MFP has really changed

1) There seems to be a decent, and very unscientifically founded :laugh:, correlation between responses to "mean people" threads and start dates. There are definitely some outliers, but this is just observation.

2) This cat is my spirit animal and needs to be in this thread again.


Edited to fix an egregious grammatical error I saw! :embarassed:

You know the rule (for talking juvenile rabbits):

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all...

...you stupid worthless poopy-headed meany.



(Okay, fine...I made that last part up...but it's based on actual MFP posts.)

I wish you would have said something sooner, I had pizza and would have shared said pie.

I started on this site for the first time about three years ago. At that time it was a wonderful place to get motivation and support. I found a lot of nice and helpful people. This site is suppose to be about supporting each other, but more and more I see people being less supportive and just down right mean. Some users seem to have an attitude that they are better because they have been a successful where another user wasn't as successful or is taking just a little more time.
I have read multiple post today where a person asked a simple question and they were ridiculed for it. One poor girl simply asked what was the difference between light cleaning and heavy cleaning. That's all she wanted to know, but there were post after post about how she shouldn't log cleaning. It's not anyone's right to tell another person what they should and shouldn't log. If I decided to log "walking to my fridge to get a snack" it's no one's business but my own.
I think some users are forgetting the reasons for a site like this. I also want to make it clear that I'm saying "some users", because there are still a lot of genuinely nice people on here.
We all need to be kind to one another. Most of us have all been in the same situation and for the few of you that have always been fit and use the site to keep track of your fitness then you need to understand that it doesn't come as easy to some as it does to you. For the ones that have been overweight and out of shape remember where you have come from and how you felt in the beginning.
It shouldn't matter if you are morbidly obese, too thin, or have never had an issue. We are all here for the same reason and that's to be the best us we can be. So, as I said before be kind to one another or you're disrespecting the site, the members, and yourself. It's fantastic to look good but real beauty still comes from within.

So you've been here 3 years but made a new account just to complain about this? Awesome! Great job! You can do it!!

Is that motivating enough for you?

Honestly, the main reason people comment on things like logging cleaning is because of the people who say, I'm eating under my cals and not losing weight, etc. Eating back vastly inaccurate calorie numbers for dusting a mantle can stall weight loss, as can inaccurate logging. Would pointing out using measuring cups and a food scale for someone who eyeballs everything be criticism too?

Correcting inaccurate information is not criticism, and taking it as such is a mistake. In the immortal words of Sgt Hulko: "Lighten up Francis."

I know you can't judge tone and intentions very well through text, but sometimes I get this kind of vibe from certain posts...

and others are like this

Or even

Sometimes, though, they make me do this

Anyone bring a mop for all the salty tears in this thread?

Pro tip OP (I know you're still watching, you aren't fooling anyone.) and OP's little supporters:

No one here exists to validate you. No one here exists to tell you what nonsense you want to hear.

If you're posting about diet pills, MLM crap, cleanses/detoxes and all other assorted wastes of time and money:

You WILL be told in no uncertain terms that you're wasting time and money.

You are not owed an apology, soft and fluffy words or "respect for your opinion" in that scenario.

Posting about that crap can be a detriment to lurkers who are desperate to make a quick fix change.

If you want to engage in that bunk, that's YOUR problem and yours alone.

If you want to waste time and delude yourself into thinking that "heavy cleaning" is legitimate exercise, that's your business.

Know that if you ask someone for an opinion, you will receive it. And chances are, it might be contrary to what your fragile ego needs to hear.

That's no one's problem but yours.

Part of being an adult is accepting that not everyone agrees with you, not everyone needs to agree with you and that you aren't entitled to respect for an opinion based on pseudoscience. Anecdotal evidence is all fine and well, but largely irrelevant.

If you don't want to act like an adult, don't. That's your choice.

But don't stamp your feet and cry when other people do.


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