It's not fair
Tippy05
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My husband has been on a health "kick" recently. He's the kind of guy who can eat anything and not gain weight. A few months ago he started P90X on a whim and lost about 20 lbs. About a week or two weeks ago he decided to follow the food plan that goes with it... he's lost 11 pounds! WTF?!?!? I'm sure some of that is water weight, I know, but still... really?!?
I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?
UGH!!!
I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?
UGH!!!
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Men burn more calories, so we can create larger deficits. Also, a lot of that weight was water so it's not uncommon. The bigger questions is, what are your stats and his stats. Big = faster loss rate.
But if you are struggling to lose weight, it's either a logging issue (consistenc/accuracy) or a hormonal/medical issue.0 -
Its pretty useless to compare yourself/progress to someone else.
The question you should be asking is what are you doing right, what are you doing wrong, and how can you improve and reach your goals.
Would you like help answering any of those questions?0 -
Its pretty useless to compare yourself/progress to someone else.
The question you should be asking is what are you doing right, what are you doing wrong, and how can you improve and reach your goals.
Would you like help answering any of those questions?
TRUTH!0 -
My husband has been on a health "kick" recently. He's the kind of guy who can eat anything and not gain weight. A few months ago he started P90X on a whim and lost about 20 lbs. About a week or two weeks ago he decided to follow the food plan that goes with it... he's lost 11 pounds! WTF?!?!? I'm sure some of that is water weight, I know, but still... really?!?
I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?
UGH!!!
He committed and put in the work0 -
But if you are struggling to lose weight, it's either a logging issue (consistenc/accuracy) or a hormonal/medical issue.
Yep. If you can't lose 11 pounds in two years. something is wrong somewhere -- user error or medical issue.0 -
Hormones.
Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).0 -
Because men are annoying.
Seriously though they tend to have a higher % of muscle in their bodies and muscle burns more calories. If you were the same height/weight/age and did the same exact daily activities - your husband would burn more calories. BUT they also tend to be taller, heavier so that means more still.
I have to work to burn 2000 calories in day. (TDEE) But I've found my rhythm. And by tracking what I eat ( weighing all solid food, honest logging of everything) and making an effort to move more - I have lost weight. I do what I have to do, and its ok that its 'easier' for him. Because we all have our strengths and weaknesses. My strength now is consistency, and he is still working on that. He lost 30 beginning of this year, put 20 back on. Is still trying to get restarted.
Look for ways to motivate each other, and to support each other. If you're in it 'together' it can be easier. Set goals, make them known, hold yourself accountable.0 -
2 years to lose 11lb?0
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11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.0
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11 pounds in 2 years... I'd start doing what he's doing rather than looking to commiserate with others here because "us guys have it so much easier."0
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:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.Hormones.
Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).0 -
:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.Hormones.
Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).
I'm not saying that we are designed to be obese. Just explaining why a woman's body doesn't lose fat as fast as a man's.0 -
11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.
Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.0 -
Ok I guess if a man and a woman both had 20% bf the man would have more inessential fat than a woman, so have an easer time getting rid of it.
:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.Hormones.
Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).
I'm not saying that we are designed to be obese. Just explaining why a woman's body doesn't lose fat as fast as a man's.
But if you compare a man at 13% and a woman at 20% they would have to put in about the same effort to lose 1% because they both have close to the same inessential bf to lose.0 -
OP, you need to get serious. He worked harder and ate at a larger deficit. It's that simple. Take the energy that you would otherwise be using complaining and apply that to your goals.
I lose faster than my husband, so it's not a woman thing. He works a desk job and I ride a bike all the time. It's simple thermodynamics.0 -
OP, you need to get serious. He worked harder and ate at a larger deficit. It's that simple. Take the energy that you would otherwise be using complaining and apply that to your goals.
I lose faster than my husband, so it's not a woman thing. He works a desk job and I ride a bike all the time. It's simple thermodynamics.
That's bro-science!0 -
Did you do P90x and the meal plan with him?
Then you really can't claim its so hard for you and so easy for him. Take responsibility for what you are or are not doing to lose weight, instead of saying someone doing an exercise program and eating a meal plan that cuts calories has it "easy".0 -
Ugh, I hear ya! It seems that men seem to lose weight quicker than women for some reason. But I found that the worst thing you can do is compare yourself to anyone when on a weight loss journey!0
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OP- - -your husband may have greater success since he isn't whining on social media sites. He just worked out.0
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My husband has been on a health "kick" recently. He's the kind of guy who can eat anything and not gain weight. A few months ago he started P90X on a whim and lost about 20 lbs. About a week or two weeks ago he decided to follow the food plan that goes with it... he's lost 11 pounds! WTF?!?!? I'm sure some of that is water weight, I know, but still... really?!?
