Do YOU ever "sabotage" your friends?

I would never sabotage someones efforts to live healthier or to lose weight because someone I thought was a friend did it to me and I gained A LOT of weight with her help.

I was overwhelmingly depressed and just in a really bad place and she would use that against me. At first i thought she was just trying to be comforting then I noticed that she'd get really really pushy about it and try to use guilt to get me to eat stuff she would buy just for me. My weight was the last thing on my mind at the time and when I moved out (we were roommates) and realized how much weight I had gained, I started eating normal and exercising again and lost 10 pounds before I next saw her.

I had suspected that she was trying to sabotage my weight before but brushed it off because I felt like I was just being paranoid.

As I came closer to my normal weight she would get meaner and pushier. I noticed that when I was eating clean and no longer craved sweets, carbs, and stopped drinking soda. She would offer those specific things to me and became increasingly agitated every time I said no thank you.

I don't know why she was so intimidated or insecure but I wish her the best. . .I'd chose 20-30lbs of weight gain over being a nasty vindictive person like her any day.

Yes and No...

Situation: My mum is very thin and going to be 60 this year, she doesn't go to the gym and her only exercise consists of walking the dogs a couple of times a day, she has always been very thin with her heaviest weight being 8st 7lbs...now in the past and if being totally honest, i am envious of that weight particularly when she suits "young fashion" better than someone who is 35 years younger than her! I try to get her to eat more, but moreso because I'm really worried about her health like the onset of osteoporosis or her having a fall and breaking a bone. She also doesn't have much muscle...so its more of a cruel to be kind thing...I really doubt she gets more than 1500 kcal a day...

If she's 60 years old and slightly built, she doesn't NEED more than 1500 calories a day.

Interesting thread. I would never intentionally sabotage anyone. I probably have encouraged someone to "relax about calories" just because I was young and ignorant. I truly didn't understand how hard it can be, when you're addicted to dope in the form of food. I apologize to my friends for this.

I believe the only person I should compare with is myself. Comparison is a zero-sum game. Someone is bound to come off worse or better in any relative comparison. If the other is better off, it stimulates envy. If you are better off, it might lead to hubris. So the real question, should maybe be: "Am I a better or worse version of the person I want to be? And what can I do to change that status?"

I don't need sabotaging friends. I have someone right under my skin. I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to sabotage. I will make up excuses or rationalize why I can continue with bad habits. Choose any of fitting excuses below:
a) I'm tired, I deserve something to cheer me up
b) I exercised so much, now I can gorge a bit, "eat back" kcal
c) I'm so happy, I deserve a treat
d) I'm so sad, I need a treat.
e) I don't have time to prepare a real meal, I'll have this fast food instead.

When I think about it, I have quite a distorted perception of my own body. I grew up with a mom who had weight issues herself. She would always nag about my weight if I had gained a couple of kilos. But literally she will offer cakes, ice-cream etc an hour later...To give you guys an example, this is a convo between me and her a couple of years ago:

Mom: Your sister has put on sooo much weight. Puffy and doughy all over, she is now like a little whale!
Me: Ok...but how much does she weigh?
Mom: I don't know, maybe about 58 kg?
Me: Thx, mom. So if you think she is grossly overweight at 58, what would I be then at 63?
...Silence...

The interesting thing is, that I really think she doesn't understand what she is doing and what impact it has. I do not believe in blaming people for your actions in the present. But I do know that I have to limit spending time with my mom when she is like this.

My boss/best friend keeps leaving me "treats," just to be a jerk. haha

My boss throws candy at me. Like, literally throws it. I'll be working away and get hit in the back of the head with a candy bar hurled from across the room.

Yes..and no. Yes I suppose I do with ONE friend, but I believe I have a good reason. She's, in a nutshell, very obsessive about her weight. She's not ill but if it wasn't for my "support"/"sabotage" she'd be under 100 pounds and probably end up quite ill.

PS I don't generally do it to others at all because I HATE it when my friend does it to me.

Yes..and no. Yes I suppose I do with ONE friend, but I believe I have a good reason. She's, in a nutshell, very obsessive about her weight. She's not ill but if it wasn't for my "support"/"sabotage" she'd be under 100 pounds and probably end up quite ill.

PS I don't generally do it to others at all because I HATE it when my friend does it to me.

I was about to type something very similar. I have a friend who doesn't look after herself properly and our group of close friends believe she may be undereating and exercising excessively to lose weight that she REALLY doesn't need to lose, so we invite her over and cook plenty of food and have cakes etc.
Sabotage... yes, you could call it that, but it's because we care and want her to stay healthy.
We all cook from scratch on these occasions, so we're not offering junk food, it's all reasonably healthy, well balanced meals (apart from the cakes!!) it's just that there are far more calories on offer than she would eat if left to feed herself!