rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

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  • Gingerspice45
    Gingerspice45 Posts: 137 Member
    Since I've been an adult, I've noticed I get more negative comments when I'm going through a period of weight loss. Once I have made some progress that people notice I get asked if I'm sick and usually get told I'm losing too much weight when I'm morbidly obese. most of these people that say these things never knew me when I was skinny during my childhood and early 20s. I don't ever get these type of comments from people I knew when I was skinny. It doesn't make sense to me.
  • that_tall_girl
    that_tall_girl Posts: 95 Member
    Mentioned this in another thread. I was 16 years old, 6'1", and probably about 250-ish at that time. I was at a Chinese restaurant with my family and we were waiting to be seated when I overheard a guy remark to his wife, "Damn, she could play for the Seahawks!"
  • MelpomeneTears
    MelpomeneTears Posts: 33 Member
    My father telling me "It's a good thing you're smart. You're not pretty enough to get a man to take care of you. Maybe if you weren't such a pig you could be pretty." Mind you, my father has always weighed more than me.
  • timberowl
    timberowl Posts: 331 Member
    One of my EX boyfriends, right before I broke up with him, said to me "you're not fat! you're just....just....overweight!"
  • One thing that sticks in my mind was my ex fiance saying to me after hanging the clothes on the line "you're getting bigger my love" and he'd basically indicate that he didn't want to get married until I got to my goal weight. All this while he drank mocha milk and ate pies.
    3 1/2 years later I have met an amazing man who loves me for me. I was explaining last night how I had joined up with this app and how it will hopefully motivate me so I can be fit and healthy. He didn't believe me when I said I had put on some weight (about 5kg) and said he didn't even notice and I'm just as beautiful as when he first met me.
  • About 6 years ago, I was dating a woman that was my coworker. We were on vacation walking on the beach and she stopped, looked at me and said "I just don't think I can deal with your weight issue". While she said this, she was poking me in the chest and stomach. That was about the lowest I have ever felt in my life!

    She would have been walking home from vacation!!! Bee-uch!
  • My soon to be ex wife said, and I quote, "Why would I want to have sex with you. I don't even want to look at you. You're a big fat pig." I played it off at the time, but I was devastated.

    This would really be the best motivation I know of to lose that weight and be sure she sees you with your buff new body!
    Nobody deserves that kind of comment. She has a much bigger problem than weight!!
  • Rosie_McA
    Rosie_McA Posts: 256 Member
    Earlier in the year I hit my MFP goals but then was quite ill for about 6 weeks where my weight fell below 54kg (119lbs and 5ft 8in). I was asked as to which concentration camp I had been released from. That affected me and after I recovered from the illness my weight ended up higher than when I started on MFP. Only now am I slowly getting back to my target weight range.
  • zezelryck
    zezelryck Posts: 251 Member
    I have never understood how people can be so rude and insensitive towards other fellow human beings. We have laws to prevent peoples prejudices based upon religious and ethnic grounds. Some will say not enough, maybe but that is a different debate. We have no laws banning "fatty" comments and we are almost told that we are fat it's our fault and we have to accept it and all the consequences of it. I was 329lb and extremely ill, no matter what people said to me I wouldn't listen to them although my body finally told me get sorted. I am now 168lb and still want to lose another 16-18lb in the next 6 months or so.

    A colleague used to call me "big fat al" that was when I probably weighed 200lb. In fairness to him I used to rib him with similar comments about his size as well this was more like mutual cajoling so no biggie to me personally.

    When I had lost 140lb, I shared my success on facebook in a slimming group I help admin. I had literally 2000 likes and hundreds of wonderful comments. The only one I can remember though was a lady who said "wow that's 10 stone how the hell did you get 10 stone overweight!"

    I have to say a child upset me the most although like most have said I kind of made light of it by pretending I didn't hear the comments, even though I really really couldn't help it as he was bawling it at the top of his voice in a crowed super market. I'm sure his father just felt like hiding behind the fruit and vegetables as I didn't hear his reply to the child who kept repeatedly asking "Daddy why is that man so fat"

    Anyone who watches or reads games of thrones should take notice of Tyrions advice to John Snow. This isn't meant to offend.

    “Let me give you some advice, *kitten*: Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.”
  • MissFlawed
    MissFlawed Posts: 89 Member
    My father when I saw him the past week.

    "Yeez, you are getting a tummy. Better lose it!"

    I'm 5f'3 and 119 pounds... Thanks dad.
  • I get it mostly from family both mine and his. It takes all I have not to hit below the belt. I literally have to bite my tongue..HARD.

