How can someone get to 538lbs?

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  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I think you have a TON of strength and admire you!
  • ponycyndi
    ponycyndi Posts: 858 Member
    My brother-in-law was 30 and over 500 lbs when he met and married my sister, the love of his life. It's never, ever too late to start living in the now.

    I was 32 before I made the changes in my life that got me to the best shape of my life. Two years later, I realized how young I am.
  • weblur
    weblur Posts: 140 Member
    I can't believe I didn't see this thread before today.

    Thank you for sharing your story. I admire you for sharing it, for your honesty, and for your inspirational weight loss.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
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  • ttcbelieve
    ttcbelieve Posts: 181 Member

    I am still mad at myself because I wasted my twenties and most of my thirties and I sometime feel like I don’t have much time left to start a real life,

    Thanks

    Now...Just wait a min. Did no one tell you 40 is the new 20. You did not waste your 20 and 30. Technically you are just 17...this means you are just about to go into your 20 and have fun.

    Seriously...from an oldie....40 is a great age to be and have fun, with all your experience, and the weight goal which I am sure you will reach...you will have a blast for the rest of your life.

    Good luck and keep it up
  • El_Cunado
    El_Cunado Posts: 359 Member
    Wow! Thanks for sharing your story. You're pretty awesome and remember, it's never too late. Good luck and stay strong!:drinker:
  • Annabear3
    Annabear3 Posts: 92 Member
    Thank you for sharing your story. Today has been a hard day for me emotionally but reading this story, your story, has pushed me back up. Thank you so much. You should feel proud that you are moving forward. It doesn't matter when you start just that you do.
  • Fsunami
    Fsunami Posts: 241 Member
    Dude:

    You are the epitome of what this whole community was built for.

    That post was an act of selflessness because you put it all on the table for the entire community to see, and to learn from.

    That says a lot about your inner strength and integrity.

    Thank you for your impact on the lives of others.

    Keep doing what you are doing.....

    Fsunami
  • NerdyTXChick
    NerdyTXChick Posts: 155 Member
    Wow! What an beautiful story! Thank you so much for sharing it. You are an amazing person, I hope you know that.
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    Your story has inspired me so much. I too used food to comfort me when I felt alone. You are amazing!! A true champion!! Thank you.
  • pghsteelerfan
    pghsteelerfan Posts: 132 Member
    Well written post....putting down your feelings and thoughts helps others. Lot of it was relateable ( if thats a word )....Food becomes our "comfort" for numerous reasons..and b4 you know it the scale can tip in astronomical numbers....sometimes i wonder how much my body can take...quite a bit at times....but reading your post...so much felt like it was my own story...

    Thank you for exposing your soul to us.....:heart:
  • shanaleereimer
    shanaleereimer Posts: 7 Member
    Well Done!!!! You are an inspiration!
  • kelseyann92
    kelseyann92 Posts: 171 Member
    WOW you are a true inspiration! such an amazing story:happy:
  • IsaacHudson
    IsaacHudson Posts: 33 Member
    Brilliant story, thank you for sharing. Best of luck with your journey.
  • searching4spock
    searching4spock Posts: 3 Member
    Amazing on so many levels. I am so very sorry for the loss of your niece. I cannot imagine how traumatic that must have been for everyone.
    If you have never heard of Shades of Hope treatment center, they deal with the emotional issues behind the eating. I promise I don't work for them, but I did go there for one of their week long programs a few years ago when I felt my eating was getting out of hand and it was great.
    I still struggle but am getting back on track once again. Wishing you continued success!
  • back2twentyfive
    back2twentyfive Posts: 36 Member
    Thank you so much for sharing your story. You answered a question I have had for many, many years, about a cousin who was over 500 lbs. For many years, I assumed that hormone problems caused his weight gain and his inability to lose weight. When I asked family members, I was told no, it was because he ate too much. But I wondered, how that could be. He was a brilliant, kind-hearted, loving person, married to a very loving woman who respected him tremendously. But the family would only say things about how he would wear out the car seats every 2 months, and one family member was very mean and would say over and over again that he couldn't understand what his wife saw in him. What an awful person to say that. Your explanation of how emotional issues caused your weight gain makes sense in regard to my cousin. Thank you for enlightening me. Your honesty is awesome. It is so helpful to understand what my cousin may have been going through. Unfortunately, he passed away suddenly due to an infection that he refused to go to the hospital for until it could not be treated adequately.

    You have your whole life ahead of you!!! We all have regrets, but you are a shining example of taking your problems into your own hands! I am so in awe of your decision to turn your life around. You are awesome! And inspiring to me in my own weight loss journey. I hope that as many people as possible read your story so that they can understand.

