Negative Language About Thin People

It goes both ways. If you're overweight, you're disgusting. If you're thin or underweight, you're disgusting. Men seem to focus on making life hell for bigger women (other women do too) and women focus on making life hell for smaller ones.

Oh what the hell ever. Few men are out there making life hell for big chicks. You're ridiculous.

Sorry ladies, gotta agree here...*most* men are way more forgiving on female body types. Women are their own worst enemies because, for the most part, they fail to see their best qualities and focus only on their perceived flaws.

10/10 would bang.

Unfortunately, it's just tough out there for women. Like it or not, in general, a woman's value is often linked to her appearance. That's why there's as much backstabbing, crap-talking, jealousy, crabs in a barrel type stuff going on. A man's value isn't linked to their looks.

I hesitate to blame any side, men or women. Of course, we don't have to buy into it. But our society as a whole does. It doesn't make it right that women are so nasty to each other sometimes, but that's just the way it plays out. It's really sad and a really terrible cycle that women haven't been able to break out of, and until our culture as a whole changes, it will continue.

I will honestly say, and maybe it's because other women don't perceive me as a threat. But I have never outright had another woman say anything nasty to me about my size or my looks. Maybe i'm just not hot and thin enough.

^This... haha. I've been guilty of thin shaming other women at the gym, but it's entirely based on my own insecurities and self doubting. Now that I'm losing weight and feeling how hard it is... I've realized we're all in this together. I applaud anyone that took the bull by the horns to get healthier and even those people that have to make "little effort" to have a bangin' bod, fact is... they are still doing it. At the end of the day, we have one life to love and live... why be a black cloud to someone else b/c they are just being. Who cares if it's men or women being the guilty party - you can control yourself and how you react to others.

Would also bang Cox.

I think the only times it's OK to make a comment on someone's weight are:

- you're their loved one

Loved ones can be more ruthless than strangers. I'd rather not hear comments from anyone.

There will be people who use nasty language toward you no matter you body size. Some will lash out at thinner people. Some with lash out at larger people. Some will lash out at big chested women. Some will lash out at small chested women. blah blah blah...

You know what?

IT.DOESN'T.MATTER.

Those people's opinions simply do not matter. It's meaningless.

Why? Because they don't know anything about you other than what you look like, and their judgments reflect only upon themselves not you, so let it go. People who talk like that only do it to incite others to abate their own feelings of weakness for the time being. Don't give them the satisfaction. Just walk away and just be you.

Plus, you really don't want to be around people who behave so poorly anyway. They won't have much to offer you.

So true!

Would also bang Cox.

Totally. Angry sex. Yums.

It goes both ways. If you're overweight, you're disgusting. If you're thin or underweight, you're disgusting. Men seem to focus on making life hell for bigger women (other women do too) and women focus on making life hell for smaller ones.

Oh what the hell ever. Few men are out there making life hell for big chicks. You're ridiculous.

Sorry ladies, gotta agree here...*most* men are way more forgiving on female body types. Women are their own worst enemies because, for the most part, they fail to see their best qualities and focus only on their perceived flaws.

10/10 would bang.

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It's exhausting trying to put different sexes, races, and religions into a bubble with a perfect description of their behaviors. Even arguing "All pitbulls are vicious!" is exhausting.


Save the energy and worry about your own *kitten* instead...


Or... dance. Cause dancing makes everyone happy!!

I hate cats. Especially dancing cats.

YOU WOULD!

Wow, blanket statements made based on a twitter trend? You're neglecting that there's also a subculture of men who revere "BBWs". The men you're referring to are hateful people on principle. You can't base your opinion of the entire male population based on the behaviors of one specific group.

Um...you're aware of the term "BBC" too, right?

Being fetishized is soooooo flattering!

The term BBW is based on the singling out heavy female bodies in the same way that BBC singles out black male bodies. Despite the fact that people seek out those who fit those terms, they are both offensive in my opinion.

Yes. I am aware that many different types of bodies are fetishized. I used the term in quotes and never implied I endorsed its use.

I need to agree here. I don't want to get into the details. But, there are other body types (with websites and all) that get fetishized. Personally it doesn't offend me. I can see ways that it could go in a negative direction. But, that's true for all fetishes. It can be healthy or unhealthy. It just depends. Some people like fetishes, and some don't. If you don't like it, then just don't participate. But, some men have preferences and that's all it is (not a fetish).

Also the original quote was taken out of context. It was used as an example of a subculture and how all men do not necessarily feel that way. That is it.

Oh, yeah. I agree. Not all men are the same.

The man bashing is just annoying, if a woman feels "men make women's life hell" or "make a big woman's life hell" the generalization of all men is just ignorant. It is no different of a juvenile *kitten* stating "all women are crazy" or "all women are b¡tches". If anyone can make blanket statements regarding 1/2 of the human race, they are either ignorant or just have extremely poor judgment and surround themselves with *kitten*.


Body shaming happens to everyone.....my husband always got " you have always been so fit, must be nice not to work at it" (he works hard daily). He has gained 10lbs since a change in jobs, He is built and still a healthy weight but now these same people laugh and say "oh, look he's finely getting fat". It irritates him to no end, he is far from even unfit but these people seem to hope.

For myself I received negative comments when I was fit, but not when I gained. I once worked in an office with 5 other women, each one weighed at least 100lbs more than I did. Daily my food was commented on....if I ate a salad or a meatball sub, they commented. I was told constantly how lucky I was not to get tired, and since I was tiny I could just do tasks and that they needed a break. They have even dropped things to the ground and stated " I can't bend over to get that, you can since its easier for you...like everything else". When my reports showed my numbers were higher and I had accomplished more work, the DM took notice....the other women then stated they thought it was discrimination and he had only noticed my work because I was small. My boss in the office actually filed a complaint that I was being considered for a promotion that she wanted because the DM was discriminating against her for her weight. She never felt that since she pawned her work load onto me, he noticed my signature on the office financials. I actually left that job because the office was constantly hostile, I even got rude comments when my husband brought me things up to work....."must be nice to have everything handed to you" or " he's only nice because she isn't fat" and my favorite "he'll drop her if she ever gains any weight"........ No I just chose a great man and I did gain and he is still here and happy....going on 18yrs.

Everyone has been guilty of making judgments, but voicing them is just immature. The women in the office were jealous, when I spoke up they felt I should have felt complimented. I didn't it made my job hell.

Also just as a note, the comments about my husbands weight....they all come from other men. So humans at times do not know when to keep their mouths shut.