Just need to vent

Also, I should add that if you don't like weighing your food, you might want to try Weight Watchers Simple Start program. They basically give you a list of foods you can eat in any quantity and still meet your weight loss goals for the week. If you don't want to pay for weight watchers, you may want to try the following website: http://nutritiondata.self.com/foods-000997000000000000000.html
It gives you a LONG list of foods that are good to facilitate weight loss.

I meant continue exercising and eating right. Not that I didn't want to continue with life.

Good, but my point is that you started this thread by trashing yourself for being "fat and yucky" and then defended yourself as being healthy. A lot of people in this thread have said something along the lines of - "it sounds like you're not ready." I think they are right.

My (ultimately irrelevant) opinion is that you do not really know what you want. Either you are content with your lifestyle and consider yourself healthy, which means you really have nothing to "vent" about. Or you are unhappy with your lifestyle and recognize that you need to make some changes. In which case, getting huffy about suggestions on how to accomplish those changes isn't helping you at all.

I honestly wish you the best OP :flowerforyou:

On your profile you stated you're a teacher.

If a student came up to you and said "I'll never use English or Science in the real world, so why even bother learning it? I quit."

What would you do in that situation? Let them fail? Encourage them to quit? You already have the answer to your problem.

Adding also that about 65% of the US populations refuses to count calories or at least be aware of how much they are consuming. And we are seeing the end result of that. And the age of the person with weight issues is getting lower and lower.

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On your profile you stated you're a teacher.

If a student came up to you and said "I'll never use English or Science in the real world, so why even bother learning it? I quit."

What would you do in that situation? Let them fail? Encourage them to quit? You already have the answer to your problem.

Adding also that about 65% of the US populations refuses to count calories or at least be aware of how much they are consuming. And we are seeing the end result of that. And the age of the person with weight issues is getting lower and lower.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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And you seem like a nice person. I don't want to count calories because there is so much more to being healthy than how many calories you eat. Haven't you learned- if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. Guess I will stay away from forums to avoid tools like you.

Wow. Stay classy OP name calling people who are actually trying to help you? Really? No one has said anything mean to you. No one has said anything mean at all.

ETA: If you didn't want constructive responses from people trying to help you then maybe next time make this a blog post.

I guess I have a different idea of what nice and mean are. I think that some of the comments were unhelpful and unnecessary, and just mean. Some people just said it how it was, that is not who I was addressing that to. I was trying to direct that to a particular post, but didn't do the quote thing right.
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Can you help us understand better by telling us which comments you felt were mean?

I felt there was a lot of negativity coming from a few posters. Most people had something to say about counting calories, and maybe even said it harshly, that is not who I was referring to. I was more bothered by the people who didn't add anything to the conversation but a sarcastic comment (because that is to helpful <<sarcasm). I also don't appreciate basically being told that I am only thinking about myself, and not my son. I said I was eating healthy foods and exercising, but a few people got on my case about not trying. To say something that basically implies that I shouldn't have kids because I am overweight is extremely rude and distasteful.

Ok. Well I commented on the kid thing, so I get you there.

In terms of calorie counting, again, it's what we do here. It helps us define our deficit. I can eat over my maintenance in good healthy food and gain weight because it's only the calories that matter (for weight loss). That's all people are trying to say, even if the delivery is blunt.

It does take work to count calories. I would encourage you to try - you have had success in the past. But, if you don't want to, that is your choice. Running is a great thing. You should continue that. Just remember that you can't out exercise a surplus diet (believe me, I've tried :laugh: )

I meant continue exercising and eating right. Not that I didn't want to continue with life.

Good, but my point is that you started this thread by trashing yourself for being "fat and yucky" and then defended yourself as being healthy. A lot of people in this thread have said something along the lines of - "it sounds like you're not ready." I think they are right.

My (ultimately irrelevant) opinion is that you do not really know what you want. Either you are content with your lifestyle and consider yourself healthy, which means you really have nothing to "vent" about. Or you are unhappy with your lifestyle and recognize that you need to make some changes. In which case, getting huffy about suggestions on how to accomplish those changes isn't helping you at all.

I honestly wish you the best OP :flowerforyou:

I see what you are saying. When I said I felt "fat and yucky," I meant that my clothes feel tight and stuff like that. Overall, my actual health is good. Being fairly healthy and feeling it are not the same thing though.