    "Wow you're so pretty! You just have to lose weight", "You have gotten so big", "You're so "beautiful" in person than in your pictures" (Saying it with a condescending tone while staring at my abdomen)
  • acpgee
    acpgee Posts: 7,944 Member
    Walking past a street junkie in Amsterdam, she shouted "You need to do some amphetamines."
  • id90288
    id90288 Posts: 3 Member
    When I arrived at my mother in laws doorstep to stay for a couple of nights she opened the door to me and her first words to me were

    " Your even fatter than the last time you were 'ere"

    Happy days.....and I had't actually put any weight on which made it worse.
  • I finally found a man that I truly cared about and I believed he too cared. We got into an argument and I was venting to my best friend of 20 years plus a girl who I may have died for. She said "do you think that a man that fine would want you." I will never forget it. PS he and I had a girl.
  • Nobody ever said anything to me really when I was 240 pounds, I think that's because where I live it seems to be socially acceptable to be fat and unhealthy.

    Now that I've lost 70 pounds, I get things like

    - You're too skinny, you should eat more.
    - This is how people get eating disorders.
    - Are you sick?

    Nevermind that I'm in the best shape of my life and my doctor has given me a clean bill of health, armchair nutritionists and fitness experts know better of course!
  • I dont know if to call that exactly rude, but once when i was walking i was stopped, but i woman who gave me a lecture that i should wear such clothes ( i had leggings and skirt) and that even king Salomon's wives were wearing long skirts or smth, to hide their curvey and hairy legs. That has been definetly been wierdest comment.
  • captmel
    captmel Posts: 29 Member
    "You know you'd be beautiful if you weren't so fat"
  • Mnecka
    Mnecka Posts: 119 Member
    I was wearing all white and someone told me I looked like a gallon of milk. I simply responded well that just means I'm something you can't have, and walked away laughing. It's funny because he is lactose intolerance :laugh:
  • Katanthus
    Katanthus Posts: 346 Member
    I had some idiots yell at me "you're fat". My response was, "I 'm fat..... you are ugly. I can diet".
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    "You could be so pretty if you could just lose all that weight."
  • kristinhowell
    kristinhowell Posts: 139 Member
    I was eating at Pizza Hut once with a couple of friends (I use that term loosely), and I mentioned that my stomach was hurting, and one of the girls said "Mine would, too, if it looked like that."

    Also, my aunt told me I would be gorgeous if I'd lost another 20 pounds (and she added a few moment's pause after this statement that, oh, of course you're already beautiful, but it would only help).

    :noway:
  • Mnecka
    Mnecka Posts: 119 Member
    I had some idiots yell at me "you're fat". My response was, "I 'm fat..... you are ugly. I can diet".

    YES!!!!!
  • NinaChanges
    NinaChanges Posts: 15 Member
    My weight has always been 1st on the top10 of the discussion issues of the family and that started even before I was overweight, really!! So I have heard my fair share by my relatives..

    But the meanest comment I have ever heard, which, I fear, I will remember forever was:

    "Hey you! Move over so that we can take a look at the model!", because I was out with a thin friend.

    My feelings were deeply hurt..
    However I don't think it was meant as an insult to me but rather as a compliment to her.
  • murphy612
    murphy612 Posts: 734 Member
    Lately I have to say being called "skinny" dammit I am not skinny and don't want to be called it because its toatly against what I am aiming for. I am sure they mean it as a compliment but ... that means bones showing to me and that is gross. I am going for healthy and fit with some muscles.

    ***Its rude to blurt out anything related to physical attributes in my opinion. ****

    I don't go calling people sickly or fat or comment on their outfit choice for the day, etc. But hey people need mouth filters a lot.

    And yet you don't have a problem calling someone who's bones may protrude out more than others as gross.
  • spooks1960
    spooks1960 Posts: 19 Member
    I think the rudest comment I received was a group of teens talking amongst themselves and said loud enough for me to hear. There goes a Sherman tank. That hurt a bit
  • let1179
    let1179 Posts: 58 Member
    In elementary school a guy I thought was cute, said "you'd be a babe if you lost weight." I have heard that several other times as well. But I think the most hurtful for me is the action of looking past me, as though I am not a person because I am obese. Every time that happens I walk away in tears.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I finally found a man that I truly cared about and I believed he too cared. We got into an argument and I was venting to my best friend of 20 years plus a girl who I may have died for. She said "do you think that a man that fine would want you." I will never forget it. PS he and I had a girl.

    awww good for you...and your little girl is gorgeous, too.

    When I started dating my husband, a few people close to me made skeptical comments that made me sad in a similar way. "He's awfully thin for you" (He wasn't skinny - big tall, lean & fit man - but I outweighed him by a good 40 lb and they were used to seeing me with my very obese ex husband) or "He's pretty young..." insinuating he might not want to be with me.

    It's fun to show 'em all!!
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    "You know you'd be beautiful if you weren't so fat"

    It's sad to me that I had MANY people say things like that...or "You should lose 30/50 lb and you would be really pretty"...and to think I actually took it as a COMPLIMENT that they didn't say 100+ pounds.
  • DireWolfCurse
    DireWolfCurse Posts: 32 Member
    Person: Honey, are you expecting?
    Me: Nope.

    Person: Oh.... you look like you are.
  • Salvi30
    Salvi30 Posts: 196 Member
    My boss once called me porky. I told him that was not a nice thing to say.

    I have moved on from that comment but I will never forget it.
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