a career so he could support the family we both wanted.

    I married a musician. I'm divorced now.

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