I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?
UGH!!!
Were you doing P90X right along side him and following the food plan? If not, why not?0 -
I'm sure you've noticed that he can eat much more without gaining weight as well. It's just the way it is.
In general, men lose weight a bit easier (more LBM, higher metabolisms etc. etc. etc.). And then, of course, every individual is different. And women are more likely to have more of a hormonal component to (lack of) weight loss.
That said, have you tried doing the same exercise plan and strictly following that meal plan? You may be someone who would benefit from a more formal, more strict eating plan.
In my own life experience, I've often found that married women can benefit from a formal, laid out, eating plan, because it IS all to easy to just eat as our spouses do.
Regardless, best of luck, and try not to fret over his (relatively easy) weight loss.
PS: sorry for all the adolescent comments you're getting.0 -
Ok I guess if a man and a woman both had 20% bf the man would have more inessential fat than a woman, so have an easer time getting rid of it.
:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.Hormones.
Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).
I'm not saying that we are designed to be obese. Just explaining why a woman's body doesn't lose fat as fast as a man's.
But if you compare a man at 13% and a woman at 20% they would have to put in about the same effort to lose 1% because they both have close to the same inessential bf to lose.
You're assuming that her husband's body fat was lower than hers when he started. It could have been the same as hers or higher even.0 -
:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.Hormones.
Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).
I'm not saying that we are designed to be obese. Just explaining why a woman's body doesn't lose fat as fast as a man's.
IDK, my husband is trying to lose weight, too. I've lost 21 lbs in 5-1/2 months (only ~2 or 3 pounds of that is muscle). My husband--like 5 lbs (and still a ways to go) in the same time frame. Riddle me that--no I'll do it--he's not trying hard enough. Simple as that. He'll lose it when he's ready to commit. Weight loss success or failure is not gender defined.0 -
I'm guessing your 11 lbs. are 'the last 11' and his are the first of many more he can stand to lose? If so, 8 or more of his 11 could easily be water. So he lost a few lbs. of fat in two weeks. You can, too!My husband has been on a health "kick" recently. He's the kind of guy who can eat anything and not gain weight. A few months ago he started P90X on a whim and lost about 20 lbs. About a week or two weeks ago he decided to follow the food plan that goes with it... he's lost 11 pounds! WTF?!?!? I'm sure some of that is water weight, I know, but still... really?!?
I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?
UGH!!!0 -
11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.
Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.
Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?
Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.0 -
You know because P90X is sooooo easy and the meal plan is soooooo easy to stick to that he's just not even trying! :grumble:
He's working his butt off. P90X is hard (for most people). The meal plan isn't one I would do because it's so restrictive, but again its hard. It takes commitment and dedication.
That's why he's losing weight. Not because its sooooooo easy for him.0 -
My husband has been on a health "kick" recently. He's the kind of guy who can eat anything and not gain weight. A few months ago he started P90X on a whim and lost about 20 lbs. About a week or two weeks ago he decided to follow the food plan that goes with it... he's lost 11 pounds! WTF?!?!? I'm sure some of that is water weight, I know, but still... really?!?
I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?
UGH!!!
He was dedicated and put in the work required to get results. Were you doing it with him? If not, why?
11 lbs in two years tells me either you just aren't trying or you need to be seen by your physician.
Instead of whining about life not being fair and his results put that energy into making the changes.0 -
11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.
Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.
Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?
Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.
Seriously.
Refer this this article: http://www.acaloriecounter.com/blog/why-am-i-not-losing-weight/
Notice where "medical issues" are. Number 11 of 11. That's because you need to rule out the first 10 before you can jump to 11.0 -
Men tend to have a slightly easier time losing than women. However, if you only lost 11 lbs in 2 years, and you didn't join in on your husband's exercise/dieting routine, then that would probably explain why he's losing and you're not.0
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11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.
Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.
Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?
Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.
Seriously.
Refer this this article: http://www.acaloriecounter.com/blog/why-am-i-not-losing-weight/
Notice where "medical issues" are. Number 11 of 11. That's because you need to rule out the first 10 before you can jump to 11.
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