Denial is a funny thing. We see it in others, but rarely see it in ourselves except in hindsight

but your children should matter.............you need to be there to have concern for his welfare and upbringing........what about cancer, what about diabetes, high blood pressure, heart attack, stroke...........there was one girl who is overweight who just this last weekend had a stroke at our office..........she was massive, and her husband is now stating that he would get after her about her life style

think about your children......they need you to be healthy and there for them in life...........if I had kids, I would think about their welfare FIRST.......NOT MINE

its harsh, but obesity leads to mortality..............ask a Dr and they will let you know when you go for a Dr appt.....

best wishes on your journey

I meant continue exercising and eating right. Not that I didn't want to continue with life.

Good, but my point is that you started this thread by trashing yourself for being "fat and yucky" and then defended yourself as being healthy. A lot of people in this thread have said something along the lines of - "it sounds like you're not ready." I think they are right.

My (ultimately irrelevant) opinion is that you do not really know what you want. Either you are content with your lifestyle and consider yourself healthy, which means you really have nothing to "vent" about. Or you are unhappy with your lifestyle and recognize that you need to make some changes. In which case, getting huffy about suggestions on how to accomplish those changes isn't helping you at all.

I honestly wish you the best OP :flowerforyou:

I see what you are saying. When I said I felt "fat and yucky," I meant that my clothes feel tight and stuff like that. Overall, my actual health is good. Being fairly healthy and feeling it are not the same thing though.

Personally, I think there's a lot of "in between" from being content with your lifestyle and considering yourself healthy or being unhappy and wanting to make changes. I've been there the whole time - in a state of "I don't really care but I suppose I try it".

OP, I hope you feel better soon! Just realize - even if you're not losing weight but are eating healthy foods, you're still better off than someone who is maintaining eating crappy foods (especially since you're concerned about the additives in low fat things). At least you are more likely giving your body more or more variety of good nutrients. You can choose when you want to lose weight or not. But don't give up your efforts, even if you're just maintaining. A stronger heart and lungs and not having scurvy (haha not that you had it before, just using it as an example) are still a great reasons to eat healthily.

While you absolutely are making sacrifices and putting effort in the truth is that you MUST discipline yourself harder to reach a higher goal. Hats off to you for the running because all hard work gains a profit, its just unseen at this point. Don't focus on the pounds, focus on your ideal body and wellness but then fuel your vision with steps of action! Action is the greatest motivator. Test and tweak until you succeed.

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Technically, if you're overweight while pregnant, it is not necessary to gain any weight at all.

This can be true. Lucky for me, I gained the amount suggested for my weight. I didn't gain a ton like some people who gain 70 pounds while pregnant. I was actually pretty proud of that fact that I only gained what was considered an acceptable amount.

*raises hand* I gained a ton during my last pregnancy. I also had severe edema, joint issues, and vertigo which landed me on modified bed rest and screwed my TDEE all to h-e-double hockey sticks, but it meant giving birth to a living, healthy baby. But congrats to you for only gaining an "acceptable" amount. Maybe you can have someone make you a sash and crown so everyone can know that you're better than all those other pregnant women out there whose individual situations you don't know.

Now, onto your issue in the OP - I was where you are a year ago. I still had pregnancy weight. I thought I was eating better - cooking more meals at home, and that if I just exercised a bit and cut back on snacks, the weight would come off. Guess what - I was wrong. I exercised, and the weight stayed the same. For seven weeks, the scale didn't move, despite exercising 6 days a week. It wasn't until I got my act together and started weighing and measuring my food that I started to lose. The food I was eating was fine, but the portions were way off. I was also eating more because of the exercise, but not being mindful of how much more.

If you're not ready to put in the work, that's fine. I joined here in April 2013, quit after a few weeks, then came back Oct 2013 and stuck it out. If you want to lose, then use the tools available to you to figure out what's preventing you from losing now, and make changes. If you can't identify the problem, you can't fix it.

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Sorry OP, I should not have let myself be baited like that. My apology. I hope you find the right path for you.

No one baited you. This is what you do in any thread you enter.

OP...I posted a link earlier, there's a lot of good info there. They might even help you find the motivation. Some people also read a lot of the success stories and that motivates them.

Because there have been a lot of posts I'll post that link again

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1455850-new-here-have-questions-this-may-help

Totally missed that before. I will check it out.

One thing I noticed is that people latched on to my negative comment, but no one replied when I said I had lost 90+ lbs with WW 13 years ago or so. I gained that back plus some extra weight. I have the mind set of, "it doesn't matter anyway, because I will only gain it back." I was what one would call thin for about 2 years. Then I was slightly overweight for a few years. Then I was fat again. I have a hard time believing that I can actually be successful at it. If I couldn't keep off even part of the 90+ pounds I lost, I won't be able to keep anything off. I maintained for a few years, than it all fell apart. (After I lived in Scotland for a month and ate whatever I wanted because I walked all the time and figured it didn't matter anymore). That is were I am with weight loss I guess.

