***UPDATE***My boyfriend doesn't like the new me HELP!!!

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  • egam
    egam Posts: 127
    on a more positive note, maybe he is under the misconception that you are doing it for him. Try letting him know that you are doing it for yourself and not because you feel like he doesn't like you or the way you look.

    Although I agree with the above posts as well, it sounds like he is dealing with some insecurities of his own.
  • kee9kee9
    kee9kee9 Posts: 23
    You have to do what makes you feel good. If that's losing weight and getting healthier, then go for it. He might stay or he might go, but either way you can hold your head up high and say you love yourself. You can't let him define who you are or what you do because if you do, in the end you will only be left with regrets. I'm speaking from past experiences.
  • sarakaufman
    sarakaufman Posts: 58 Member
    He doesn't want u to lose weight because he is insecure with himself and probably feels you will leave him when you lose the weight
    I agree with you. My ex was the same way I lost a bunch of weight after our child was born and he would bring jusnk food in the house and then try to get me to eat it and put me down if I didn't eat it.
  • hill2302
    hill2302 Posts: 139 Member
    He's ridiculous. Do what's best for you and will make YOU feel better about yourself. Don't ever define yourself or your self worth based what your boyfriend says or thinks. That's a road that will be ahrd to get off of once you're on it. You are beautiful the way you are and if you are happy with yourself, then it will be evident to others. If he doesn't want a happy you, then he doesn't deserve you.

    You live around the corner from me. Feel free to friend me if you want some local support.
  • ediegram
    ediegram Posts: 40
    I agree.. insecurity issues. My hubby is the same way. Not that he will leave me, but he encourages me to NOT diet or exercise. I do it for my health and for me.
  • newme11292010
    newme11292010 Posts: 6
    You are doing the right thing in taking care of yourself. Your long-term health is much more important. Many people, even sometimes "moms", think they are "helping" by telling you that you look good, or that you don't need to lose any weight (then they act offended if you don't eat their special "cake" they made for you) they are called a "saboteur" (someone who resists movement or change). They can't help themselves, but somehow, by not encouraging you, it keeps the focus on them?!! It is odd, but true.
    Do this for you - Keep after it!! If the saboteurs can't support you, then you have to avoid them until you are strong enough to confront them without needing to run to food due to the added stress!!
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