    Thank you for your honesty -- it is a rare gift to be authentic.
  • starrylioness
    starrylioness Posts: 543 Member
    Thank you for sharing your story. You have such strength and courage.
  • softblondechick
    softblondechick Posts: 1,275 Member
    You are very brave to share.

    One thing we beat ourselves up with, is the existential failure, " I should have lost weight, 10, 20, 30 years ago...", and the realization of the impact the weight made on our lives. It is emotional baggage.

    I am glad you are doing better. Continue the journey. You are not alone. No judging here.
  • RaspberryKeytoneBoondoggle
    RaspberryKeytoneBoondoggle Posts: 1,349 Member
    You helped me understand. Thank you, it is complicated and different for every person. The only thing I want to say that might be contrary to your OP is that you are young! If you've wasted time it's just a blip in your life. You have many years ahead of you and congrats on getting your degree in the midst if it all!
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
    Read the initial post with tears streaming down my face by the end. I know what it's like to feel hopeless. Wanted to post to thank you for posting and also to have this for safe keeping. Your life is far from over and it has so much potential to become wonderful from here forward.
    :heart:
  • Ftw37
    Ftw37 Posts: 386 Member
    Geez, I totally relate, dude.
  • persistentsoul
    persistentsoul Posts: 268 Member
    Looking good, can see the sparkle has come back where you have decided to fight for better life. I relate to your story as I am sure many do. Life grinds so many people down to the point it feels there is no fight left and no chance to be happy. It takes a lot to be in that place and sometimes be there repeatedly but still find a tiny spark of hope and choose to build on it. It shows how much more powerful we are then we realise. Well done :)
  • muffinsmimi
    muffinsmimi Posts: 1
    I am so impressed by your resilience and not giving up. Losing your lovable, fun 6 yr. old niece when she was so young had to have been so very painful. You have plenty of great memories of her I'm sure...hold on to those. Congratulations on
    getting back up and moving forward...one foot in front of the other.

    I am my heaviest ever....215 lbs and CANNOT seem to lose even a pound no matter how hard I try. I need to get my butt moving in addition to eating healthy. Hopefully this will help. God bless you!!!
  • MichelleV1990
    MichelleV1990 Posts: 806 Member
    This is the most poignant, straight from the heart, autobiographies I have ever read! The first thing that struck a real chord with me was the lack of love you received growing up. There's so much dysfunction in the world, but I believe the lack of nurturing ones own child has got to be the worst. All children need hugs, kisses, and to feel wanted. The fact that you never experienced this makes me want to cry. The love and support of a solid family is what makes or breaks us. For you to have come this far in life and retain your sanity is a success story, in and of itself!

    Words can't begin to describe how terribly sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful, precious niece. I'm thankful that you were able to experience the pure love she had to give! That is what life is all about!

    Your inner strength is amazing! I probably would have crumbled beyond the point of no return had I been in your shoes. To see you rise up and triumph over your circumstances is inspirational! I have no doubt that you will reach your goals; and I pray that you find the love, support, and security that you so richly deserve. :flowerforyou:
  • lukewind
    lukewind Posts: 177 Member
    This is the most poignant, straight from the heart, autobiographies I have ever read! The first thing that struck a real chord with me was the lack of love you received growing up. There's so much dysfunction in the world, but I believe the lack of nurturing ones own child has got to be the worst. All children need hugs, kisses, and to feel wanted. The fact that you never experienced this makes me want to cry. The love and support of a solid family is what makes or breaks us. For you to have come this far in life and retain your sanity is a success story, in and of itself!

    Words can't begin to describe how terribly sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful, precious niece. I'm thankful that you were able to experience the pure love she had to give! That is what life is all about!

    Your inner strength is amazing! I probably would have crumbled beyond the point of no return had I been in your shoes. To see you rise up and triumph over your circumstances is inspirational! I have no doubt that you will reach your goals; and I pray that you find the love, support, and security that you so richly deserve. :flowerforyou:

    Thanks much for the kind words. I appreciate it very much.
  • Great_Mazinga
    Great_Mazinga Posts: 214 Member
    Your story sounds so much like my own. I got to 397 before I got serious about doing something. I'm not as tall as you, but always had a linebacker's build. Like you, I believed it didn't really show so much on me, as I was so naturally big. Well, that was probably true up to about 260, no one ever thought I was that heavy. Somehow, I gave up or got comfortable on my way to near 400.