This is a very common tale. Most people who lose weight don't keep it off long term. That's a fact. Most of the people on this site who have lost or are losing will not keep it off long term.

Those are dire facts, but it shouldn't keep us from trying. Because what is the alternative? Give up? What good will that do?

but your children should matter.............you need to be there to have concern for his welfare and upbringing........what about cancer, what about diabetes, high blood pressure, heart attack, stroke...........there was one girl who is overweight who just this last weekend had a stroke at our office..........she was massive, and her husband is now stating that he would get after her about her life style

think about your children......they need you to be healthy and there for them in life...........if I had kids, I would think about their welfare FIRST.......NOT MINE

its harsh, but obesity leads to mortality..............ask a Dr and they will let you know when you go for a Dr appt.....

best wishes on your journey

Ok, Now I am officially offended by you. (and very angry-just saying that now since I am about to say some mean stuff).

Did you actually read what I read? I eat healthy and exercise, but am not losing weight. I'm not gaining weight either. To basically say that I do not care about my son is a load of crap. SERIOUSLY, who do you think you are??? Where the hell did I say that I don't care about his welfare. To get on here and accuse me of not caring about my son because I'm fat is completely distasteful.

You said, "but your children should matter"...UMMM, WHERE DID I SAY THAT MY CHILD DOESN'T MATTER. AT WHAT POINT DID I WRITE ANYTHING REMOTELY LIKE THAT????!!??" What kind of person jumps to the conclusion that someone's children do not matter because they are overweight. Especially if they are eating right and exercising. ALSO, I'M STILL TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHERE I SAID MY CHILD DIDN'T MATTER.

Sorry for the yelling, but I can't believe that someone would actually say something like that. I half think it is a troll trying to get me going, because what kind of human being would make judgement and comments like that. Completely irrational comments. I hate to say it, but I can totally tell that this poster doesn't have children.

Ah yes, all caps meanie rant. Good stuff

but your children should matter.............you need to be there to have concern for his welfare and upbringing........what about cancer, what about diabetes, high blood pressure, heart attack, stroke...........there was one girl who is overweight who just this last weekend had a stroke at our office..........she was massive, and her husband is now stating that he would get after her about her life style

think about your children......they need you to be healthy and there for them in life...........if I had kids, I would think about their welfare FIRST.......NOT MINE

its harsh, but obesity leads to mortality..............ask a Dr and they will let you know when you go for a Dr appt.....

best wishes on your journey

Ok, Now I am officially offended by you. (and very angry-just saying that now since I am about to say some mean stuff).

Did you actually read what I read? I eat healthy and exercise, but am not losing weight. I'm not gaining weight either. To basically say that I do not care about my son is a load of crap. SERIOUSLY, who do you think you are??? Where the hell did I say that I don't care about his welfare. To get on here and accuse me of not caring about my son because I'm fat is completely distasteful.

You said, "but your children should matter"...UMMM, WHERE DID I SAY THAT MY CHILD DOESN'T MATTER. AT WHAT POINT DID I WRITE ANYTHING REMOTELY LIKE THAT????!!??" What kind of person jumps to the conclusion that someone's children do not matter because they are overweight. Especially if they are eating right and exercising. ALSO, I'M STILL TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHERE I SAID MY CHILD DIDN'T MATTER.

Sorry for the yelling, but I can't believe that someone would actually say something like that. I half think it is a troll trying to get me going, because what kind of human being would make judgement and comments like that. Completely irrational comments. I hate to say it, but I can totally tell that this poster doesn't have children.

Ah yes, all caps meanie rant. Good stuff

In all fairness, OP already mentioned twice that she didn't want her kids brought into the discussion and he posted again anyway.

OP - you would be better off to just ignore that guy if it's upsetting you so much.

but your children should matter.............you need to be there to have concern for his welfare and upbringing........what about cancer, what about diabetes, high blood pressure, heart attack, stroke...........there was one girl who is overweight who just this last weekend had a stroke at our office..........she was massive, and her husband is now stating that he would get after her about her life style

think about your children......they need you to be healthy and there for them in life...........if I had kids, I would think about their welfare FIRST.......NOT MINE

its harsh, but obesity leads to mortality..............ask a Dr and they will let you know when you go for a Dr appt.....

best wishes on your journey

Pro tip: living leads to mortality.