It's not fair

My husband is the same way. All he has to do is think about losing weight and he loses it.

I don't understand how he can "eat anything" and not "gain weight" and still have 31 lbs to lose? hmmmm

Hormones.

Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).

:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.

I'm not saying that we are designed to be obese. Just explaining why a woman's body doesn't lose fat as fast as a man's.

Ok I guess if a man and a woman both had 20% bf the man would have more inessential fat than a woman, so have an easer time getting rid of it.

But if you compare a man at 13% and a woman at 20% they would have to put in about the same effort to lose 1% because they both have close to the same inessential bf to lose.

You're assuming that her husband's body fat was lower than hers when he started. It could have been the same as hers or higher even.

If it was the same or higher than hers it would be that much easer to shed lbs. We all know the more you have to lose the faster you can drop it!

11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.

Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.

Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?


Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.

Anecdotes are never fair, but... I have a medical issue (often not treated properly due to fluctuating levels/dosage changes), and even I've lost more than that on average. "Not fair" is how I view my body versus others most of the time, but that's after I've been rigorous to the point of carrying a pocket scale around for food :laugh:

My hubby is over 6 inches taller than me so he gets way more calories. I have to be careful that I am not comparing my eating to his. If we split something in half, I could get too many calories for weight loss and he could still be at a deficit.

Because men are annoying.

HA! Thanks for the laugh But in response to this thread, all I can say is that hubby is the same way. It's no different than seeing those model-thin girls that can eat whatever they want and not gain weight. You have to find a way to accept that there is a genetic difference between you and hubby. Let the fact that you have NO control over this enable you to let it go (God grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change). Instead, pay attention to your own diet and exercise and find happiness in the strides you personally make instead of berating yourself over the progress of others. It's tough, I know. When I joined MFP there was a girl I became friends with and she stuck with the program and has lost like 115 pounds whereas I have fallen off the bandwagon and actually GAINED weight. It's hard not to compare myself to her and do the "wouldda couldda shouldda" but that kind of thinking will derail me once again. I'm just trying to compete with myself now- pitting the "fat me" against the "me I wanna be".

"It's not fair" is generally the battle cry of the easily defeated. Time to put on your grown up pants and start taking responsibility for your own weight loss or lack of...as your husbands success over the brief period you compared your efforts to have no impact on the results you have had over the last two years.

The mature thing to do would be to see his success as an inspiration.

Because men are annoying.

HA! Thanks for the laugh But in response to this thread, all I can say is that hubby is the same way. It's no different than seeing those model-thin girls that can eat whatever they want and not gain weight. You have to find a way to accept that there is a genetic difference between you and hubby. Let the fact that you have NO control over this enable you to let it go (God grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change). Instead, pay attention to your own diet and exercise and find happiness in the strides you personally make instead of berating yourself over the progress of others. It's tough, I know. When I joined MFP there was a girl I became friends with and she stuck with the program and has lost like 115 pounds whereas I have fallen off the bandwagon and actually GAINED weight. It's hard not to compare myself to her and do the "wouldda couldda shouldda" but that kind of thinking will derail me once again. I'm just trying to compete with myself now- pitting the "fat me" against the "me I wanna be".

They cannot eat whatever they want and just gain weight. That's a total myth.

It is unfair. It sucks. It is really, really, ridiculously annoying.

It's not any of those things. He was doing P90x and following the meal plan. If he didn't lose weight, THAT would be unfair.

I've consistently lost 10 lbs a month for the last 4 months. That's with regular logging and moderate exercise.

If I hopped over to p90x, I bet I could get that as high as 15 a month.

It's all about the work you're willing to put in.

The only reason you haven't been able to lose 11 lbs in a year is because you haven't done the work.