    Our families sound nearly identical. Parents never wanted kids, and treated me as such all too often. We never talked about feelings, expressed love, etc. Even had my dad's dad push me away when I tried to hug him as a child. I am so sorry for the loss of your neice. I have one neice who is very loving, but the attention is spread so thin among in-laws I don't get to bathe in it the way you did. Despite your short time together, you were very blessed to have her in your life. I'd keep a favorite picture of her or her and you together where you can see it daily. Take time to remember that love every day. I was lucky as a child to have one Grandmother who loved me like that. I didn't really realize it, feel I deserved it, or honestly appreciate it until she was gone. I always aspire to be who my grandma thought I was.

    Anyhow, I'm tearing up writing this. I'm happy for your change of heart and health. Love to add you to my friends and watch us get there together.
  • MichelleV1990
    MichelleV1990 Posts: 806 Member
    Funny everyone on here saying anything to me has 4k, 5k, 6k, 9k posts. I wonder why?

    I am not sure why you feel the need to try and tear people down, usually that is the sign of a person with severe emotional problems.

    People lash out because of their doubts about themselves. Hell I know because I have done it myself. If you read my story instead of skimming you would know that even though at one point I might have blamed others for some of my issues I do not do that anymore and I take full responsibility for how big I got. I don't want sympathy or anything like it because it doesn't really help. Kind words are always nice and I appreciate everyone who had some kinds words to say. My post was about a question that I get quite often when people find out how much I weighed and its a question a lot of people get and so many just can't comprehend. All I wanted to do was address that question with some honesty. You cry excuses, but people do certain things for certain reasons. I was simply explaining the reason why I ate so much. I fully admit that I was wrong but that doesn't change how I felt at the time.

    I assume you are attention seeking and I appreciate that you at least wished me well but saying it like that is quite passive aggressive and very childish. I wish you luck with your health goals.

    First, let me apologize for quoting your entire post...I don't know how to quote bits and pieces. Second, I forgot to congratulate you on your fantastic weight loss, so here's a toast to you! :drinker: Third, let me say, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone. You put your heart and soul out there in the hopes of enlightening and encouraging people. There will always be people who have difficulty with manners. Maybe if they would have had good examples growing up, they wouldn't be so snarky! And lastly, it is us who should be thanking you for your selflessness and candor! Enjoy your journey to wellness, and best of luck in all you do!
  • lukewind
    lukewind Posts: 177 Member
    Funny everyone on here saying anything to me has 4k, 5k, 6k, 9k posts. I wonder why?

    I am not sure why you feel the need to try and tear people down, usually that is the sign of a person with severe emotional problems.

    People lash out because of their doubts about themselves. Hell I know because I have done it myself. If you read my story instead of skimming you would know that even though at one point I might have blamed others for some of my issues I do not do that anymore and I take full responsibility for how big I got. I don't want sympathy or anything like it because it doesn't really help. Kind words are always nice and I appreciate everyone who had some kinds words to say. My post was about a question that I get quite often when people find out how much I weighed and its a question a lot of people get and so many just can't comprehend. All I wanted to do was address that question with some honesty. You cry excuses, but people do certain things for certain reasons. I was simply explaining the reason why I ate so much. I fully admit that I was wrong but that doesn't change how I felt at the time.

    I assume you are attention seeking and I appreciate that you at least wished me well but saying it like that is quite passive aggressive and very childish. I wish you luck with your health goals.

    First, let me apologize for quoting your entire post...I don't know how to quote bits and pieces. Second, I forgot to congratulate you on your fantastic weight loss, so here's a toast to you! :drinker: Third, let me say, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone. You put your heart and soul out there in the hopes of enlightening and encouraging people. There will always be people who have difficulty with manners. Maybe if they would have had good examples growing up, they wouldn't be so snarky! And lastly, it is us who should be thanking you for your selflessness and candor! Enjoy your journey to wellness, and best of luck in all you do!

    No worries, I knew when I wrote it that at least one person would have issue with it and not really read it. Thanks for all the nice words.
  • randi475
    randi475 Posts: 10 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss.
    I'm 28, and while I had a good cry and looked regretfully at the past years of my life I've decided I wasted nothing. I gained life experience. And really, for me, I absolutely loved all the food I was eating to get me here (My highest was 500lbs 3 years ago) and while I wish I knew how to portion and control myself sooner, I won't beat myself up. I'm just going to look forward, and I hope you just look forward, too.
  • martinel2099
    martinel2099 Posts: 899 Member
    Congrats on the amazing weight loss and thank you for sharing your story. I'm also very sorry for your loss, it's not easy losing someone you love more than yourself.
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