Still feel and look ugly, eve EFTER loosing weight.

I can guarantee you wouldn't! And if you did, it'd just to be kind.

Well, I won't argue with you, but I don't much like being called a liar.

Good luck, though.

2008 - 112+ Kgs

2012 - 112Kgs

end of 2013 - about 80Kgs


2014 - 75Kgs currently 74.5


There does that make you slightly less self conscious if i can do it. I hate pictures of myself but it's good therapy to just get them out there and now have someone on the other side of the country that i bond with after 31yrs if being solo

We all have defects. You might have a big head. I have ears that provide enough lift that I have to register with the FAA for windy days. Bothered me when I was younger, now that I'm a bit older I rock it. Imperfections don't define us, my friend.

We all have defects. You might have a big head. I have ears that provide enough lift that I have to register with the FAA for windy days. Bothered me when I was younger, now that I'm a bit older I rock it. Imperfections don't define us, my friend.

What a a great point. On both feet, I have a space in between my big toe and my next toe, so it looks like a toe should be there. Wonder how that happened! Some would see this as flaws in both feet, and I used to, but as an adult I think it's cool!

I looked at your photos as an artist who paints portraits and I am here to tell you that you aren't ugly. Who is telling you you look ugly? If it is someone else, shove them out of your life. If it is you, talk to someone about it and start an active program of positive thinking. Maybe exercise will get you some feeling better endorphins. Stand up straight, look people in the eye and smile. You have taken on a big challenge and beat it.

This may not help, but believe me you are going to rock your high school reunion! You are working on yourself which is such an accomplishment. I look back at my high school pictures (when I thought i was fat--at least larger than all of the other girls). Guess what? I was thin and athletic. My rear end was NOT huge as I so vividly thought EVERY DAY. I did not win any beauty pageants but I am intelligent, decent looking (attractive seems to be a popular adjective) and fun to be around.

Here is my two cents: buy one new outfit and practice smiling. i did not appreciate my 40+ weight loss until I bought some new clothes. If you can't afford to buy them, at least go try them on. You will see the difference. Keep at it and soon it will become a habit.

Anti-depressants helped me. If you had cancer, would you take medication? If you have a mental illness (like depression) there is medication available and it is ok to take it.

I haven't read all of the replies, but the ones I did were pretty much along the lines of what I wanted to say:

Being a teenager sucks for 99.9% of people..... and for that other 0.1%, their entire life goes downhill after high school. You have worked incredibly hard and achieved what is so hard for so many of us. Be so proud of yourself!

You do look great - but it isn't really about other people telling you that.
If you have clinical depression, you really should find a therapist you like and stick with that. There's no judgment in it, and if you get on top of that now and arm yourself with the tools to deal with depression now, you will be so far ahead. You've got an entire awesome life ahead of you.

I wish I could show my high school self my life now. Not in terms of weight, but just in terms of how independent and strong I ended up.... all of the badass things I've done and am still doing. I swear every year has gotten better. Yours will too if you get out of your own way.

Hi! I think you look incredible, you should be proud of your hard work. I have the same feelings about my appearance sometimes. I am learning that changing my body is not the only work I must do to be healthy. I must also change my mind and accept my imperfections as part of my beauty. Good luck on your journey!

I looked at your pic and my first reaction was shock, because I thought you looked quite handsome. My 19 year old self would have been very attracted to you (awesome hair btw!)

Self confidence is very attractive to women.

My heart breaks for you because I know how you feel, I felt the same way you did. My friends would get hit on, but I didn't. I assumed it was because my cheeks were to chubby, my hair wasn't perfect, my chin was too small etc. Yet, I would see totally hot guys date women who were often mean, overweight, didn't dress nice, wear make up etc. I just thought that meant that I must have been that horrendous. When my parents would get mad at me growing up, they would tell me how stupid and ugly I was. I knew they were wrong, but those words would fill my head whenever there was a male nearby.

Then, like others have suggested, I did get help. I worked through those self esteem issues, I built up that self confidence. Can you guess what happened after I worked on my confidence? I started to get asked out on dates and have boyfriends. So please, don't wait as long as I did. Work on how your self image, not only so you can get a girlfriend, but also so you don't hold back in all other areas of life. Best of luck to you.

You look perfectly normal to me. Smile! It makes a huge difference. I know what it's like to have low self esteem though, my parents were raised Old Order Mennonite, and they were taught that complimenting someone on their looks was pride, and pride was sinful. I can't remember anyone telling me I was pretty until I was 14, and that was a complete stranger. Before that I always thought I was ugly. That one compliment made all the difference in the world to me. Eventually I would stand in front of the mirror, and find one feature about myself that I liked. I would focus on that. The better I thought about myself, the more compliments I got. I had it all along, the confidence just released it. In a way I feel sorry for people who spend their time making fun of others looks, the ones I have met had serious self esteem issues themselves, and they did it to try to make themselves feel better. That doesn't make it hurt any less though.

I understand how you can feel this way but honestly you are NOT ugly. First and foremost you need to get over your self image problem. If you really want to improve how you look though I would suggest trying to put on some muscle. If you did that you would probably look great XD

But once again you are not ugly and you shouldn't be ashamed of how you look. There is a difference between seeing room for improvement and finding fault regardless.

bump for the quotes.

ANTS automatic negative thinking often will become what we believe. You need to know that just because you think it doesn't mean its true. Take the negative thoughts and really talk them out, you will find that when you really examine them, they are lies. We can all be good at lying to ourselves sometimes. Replace those ANTS with more realistic and helpful thoughts. Be kind to yourself. God's creations are all unique and beautiful.

we are our own worst critic. congrats on your achievement.